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How long have you been married? I cant beleive you have been putting up with this kind of dictatorship. It just not right and certainly not a healthy relationship.

You need to have a talk to him and make him understand that he cant treat you like this. A marriage should be a relationship of mutual trust and love and understanding.

Also do you have children? If not I would refrain from having them until your relationship is better and if thats not possible then I wouldnt rule out divorce as a last resort.
Nobody deserves to be treated like that.

I hope you sort this out and he changes for the better inshallah.
 
just tell him the way u feel, and tell him to relax..! if he cant trust u y doesnt he get counciling, hes obviously very insecure and being a man that gets the best of him. Show him that u can be trusted and dont let him down but dont let him rule over u at the same time, good look x
 
he never hit me and he does trust me but it a matter of jealousy. He is so jealous and as well as the place that he comes from they all overprotective for their wives. I tried talking to him several times but no answer sometimes he listen and he give me some space because i never hide anything from him but sometimes he goes back to the way he's acting
 
halloula said:
he never hit me and he does trust me but it a matter of jealousy. He is so jealous and as well as the place that he comes from they all overprotective for their wives. I tried talking to him several times but no answer sometimes he listen and he give me some space because i never hide anything from him but sometimes he goes back to the way he's acting
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Maybe if he got to know some of your friends and their husbands he could let go a bit and realise that you can go out with their wives etc?
 
we do have some couple friend that i visit and they come over but the thing is he does let me out but with boundaries all the time you have to come at this time and this and if i'm late then he's upset winging and sometimes doesnt talk to me for a while
 
Im probably so late posting this but I am not used to using forums..
Anyway like some people said talk to him, is he from this country? some times being from different countries makes communication harder. We all have different values and understandings. He is most probably over protective and its his way of showing his love. Make sure he listens to u be in control i know it sounds mad especially coming from an unmarried girl..inshallah it works out for u
 
Sound to me like abuse and control pure and simple. If he is hitting you, than you have an obligation to yourself and any children to get away from him. While one should be obeidant to ones husbands in most matters and defer to his leadership, that does not mean that you have to be treated like a child. It sounds to me like he has trust issues and those who are suspicious are suspect themselves.
 
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i said that my husband never hitted me or abused me mentally or verbally it is just question of jealousy and overprotection that i wasnt used to it andd i just wanted some idea to help me sort out this problem with him i do love my husband and loves the way he act with me he is very respectful except he got a problem with me going out and he got boundaries for that i hope that everyone understand that i just need help how to explain to him that jealousy cannot be ttreated that way and he doesnt have tp be overprotective because i'm safe enough
 

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