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I will describe my problem in short, my husband n I were in a relationship before marriage for 8 years, we also crossed the limits which we shouldn't have. After 8 year now we are married for almost 4 years and have tow kids Alhamdulillah. After marriage I realise that my husband is involved in zina with more than one woman but not ready to come to me. I find pictures and several proofs about the same. So I too got involved on shirk to stop his disaster. I have created a situation for him that he can't do zina with other women but only can come to me. Even this has been a year.He is very frustrated since then but not ready to build a relationship with me. He keeps insulting me and has a bad behaviour. It affects the kids who r 3yrs girl and 1.5 yr boy. He has a doubt on me that I may have done something to block his illegal relationships but he can't talk about it. Please suggest what should I do. Shall I break that shirk bond for him and let him free? I m going through a fire of hell. Also plz tell me will Allah accept my Ibadan after I doing this shirk to stop my husband. I hv starreciting full surah baqarah. Will it help me. Plz suggest what should I do.

Jazak Allah.
 
Somebody please reply to this query, I m in literal pain n seek guidance to work my life out.
 
:wasalam:

Your husband is involved in zina. This is adultry and the sin is on him. You cannot force someone to come back to you. It has to be done through communication. If they want to they will if they don't they won't. What you should've done is confront him about his affairs with evidence and then ask him what does he want. Either he can stop that and try to work on yourrelationship or be clear if he doesn't want to be in this relationship. I don't know what shirk you have committed to keep him from that sin but your sin may be greater if you are commmitting shir. And from the looks of it, you maybe involved in black magic and if that is so then you need to stop immediately and repent to Allah for this. You should free him from your shirk and stop your engaging in that haram. If you do magic then your prayers are not accepted for 40 days but you still have to pray. However, repenting to Allah and asking for forgiveness and renewing your Islam by restating the shahada and stopping in doing such shirk will be a step in good direction. Purify yourself from such haram. ANd then confront him about his affairs and see what does he want. IF he wants to sustain this marriage then you two need to go to marriage counseling or sit down and have a long talk. If not then you need let him go enjoy his affairs and decide what is best for you and your kids.

May Allah guide you both to what's best for you inshallah.
 
Walekumassalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu hu,
I will definitely free him of the shirk I hv bounded him to. But upon showing him the live proofs he denied his affairs and was not even sorry which is unacceptable. Will I hv to stay from him through out my life if he doesn't need me? Is there a way out any supplication which will help me gain him as my trustworthy husband. Please throw some light on this. I love him a lot but can't live such life as thT of a widow. Please help
 
Muslimaah2 said:
Walekumassalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu hu,
I will definitely free him of the shirk I hv bounded him to. But upon showing him the live proofs he denied his affairs and was not even sorry which is unacceptable. Will I hv to stay from him through out my life if he doesn't need me? Is there a way out any supplication which will help me gain him as my trustworthy husband. Please throw some light on this. I love him a lot but can't live such life as thT of a widow. Please help
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How can he deny the proofs presented before him? You can to tell him that you know and denying it is useless. Or better yet, it's best that you tell him that you need to talk. Have him sit down and tell him about how you feel about his actions and how it affects you and how it's haram and how you feel about him. Whether he denies it or not, ask him what does he want from your marriage. Ask him what does he want to do. If he doesn't give a straight answer then tell him what it is you want from this marriage and ask him if he wants to work on the marriage and your relationship. You can ask what is it that is making him turn away from you to go to those women, you could work on yourself (dress up, etc) to help him if that is needed. You can't go on like this with him affairs. Once you get a proper response out of him as to what he wants only then you will be able to move to the next step. I understand you love him dearly but do keep in mind that he may not feel the same any longer. If that is the case then you may have to consider the possibility of this marriage no longer being sustainable. However, let's take it one step at a time inshallah. Talk to him and see where he stands and then maybe get your imam involved to see if he can advise him and help patch up your marriage.
 
