Appearance advice

[Desert]

As Salam alaikum

I have been made to feel ugly by mankind
My husband divorced me because I was ugly
He says I was extra ugly instead he wanted something
With a extreme extreme beautiful face let's says malaysian/European white woman...

I see people look at me and understand...

Infact my first lunacy bout happened because someone said i have a really long nose....

I feel like crying and now I can never marry again or ever feel pretty...

 

[BeTheChange]

Re: Ugly duckling

Walaikumasalaam dear sister

Well your husband was clearly the wrong man for you. See this as a blessing in disguise. You don't need a husband who is going to belittle you and what's worse belittle you for something you had no choice over subhna Allah. I know we are all judged be it for our looks, our class, the way we dress, which car we drive etc. however know some people can be very materialistic. Your worth is not based on how you look. Your worth is not based on the value of your house. Your worth is not based on your occupation. Your worth is much much higher than this dear sister. You need to dismantle and remove all these negative thoughts. You can get some professional counselling or do it yourself. You have Islam and Allah swt and our Prophet Muhammad s.a.w who will never fail us subhana Allah. Your worth is much more and much dear to Allah swt than the kabaah itself subhana Allah so stop going down the path of shaytaan. Don't entertain him.

I can't stress enough how much you need to work on building your inner psychology.

Please browse this website

https://www.kalamullah.com/sisters.html

And don't be afraid or upset. You don't know what your future holds. Be thankful you got to experience marriage. Not everyone gets this opportunity. If you don't get married or if you do get married leave that to Allah swt. Continue staying steadfast and utilise this time to build your relationship with Allah swt. Only lucky individuals and individuals with intellect are given this opportunity. Everyone else can get stuck in the rat race...

 

[Al-Ansariyah]

As Salam alaikum

I have been made to feel ugly by mankind
My husband divorced me because I was ugly
He says I was extra ugly instead he wanted something
With a extreme extreme beautiful face let's says malaysian/European white woman...

I see people look at me and understand...

Infact my first lunacy bout happened because someone said i have a really long nose....

I feel like crying and now I can never marry again or ever feel pretty...

Walekumassalam sis
Just forget about everyone right now nd think to urself 'Can Allah ever err' ? (Nauzubillah) .
Satan is whispering all that to u , nd u r listening to him...huh? That's not what a muslim does.
Allah is watching everything. What ur husband did was really a big mistake.
It may be that ur husband wasn't worth it, that is why Allah saved you from him. Or it may be that he would have caused trouble which u couldn't bear, so Allah saved u.
Trust the plans of Almighty. He is the best of planners.
Nd who told u that u can't marry again.. If Allah wills ,u will find someone better. Just Trust Him..
Jazakallah khair

 

[Desert]

I guess I have dead emaan and black heart that has turned into stone because I don't understand my punishment\test

I think I should repent from kufr and shirk in my heart and think well of Allah

I am going through extreme trials of shirk and kufr it's too hard to remain firm...

I am not knowledgeable but I hope Allaah accepts me as a Muslim...

 

[Desert]

It's like a sister once told me if I want God or my husband

Thank you sister user123name

I guess I took my desires as my ilah...

 

['Abdullah]

لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا ٱلْإِنسَٰنَ فِىٓ أَحْسَنِ تَقْوِيمٍ
Transliteration: Laqad khalaqna alinsana fee ahsani taqweemin
Translation: Verily, We created man of the best stature (mold).
[Quran 95:4]

Before this verse, Allah Subhanahu Wa Taala took several oaths:

By the fig and the olive, and the Mount Sina, and this city of peace (Makkah), We have indeed created humankind in the best of molds. [Quran 95: 1-4]

Allah is declaring an oath by some of the most powerful symbols in existence that humankind was created in the best of molds. When Allah swears in this way it is because He wants us to pay attention to something which is very important. He wants us to fully focus and try to pay attention to what is going to be said next. Allah says that He has created man in the best shape. There should not be an atom of doubt about this statement.

Of course that doesn’t mean that everything you do is perfect. It refers to our capacities, our potential. We were created without any flaw, with a pure soul imbued with fitra, a powerful mind, and a body whose magic is still not understood by modern science. We are perfectly capable of fulfilling every obligation that Allah has laid on us; of bearing any burden that is laid on our shoulders; and of achieving any noble dream that Allah has placed in our hearts.

