All this intermingling

[minaz]

It's been interesting reading all these views on opposite genders as this is one thing most non-muslims seem not to understand - not that I can't blame them

 

[ChasingRainbows]

Good advice desterroze !
And to Hijabi sista it really goes without saying 'trust in allah' which of course is THEE essential MUST have ingrediant for any situation.

I look at it like this if I see a handsome brother I look the other way as I find him attractive and I would HATE to think Im looking at him with my tongue hanging out ewwww ! Its nasty when we see brothers gawping at us, salvating at the mouth and I dont wanna look like that.

But however if I dont have any strong attraction to a brother, I can easily ask him the time, directions, hold a conversation , be polite and kind at all times. there si no need to act like an ignorant and try to intimidate him and make him feel like he is nothing, this is cruel method, I do not like the harshness in it.

If you need to put a brother off from trying to chat to you just say salam alykum, smile and walk off and dont answer his calls, no need to be mean to brothers, and if a brother acted mean with me I will surely think what an homer (donkey)

Reminds me actually lastnight as I was waiting to go inside masjid for Taraweeh , I found myself standing alone with a brother and his kid, it was like he was terrified all of a sudden, I think he was thinking ohhhh hope no one comes along and see's me and this sister standing togeather ,sheltering from the rain waiting for taraweeh.

Someone of course will correct me but is not asked of us to say Salam Alykum when you see another muslim ?
Do we live in societys where we are all to scared of causing fitnah that we cannot even say salam alykum to each other ?

Well thats how I would deal with those situtations, they might not workfor everyone but they sure work for me.

I guess things start to become problematic when people start thinking, acting, talking liberally and start to agree with each other. you can count me out of this 'good advice, well said, I agree wid you fest'. really!

 

[minaz]

Someone of course will correct me but is not asked of us to say Salam Alykum when you see another muslim ?

Yeh I say salaams to brothers 95% of the time, whenever wherever, and I began saying it to sisters an all few months back- no idea if this is allowed. However, I feel it's a good thing, as in this period of humanity our sisters are most vunrable to hostility, so saying salaam to them (granted I don't have a long beard nor waer the traditional look - unless topshop counts ) I reckon brings a bit more safety for them as they now a fellow muslim is around and more importantly isn't ignorant towards them.

Do we live in societys where we are all to scared of causing fitnah that we cannot even say salam alykum to each other ?

This is a good question, the danger is that if one gets tooo fundamental about this then if, no when, a situation comes along everythign is blown out of proportion - "oh god she asked me for the time, I won't be able to control my feeling we have to get married". Lol yeh silly example but you know what I mean - I hope!

I guess things start to become problematic when people start thinking, acting, talking liberally and start to agree with each other

What problems have occured?

 

[Genius]

What problems have occured?

Well think about it, what happens when you see a woman you really like?

 

[Muezzin]

Well think about it, what happens when you see a woman you really like?

I'm not allowed to go into it on an Islamic Forum.

Seriously, I don't agree with being a jerk to the opposite sex. Hanging around with your own gender, much, much more, I do agree with, but Islam tells us to be polite and courteous not a flippin' butthead.

 

[minaz]

lol true, besides all women are beautiful and as mine and Muezzin's motto goes "life is fitnah"

 

[h1jabi_sista]

humm... interesting...

i dont know what to think about saying 'as salam alikum' to the opposite gender, because ive always learnt that a pious women should lower her gaze, and a pious man should do the same.

i would find it odd if a brother said salaam to me, but i would find it more respectful if her looked down and walked passed me.

im rather confused now about this, a sista and a brother have allah for their safety and allah as their protector. Then who is the best of those who grant saftey??

:smile: brother, life is a fitnah, but i can tell you, its not as bad as what going to come. subhanallah

:sister:

allah knows best