Also, to add after marriage I come to know that he was involved in zina also with my colleagues and a manager. I found this out after marriage. Allah forbid if I hv to call this marriage off I can't even do that as I hv only one sibling who is divorced and at my mom with her son. My parents know everything but they advise me to ignore all that's happening with me. He never responded straightly whenever I confronted him on this issue. He only wants me to be the nanny of kids. His family is ultra modern so he can't leave my kids for upbringing to them. Hence he is bearing the burden of this marriage. He has been trying to convince other women to be with him and treats all of them as very dear to which they are convinced and hammering my marriage.
One more thing, my daughter 3yrs is very cranky by nature and cries all the time. So I took the help of a shirk procedure to cure her crankiness and that worked, do I need to undo that too. And yes I can't discontinue this marriage as I hv nowhere to go.
 
Also, to add after marriage I come to know that he was involved in zina also with my colleagues and a manager. I found this out after marriage. Allah forbid if I hv to call this marriage off I can't even do that as I hv only one sibling who is divorced and at my mom with her son. My parents know everything but they advise me to ignore all that's happening with me. He never responded straightly whenever I confronted him on this issue. He only wants me to be the nanny of kids. His family is ultra modern so he can't leave my kids for upbringing to them. Hence he is bearing the burden of this marriage. He has been trying to convince other women to be with him and treats all of them as very dear to which they are convinced and hammering my marriage.<br />
One more thing, my daughter 3yrs is very cranky by nature and cries all the time. So I took the help of a shirk procedure to cure her crankiness and that worked, do I need to undo that too. And yes I can't discontinue this marriage as I hv nowhere to go.
 
Assalamu ALaikum

Shirk? You mean you are practicing black magic on your daughter and husband???
 
Walekumassalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu hu, dear sister you do not know the entire story. I m here to seek guidance and to get blamed and feel guilty. M already in disgust. Please put fwd ur suggestions if u understand my situation. Jazak Allah
 
Question:

I have committed shirk with full knowledge in 1998/1999. I used the service of a person who did black magic against someone I hated. We went to the cemetery and stayed therein for a whole day doing all sorts of things, including, but not limited to, slaughtering of various animals and convoking "Kali", a supposedly evil spirit. We finally buried objects belonging to the person at the cemetery. Now I live overseas and I have changed a lot since I joined the effort of Da'wah more than a year ago. I sincerely regret this evil act of mine and I don't know what to do.

Will Allah forgive me?

What can I do to save that person against this magic? Do I have to ring that person to inform? Please help me I am getting desperate because I am so worried now. Jazakallah!



Answer:

Fatwaa no. 213/04





Black Magic is an extremely evil act. One should refrain from it. If you committed Shirk in the process of black magic you should renew your Imam and Nikah. If any financial or physical harm was caused to the victim he should be compensated for the loss done. One should also seek the pardon of the victim because Allah will only pardon you if the victim pardons you himself. In order for you to assist that person, you should contact a reliable and appropriate person so that he may assist in removing the evil effects of the black magic.



And Allah Ta’ala knows best

Hamza Karim bin Nazeer Hussain

Attested to as correct by:

Mufti Muhammad Ashraf

Darul Iftaa

Jameah Mahmoodiyah
 
Assalamoalaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu hu

I also want to ask that it's difficult to ask my husband for forgiveness as I hv wronged him. If I confess to him, he will definitely not forgive me but divorce me. He anyways does not respect me and illtreats me whenever he gets a chance. He doesn't even pay zakaat on my behalf. Also,
I don't want my part of good deeds to get transferred to him in that world. What should I do?

I hv reversed the wrong I had done to him. Plz revert
 
Salam alaykum

It´s always difficult and hard to ask forgiveness but if you want to live in peace and righteous life you just have to be honest to others like you have to be honest to yourself.

This:

"I don't want my part of good deeds to get transferred to him in that world."

I didn´t get. What you mean?
 
What I mean by my good deeds transferred to him is that if he doesn't forgive me all my nekiyan will be given to him in the court of Allah. I can't ask for forgiveness to him. He is my sinner too.
 
Muslimaah2 said:
Assalamoalaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu hu

I also want to ask that it's difficult to ask my husband for forgiveness as I hv wronged him. If I confess to him, he will definitely not forgive me but divorce me. He anyways does not respect me and illtreats me whenever he gets a chance. He doesn't even pay zakaat on my behalf. Also,
I don't want my part of good deeds to get transferred to him in that world. What should I do?