What does it mean when we have to accept that we can achieve any “crazy dream” that may smolder in our hearts? What does it mean when we look at ourselves in the mirror and see perfect, beautiful faces, no matter the shape of our features? What does it mean when we realize that we have within ourselves the capacity to reach the same heights of imaan (faith) as the sahabah, or the same level of intellectual rigor as Imam Al-Bukhari or Sheikh ibn Taymiyyah, or the same purity and unwavering trust as Maryam (may Allah be pleased with her)?

Do we begin to see that they were simply human beings who acknowledged the perfection with which Allah created them? They strove their utmost to live up to that perfection, placing no boundaries or limitations upon themselves. They were not extraordinary people in their creation; they were only extraordinary because they accepted Allah’s words and thrust themselves utterly into the river of the Quran (or in Maryam’s case, immersed herself completely in tawakkul [trust in Allah], and taqwa [consciousness of Allah], allowing themselves to expand to fill the capacity of the flawless mold that Allah created them in, and refusing to allow themselves to be defined or demeaned by anyone else’s opinion. Nor did they allow themselves to be mentally or spiritually diminished or damaged by the harsh circumstances of life.
We have the same option. You, me, all of us.

You are perfect, whether you admit it or not. Go with it. Live up to it. It’s not a burden but a liberty. It is the freedom to be who Allah put you on this earth to be. It’s the freedom to dream and achieve without the chains of self-doubt or self-deprecation. It’s the freedom to accept yourself, love yourself, and allow yourself to love others for the sake of Allah, and to live a full life of meaning and worth.

Let not anyone else define who you are when Allah has already defined that for you. You are beautiful because Allah created you and you can achieve anything you dream off if you put your trust in Allah alone.
May Allah make it easy for you sister! Ameen!

JazakiAllah Khair

Ma'aSalaam



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[Studentofdeed]

Sister it should not matter if physical attractive or not. I have found girls who good looking but found them extremely repulsive. Then there are women who are of darker skin color, short, very dull looming, yet I find them absolutely beautiful because of how humble and pious they are. In essence, Allah is keep all those shallow men away from you who chase looks only. That man was not worth an ounce of your thought. If you have a good heart and a good Muslim, then I swear by Allah, you are beautiful. You are more beautiful to the creator than a creation. Allah is maybe testing you and want you to get a pious man who doesn't care about looks but personality. Looks are the way Allah made you but eventually it goes away. Whats the point? Sure everyone wants be to good looking but I would be more happy if the person I'm married to loves me and is happy with everything about me. And trust me, your husband had no idea what a gem and diamond he lost. May Allah may keep you happy and give you a spouse worthy of you

 

[Al-Ansariyah]

I guess I have dead emaan and black heart that has turned into stone because I don't understand my punishment\test

I think I should repent from kufr and shirk in my heart and think well of Allah

I am going through extreme trials of shirk and kufr it's too hard to remain firm...

I am not knowledgeable but I hope Allaah accepts me as a Muslim...

Try to understand the concept of La ilaha il Allah... Try to understand what it means? What it means in words, in actions... god means anything that is worshipped. Nd worship means obeying, loving, fearing, trusting.

So just understand this concept. Sometimes we are trapped by our desires , we make our desires an ilaha (Nauzubillah). We do what we desire , what we love .. but that's not what we have to do...

Allah is our Lord. Nd our lives should to be as He wants. He has the full control on our lives. We have to follow His commands. He is our King.nd indeed He is the most merciful.

Jazakallah khair

 

[Desert]

As salamu alaikum

I understand now instead of understanding at age 20 that beautiful looks aren't what rabbi At Rahman
Wants from us...

Rabbi wants us to be fearing of him...

Have you noticed the models of akhirul zamasn keep getting more beautiful and beautiful that day 2010 until I thought it was all about beautiful looks and not prayers to Allah....

I remember Micheal Jackson die and someone keep on saying it will be beauty contest some kind of dajjal test for woman beautiful woman of dajjal making me feel...like I am I just don't want to say it...

All that music...

I'm just trying to repent in the event of Messiah ad dajjal...

 

[Desert]

May Allaah give you all that have helped me face the Kaaba again and renew my emaan

May Allaah give you all jannat firdaws and all the happiness joy of Eden in the akhira...

Ameen

It isn't about models of akhirul zamaan
But they made my heart go black just by looking at them...

Ya rabbi I have repented

Khallas this is my last post on islamicboard.com

I gained all the knowledge in this very thread...

May Allaah send peace and blessings on prophet Muhammad...

Alhamdulillahhi rabbilalameen...