Are you a fan of relatives marriage? hmm

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I don't like cousins marrying cousins. One of the reasons thats done is because they are family and they know each other. One other thing comes to my mind from this topic. In Pakistan we have casts, by this it says which family you are from hundreds of years ago. Now a days some casts are fairly rated high above others without any reason. There are some casts which are given no respect, and the higher cast cannot marry the one from lower cast. This gets me mad because humans are saying they are better than other humans and some are higher than others. I am so against this.
 
the best marriage for me is of my parents. i just learnt that its from Allah Tallah, and whats required to keep your marriage good is your imaan the most
 
This I do not have a definitive answer for. I have no problem in the marriage between cousins being permitted, but I also have negative feelings about such. Mostly because here in the USA, it is most prevalent in the poor, uneducated regions such as some parts of Appalachia and deep in the Ozarks. It carries with it the connotation that it is something done only by the isolated and uneducated. Cultural bias is a poor reason to be against something, but that is essentially why I am not a fan of marriage between relatives.
 
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ukhtee honeybee, there should be an option "yeah, but i wouldnt consider it for me" :D
 
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I voted for neutral because i dont have anything against it since is halal but at the same time i wouldnt marry a relative .
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Islam prohibits racism... You're not supposed to say that you're greater than another person because of yourr skin color or wealth or anythinglike that.. In his last sermon, Muhammad s.a.w. said: “An arab is not better than a non-arab nor is a white greater than a black except in taqwa.” This is exactly what the Quran preaches. "If any do deeds of righteousness be they male or female and have faith, they will enter Heaven, and not the least injustice will be done to them." (4:124) Nothing is mentioned abuot how you must be rich or arab or something in order to be rewarded. There is an ayat on how Allah judges based on what is IN the heart.. meaning what you do, not your appearance or anything. lol so I found it weird that there are castes in pakistan that is a Hindu thing.. Castes
 
Ah, right, that's true. I thought you were talking about relatives marriage, my mistake.
 
well it depends on the person, I mean like u cant really say "am not getting married to u, simply bcos ur my relative"!!!?
 
I don't mind other people doing it.
I don't have any close relatives my age, so I don't how I'd feel about it.
 
i think its better to marry outside your relatives then you can have a bigger family tree instead of going round and round.
 
not my post....

about this thread http://www.islamicboard.com/general/...riage-hmm.html (Are you a fan of relatives marriage? hmm)

I didnt wanted to ask in the main forum plus theres no anonymous.

you know in the UK its illegal to marry your first cousin right?

but what if u want to? Its allowed in islam even though if your going to have your wedding back home not in the UK. And when you come back to the UK will it be ok? i mean even if u dont do the wedding back and you do it in the UK will they allow someone(muslims) to marry their first cousin?
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Well if you are someone that has been like growing up with your cousins and treating like brothers or sisters then I think marrying them is a little weird. But if you hardly know them, then whatever.Allah has made it lawful.
 
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I don't like cousins marrying cousins. One of the reasons thats done is because they are family and they know each other. One other thing comes to my mind from this topic. In Pakistan we have casts, by this it says which family you are from hundreds of years ago. Now a days some casts are fairly rated high above others without any reason. There are some casts which are given no respect, and the higher cast cannot marry the one from lower cast. This gets me mad because humans are saying they are better than other humans and some are higher than others. I am so against this.
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Just one of our disgusting pakistani traditions, another one is where family plan years ahead that a certain cousin will be wedded to another cousin, like the mother saying she will be my daughter or he will be my son, soo backwards :raging:
 
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i think its better to marry outside your relatives then you can have a bigger family tree instead of going round and round.
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I can relate my friends (pakistani) family to this soo much, basically all the marriages have been cousin marriages and now all the couples children in this family look the same, and now everyone calls them gremlins!!!! you cant tell who's brother or sister is who's
 
Honeybee said:
so are u a fan of relatives marriage?
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Now, that I think about it, I don't really feel for or against them. I guess I don't really mind too much.


Honeybee said:
also have u seen a successful marriage from relatives?
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Yes.

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nebula said:
i think its better to marry outside your relatives then you can have a bigger family tree instead of going round and round.
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Although having said that, I agree with this ^^, and would prefer it actually to a relative marriage:
 
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I don't know which countries u guys are from. but back home in Pakistan, when i was about 7, they had already decided who i was goin to marry. when i was 15 my mom told me i was gonna marry some next cousin of mine. that **** pisses me off.
 
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