I hv reversed the wrong I had done to him. Plz revert
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Sis I wasn't trying to judge you, but pleaseee understand that black magic removes you from the fold of Islam. Shirk is the MOST MAJOR sin in Islam. There is nothing worse than it. So you have to be aware of this terrible act that you have put upon yourself and your family. You must never ever repeat this no matter how desperate you are. In our times of desperation we turn to Allah solely, nothing and no one else. No matter what happens we have to be accepting to it even if we don't like it. This is a tenet of a true believer. May Allah guide you and your family ameen.

Secondly, I understand that you are feeling so much pain from what your husband has done to you, but you really have to learn how to be patient in your life and think clearly. You could have brought it up to your husband and discussed it. There is perhaps a problem there that you are not seeing and he is not courageous enough to bring it up to you. Instead of turning to shirk, you need to have tried to increase the blessings and iman in your house. Even if your husband is not a good man, it does not mean you have to commit sins like him. I mean what you did is even worse than zina. Can you imagine that? You must repent from the evils that you have done and whenever you are feeling discouraged about anything, talk it out..you can even come here on the forum and ask for advice. Don't let your despair push you into the arms of shaytan.
 
Jazak Allah, for the advice. I was not evil. I just turned out to b so coz of my desperation for my husband's love. I didn't seek it yet though. Ever since I did this sin I m guilty about it. I don't enjoy it. If I reverse what I have done will I be forgiven by Allah
 
Muslimaah2 said:
What I mean by my good deeds transferred to him is that if he doesn't forgive me all my nekiyan will be given to him in the court of Allah. I can't ask for forgiveness to him. He is my sinner too.
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Remember that the mercy of Allah is so vast and if he see's that you're sincerely willing to make such a change, why wouldn't he forgive you and give you more than enough good deeds on top of that. None of us can enter jannah without the mercy of Allah so we have to make it our aim to attain that aswell

Also, take a look at this
"Allah will change their sins into good deeds.." (al Furqan 25:68-70)
And Allah can do that with your situation too

May Allah swt grant you forgiveness
 
A Muslim woman called the shaykh on tv to ask him a question. She said she was unable to see the kaba. She said she see the people doing tawaf but she doesn't see kaba at all. The shaykh said let me have your number and we'll call you back. So the shaykh discussed it with other shaykhs and then called her back. He asked her if she has done any major sin or harmed anyone. The woman replied, I do black magic. I killed two with my magic and the third i see limping around in the streets and it makes me happy when I see her like that. The shayks replied, you are no longer a muslim, is your husband nearby? give him the phone. Then the shaykh told the husband her wife is no longer a Muslim, divorce her and her and get away from her.

Magic is no small thing, the prescribed punishment for this death. Today we have it so widespread that I think we have even surpassed the Jews in committing this sin. may Allah destroy the evil doers and protect us from such evil, ameen.
 
Brother/sister,

I have taken a firm decision to reverse all that I have done. Just waiting for tomorrow to speak with the concerned person who can reverse it. It's my neeyat. Will I be forgiven by Allah swt.also I will seek forgiveness from my husband. Will I still be called a muslim. I have a mountain of questions in my mind. But all I wana know is if I will b forgiven and will Allah accept all my ibadah. Plz revert. I m in a bad state of mind. I m in great disgust for what I have done and I really mean it.
 
Muslimaah2 said:
Brother/sister,

I have taken a firm decision to reverse all that I have done. Just waiting for tomorrow to speak with the concerned person who can reverse it. It's my neeyat. Will I be forgiven by Allah swt.also I will seek forgiveness from my husband. Will I still be called a muslim. I have a mountain of questions in my mind. But all I wana know is if I will b forgiven and will Allah accept all my ibadah. Plz revert. I m in a bad state of mind. I m in great disgust for what I have done and I really mean it.
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1. stop the shirk
2. undo the harm you have done to anyone
3. state your shahadah again
4. repent
5. never go back to it

So long as we are alive, we have an opportunity to fix our wrongs and ask for forgiveness.
 
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