I am having some severe problems in my life.
No matter what I do, how hard I pray, with pure dedication, with tears nothing happens ..
i have had a tough life as a child with my dad, in my youth, when i had to live with my relatives and now with my career, i have always believed i wil be rewarded but i aint ALLAH doesn’t listen to my prayers.
I am so frustrated u cant imagine for 7-8 years I just prayed for my career and believe me I am writing this with tears no help has come, I feel so dejected that u cant imagine, I have no parents, but too many responsibilities, plz help me what should I do
I feel like dying
AsalamoAlikum.
I think your Salaah has a problem. Checkup with some Aalim and see if what you are reciting the words correctly, and doing the Sajda and the Ruku's etc correctly. Mosly people's Salaah is not in order, and yet they are doing other things and worring if their problems are solved or not.
Secondly, saying this that Allah dosen't listen to your prayers indecates how dedicated you are with your prayer. If you are praying only to get free from tension, then Allah has not promised you to do this. Although you can ask for this too from Allah, but first make him happy. How? Follow his commandments. Many of us only offer Salaah expecting we'll be rewarded with peace of sole, and by the time we step out of the Masjid, we start doing every bad thing we can. This is not how it is.
Allah says in the Qur'an in Surah Ar-Raad, Ch 13, Verse 28:
"Aalaa BiZikrillahi Tatmainnal Quloob", that is: Behold! The satisfaction of hearts lies only in the Zikar of Allah.
If you have made this world your home, and are not considering it to be a test and a brief stay, then you're surly going to face tensions and problems.
Zikar means "Remembering Allah", it also means reciting the names of Allah or the Kalimas etc. But the real objective is to "Remember Allah." For example, when the son is out to play, the mother gets worried. She starts thinking what her son will be doing, how will he be, you know? etc etc. So this feeling of heart, which is unexplainable from the tounge is the Zikar.
If you start pondering over how much Allah loves you, he has prepared a hereafter for you, there is a Jannah which we will get if we pray etc. Then you'll realize that all the worldly problelms you are thinking about mean nothing.
Thirdly, once somebody asked the prophet that how can we make Allah's anger cool down? The Prophet replied: "Be patient on wordly problems and difficulties, this is how you can cool down Allah's anger on you."
If you are facing worldly problems and are not patient, then you're doing no good to your self. This is not going to benifit you at all. When ever you face problems, if you start thinking like "Oh! I have the worst life!", or "Oh! I feel like dying!" or "God dosen't listen to me.." etc. Then you're only doing "Zulm" on your self.
Briefly:
1) Check if your Salaah is correct. (The wordings and the praying gestures -- I donot mean the Fiqahi problems, I mean the common way of Offering Salaah)
2) Start doing Allah's Zikar, Verbally as well as intensionally.
3) Keep thinking of Aakhirah more than this world for its already about to perish.
4) Be patient on wordly problems, it will get you gain alot.
Remember, just offering Salaah twice or thrice a day dosen't mean you are a regular prayer of Salaah. A regular prayer of Salaah is the one who offers ALL 5 Salaah, not 4.
Assalam o Alikum Warahmatullah.
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