Are you different online?

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Rashad, whatever happened to al qalam newsletter? I was really interested in writing for it but it never seemed to get off the ground and now when i go to that url it's not there any more.
 
is it a haraam to talk to a women online?even tho you are not doing anything unwise? i find it much easier to talk to someone online rather than talking to them face to face.
 
In a nutshell, I think the internet provides a 'layer of confidence' for me. I feel much more comfortable talking and communicating with people online than I do in real life. Some people may find that a bit weird, but that's how it is for me.
 
mohammed_samuel said:
is it a haraam to talk to a women online?even tho you are not doing anything unwise? i find it much easier to talk to someone online rather than talking to them face to face.
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generally, is it forbidden to talk to women offline?
the answer is it depends..whatever is forbidden offline is also forbidden online..
 
I think it depends on what you're talking about, because (Allah please forgive me if I'm wrong) I don't know this for certain so maybe double check what I'm saying is correct but isn't it okay for women and men to learn from one another about serious topics as long as it's from, how can I put it, behind a curtain (for lack of a better term)?

We can't see any part of each other online (unless we post our photo or something) so in a sense that applies.

But if it's not for the purpose of learning then I don't think it's allowed, but I'll need to check up on that to be sure.
 
Amoeba said:
But if it's not for the purpose of learning then I don't think it's allowed, but I'll need to check up on that to be sure.
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Yes. It is best to avoid casual talking to women, whether online or offline.
 
I act more or less the same I guess,if someone from offline knows me online as well they would be able to answer 'accurately', just a little less talkative online that offline, and I get along with online sisters more than those offline (sometimes).:ermm:
 
Beardo said:
Do you act differently online than you do in person?

Warning: I may quote you in an article I'm writing, using your username.

Jazax in advance. :]
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Salaam brother!

Well in all honesty if I am online such as this helpful Muslim site, I am not different. Because I do not want advice on something yet give false information. Now for social, like e-mail. I am the same as well, because it is people that know me. I feel that people need to change

who they are so they can make friend with someone that like... Sometimes I feel like young girls write quotes on face-book to get attention, sometimes boys and girls change who they are to gain attention from the person they like or want to befriend! I believe it is all because of societies Television and reality shows.
I know when I was in grade-school, girls thought they had to act "dumb" to get boys attention and be popular, thus when I was in grade school I was picked on a lot for being the person raising her hand and asking question.

So now to strangers who e-mail me, of course I am not formative.

Anyways, I really feel that I am the same online and offline... goofy, silly, nerdy and geeky! :) And I love it.. why be someone you are not? doesn't make any sense.. and what is so fun about being normal?!
Salaam
 
This question is as difficult as asking a popular lady her age and also same as asking a politician " do you lie? " :phew

but the fact is, I am different depending on the websites. I am more of a surfer and I surf for various news and information than chat in messenger. i use diff id when i feel like having a fun chat i use my generic id and not my name.
 
Salam Alaikkum

I am no different too, and it should be like that, however I am more gently online because I can pause and think.
:p

Salaam
 
I am not much different because I am shy at first but after some time passes :D. I am usually quite here but I am a bit talkative in real life :nervous:. Talking to someone about religious matters is a bit difficult for me in real life :hmm:.

Riana17 said:
I am more gently online because I can pause and think.:p
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Yeah I take at least 2 complete minutes for writing a post :hiding:.
 
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I think I am bolder online. I say things online that I only think in real life but don't have the courage to say. I have more confidence and don't really have the same fears online that I do in real life.

Probably it's because I know I can always just change my username and disappear for a while, and nobody will know or care who said what. In real life I can't do that, so I tend to remain silent on a lot of things to avoid any negative social repurcussions.

I used to talk to a lot of women online and it was the only way I could talk to them without stumbling and bumbling over myself like a total dork.

I don't talk to women online anymore, or even much at all now.
 
of course you're going to be different, your audience is the whole world, people you know and don't know, your words will be read even though the situation at the time of writing is different to the time of the person reading, you have more of a chance to make thoughtful comments as you can stop and think for as long as you like, and you are more anonymous, you are not using body language to assist your speech, but rather your text will have to make do,
so i would tend to say - everyone's slightly different online
 
flowergarden said:
So now to strangers who e-mail me, of course I am not formative.
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I sound kind of nonsense on this... I meant that when I get e-mails from strangers, being professors... I am more formative!

Hehehe sorry- I was up late writing that
 
I'm the same, except offline I don't have any contact with sisters or women I'm not mahram to
 
I was 41 when I joined in this forum, and soon in my first month I found many member here are 20's age people or teens, even a sister assumed I was a college boy. Honestly, I thought I was to old for this forum, and I began to thinking might be it's better if I pretend like a college boy.

But then I realized, it's better if I present in this forum as I am. So, I can tell stories about myself, something that too hard to do in the real life because I am an introvert person.
 
ardianto said:
I was 41 when I joined in this forum, and soon in my first month I found many member here are 20's age people or teens, even a sister assumed I was a college boy. Honestly, I thought I was to old for this forum, and I began to thinking might be it's better if I pretend like a college boy.

But then I realized, it's better if I present in this forum as I am. So, I can tell stories about myself, something that too hard to do in the real life because I am an introvert person.
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Yeah man, there are too many kids on this forum. ;D You kids just don't understand what it was like back then.

"Back in my day..."
 

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