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My uncle and aunt are getting a divorce because of their kids. Here's the background story:
Both children have neurobiological disorders, and the parents don't realise it, nor did they believe me when I told them, and refuse to seek the help of a psychologist.
My cousin sister has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, and some kind of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. She's running around irritating everyone all the time, and gets scared whenever she's alone, starts screaming and runs to her mom. What is more, outside Saudi Arabia (they live there), they don't allow her to wear a hijab, and she throws a tantrum, and she screams at the top of her lungs when she wears on. They think that their (extremely) "liberal" family will mock them if they see her wearing a hijab.
My cousin brother, like me, is gifted with Asperger syndrome, the mildest form of autism. Asperger syndrome, in a majority of cases, has symptoms similar to extremely mild obsessive compulsive disorder, and attention deficit disorder (not the hyperactivity one, it's quite the opposite). Due to his add-like symptoms, he's bad at his schoolwork, as I was. However, he's got a unique gift for Music, he can compose any song he hears once without making a single mistake. However, his father wants him to be an engineer, and is angry at the fact that he's bad at studies.
Since both parents refuse to realise that their children have these neurobiological disorders (20-25% of the world's population has some kind of mental illness or neurobiological disorder, you might have one such as mild dyspraxia without realising it... it took me 18 years to realise that I have asperger syndrome) and refuse to seek psychological advice, this situation has erupted. My uncle sent emails today saying that he did tawaaf around the holy Ka'aba, and felt that Allah (swt) supports him in his decision to get a divorce. In fact, he's already met the family of another lady who'm he's chosen to get married to.
What should I tell them? My mother will relay any good advice you may have for them, as she's the one trying to solve this crisis. My parents themselves had a divorce, but their situation was inevitable - my father accused my mother of conspiring to theft.
My uncle and aunt are getting a divorce because of their kids. Here's the background story:
Both children have neurobiological disorders, and the parents don't realise it, nor did they believe me when I told them, and refuse to seek the help of a psychologist.
My cousin sister has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, and some kind of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. She's running around irritating everyone all the time, and gets scared whenever she's alone, starts screaming and runs to her mom. What is more, outside Saudi Arabia (they live there), they don't allow her to wear a hijab, and she throws a tantrum, and she screams at the top of her lungs when she wears on. They think that their (extremely) "liberal" family will mock them if they see her wearing a hijab.
My cousin brother, like me, is gifted with Asperger syndrome, the mildest form of autism. Asperger syndrome, in a majority of cases, has symptoms similar to extremely mild obsessive compulsive disorder, and attention deficit disorder (not the hyperactivity one, it's quite the opposite). Due to his add-like symptoms, he's bad at his schoolwork, as I was. However, he's got a unique gift for Music, he can compose any song he hears once without making a single mistake. However, his father wants him to be an engineer, and is angry at the fact that he's bad at studies.
Since both parents refuse to realise that their children have these neurobiological disorders (20-25% of the world's population has some kind of mental illness or neurobiological disorder, you might have one such as mild dyspraxia without realising it... it took me 18 years to realise that I have asperger syndrome) and refuse to seek psychological advice, this situation has erupted. My uncle sent emails today saying that he did tawaaf around the holy Ka'aba, and felt that Allah (swt) supports him in his decision to get a divorce. In fact, he's already met the family of another lady who'm he's chosen to get married to.
What should I tell them? My mother will relay any good advice you may have for them, as she's the one trying to solve this crisis. My parents themselves had a divorce, but their situation was inevitable - my father accused my mother of conspiring to theft.
I am so sorry for your troubles. May Allah ease your pains and guide you all on the right path...........
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