Are you a fan of relatives marriage? hmm

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convert said:
in theory, its permissible, so whatever.

practically speaking, i am 1000% against it. the way it is practiced is to import someone from back home while there are good brothers and sisters in communities that dont get a fair shot because people wanna keep it in the family.
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salaam

Yeah this is a serious problem in the community

peace
 
convert said:
in theory, its permissible, so whatever.

practically speaking, i am 1000% against it. the way it is practiced is to import someone from back home while there are good brothers and sisters in communities that dont get a fair shot because people wanna keep it in the family.
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No, marrying one's neice is haram.
 
^Think he's referring to the title of the thread, 'relative marriage'.
 
It's highly reccommended one looks within their family for marriage. So I'd say I'm neutral. In my family, I don't think I can find someone suitable, so I'll have to throw it out the door for myself...
 
eHafiz said:
It's highly reccommended one looks within their family for marriage. So I'd say I'm neutral. In my family, I don't think I can find someone suitable, so I'll have to throw it out the door for myself...
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what of us that cannot look within our families?
 
I don't have a problem with it really, how can I when Allah and his messenger say there's nothing wrong with it. So I'm neutral I guess,

but I do know quite a few people who hate them because they had haraam relationships (bf/gf) with the opposite sex for years and then they found out they had to have an arranged marriage to a relative.

When they got married they treated the person they married like crap cos they wanted to be with their gf. Some of them still talk to their ex gfs as friends.

Pretty messed up eh
 
I'm not against it as such...

Of course, there are lots of people I can think of who have had successful marriages between cousins and lots who havent...but I honestly think it's all down to the people involved.
 
Nihila said:
I'm not against it as such...

Of course, there are lots of people I can think of who have had successful marriages between cousins and lots who havent...but I honestly think it's all down to the people involved.
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You're actually quite right I think, depends on the individual's compatibility with the other person.

For example if 1s praticing and prays 5 times and takes the deen seriously he's not gonna get on with some 1 who misses all their prayers.

That also happened with some of my relatives, they had an arranged marriage but it didn't work out because the guy was really islamic and the girl was really westernized although they both grew up in the west.

Eventually they split up cos the girl kept wearing short sleeve tops and didn't care about the fact that her husband didn't like it.
 
Well, if you are a Muslim and it is allowed, why not.
On a more personal basis, it depends how close you are to your cousin? I mean, for me it would be wierd to grow up with them and then get married.

My cousin could walk past me in the street and I woudn't know him, so maybe that would make it easier??


I know a few who are married and happy!
 
Salaam,

Well no because it is too much of a headache if anything goes wrong. I also don’t like to marry from my hometown (small community) as a whole and not only the relatives.
 
I know that Allah has made marriage of first cousins lawful, and until this week I had no particular thoughts on the matter, in fact I had no objection, but....

A lady I work with also works in a supervisory position for a charity for deaf, blind and disabled children in Bradford. She liases with social services and is increasingly concerned about the growing number of disablilities in children that are a production of first-cousin marriages.

Is she right to be concerned?
 
:salamext: Karina.

I say if there is a study going on and states the same thing then we should be caution and rethink our views but for now my views are neutral as it depends on how old they are and how they are related along with a few other statistics. But we should keep that in our mind.
 
Karina said:
I know that Allah has made marriage of first cousins lawful, and until this week I had no particular thoughts on the matter, in fact I had no objection, but....

A lady I work with also works in a supervisory position for a charity for deaf, blind and disabled children in Bradford. She liases with social services and is increasingly concerned about the growing number of disablilities in children that are a production of first-cousin marriages.

Is she right to be concerned?
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See this thread sis. =)

marriage between cousins fine say scientists
 
I know of a situation where a blood brother and sister got married into another relatives family. The girls marriage didn't work out and they ended up getting divorced, then the family who's daughter had gotten divorced told their son to divorce the daughter of the other family to see how they like it and then both marriages got split up.

he didn't wanna divorce her he only did it cos his family made him cos his wifes brother divorced his sister.
 
If people only marry within the family and don't marry outside the family, the recessive genes become dominant and since a lot of diseases / disabilities are caused by recessive genes, the children develop those diseases/disabilities. Of course it takes a while for that to happen. several generations, I think. But when people marry within and outside the family, then there isn't a problem. (I personally know of a family which has a lot of disabilities and retardation because they only marry within the family.)
 
Luloah said:
See this thread sis. =)

marriage between cousins fine say scientists
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Hmmm – the title is a little misleading, the article says . . .

They claim that the risk of congenital defects is about 2 per cent higher that average, and the infant mortality rate about 4.4 per cent higher, for babies born to first-cousin marriages. This is on a par with the risk to babies born to women over 40, they claim.

So the risks are higher, the suggestion that they are “only” as high as a 40 year old woman giving a baby doesn’t mitigate it.
 
Ok, we are talking about incestation. That's a big fat NO. I think it's distgusting, and it can really mess up the children (yes I've seen this first hand, more then once sadly).
 
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