aunties mixing with older male nephew

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Light of Heaven said:
Sis. Allah has said they are your mahram.

As for the idea with incest, yes it does exist. You do have cases where the father crosses the limits, that doesnt mean she's gunna cover her hair or face in front of him?

You should still maintain a level of decency even with your mahrams, but that doesn't mean you go and wear a hijab in front of them? Islam isnt meant to be difficult. Imagine wearing it with your family everyday and you have to wear it outside anyway. Why make it so hard?
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Of course not, your not always going to cover but some women do because they fear Allah that much so what wrong in that.

better to be safe then sorry as the saying goes.

I dont myself but i see the sense in doing so...

KittenLover said:
in that case you might aswell cut off relations with ur fathers/brothers out of fear of incest.

do you see my point? incest is a sin/transgression, and the people who do such a sin will be held to account for it.

But Allah hasn't made it haraam for you to mix with your father or brother out of worry they may commit incest and the same goes for your uncle.

becuase men don't find such woman attractive unless there is a corruption in the heart and pervertedness.
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What have i been saying in my replies all along? what if there IS A CORRUPTION in the heart of that person

Allah would not expect us to sit alone with them would he and put ourselves in danger just because something is made halal dose not mean you can take advantage of it
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piXie said:
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If there is fear of fitna, then it is not allowed for them to be alone.

One is a general ruling e.g. They are allowed to be alone because he is her mahram (forbidden for marriage forever)

The other is a specific ruling e.g. In this specific situation, they are not allowed to be alone, even though he is her mahram, because there is fear of fitna.

Further explained in ruling below (see highlighted part)



can read the rest here

I hope that helped
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jazakAllah sister :)

Your reply was most helpful
 
cat eyes said:
Of course not, your not always going to cover but some women do because they fear Allah that much so what wrong in that.

better to be safe then sorry as the saying goes.

I dont myself but i see the sense in doing so...



What have i been saying in my replies all along? what if there IS A CORRUPTION in the heart of that person

Allah would not expect us to sit alone with them would he and put ourselves in danger just because something is made halal dose not mean you can take advantage of it
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LOL then if there is a fear something happening you use your common sense and do not mix with each other.

but to say it's not allowed for a person to mix with his aunty and he isn't her mehram isn't correct. because we've clearly established that he is allowed to mix with her unless he is known to be an evil man or she is known to be an evil woman.

He is her mehram just like her father and brother so he's allowed to mix with her just as her father and brother would and no 1 is allowed to tell him otherwise.

Unless 1 of them is known to be an evil person then it's not allowed.


so you understand now sis that he holds the position of mehram, just like a brother and father, hold the position of mehram? :hmm:
 
Sister i know what you mean, i was meaning to ask the question

your saying they are in the same age group, and one of them might get feelings for the other because due to the age gap or lack of.

sister kittenlover did post the right information, you are allowed to mix,
but personally think there should be limited mixing or not become buddies.

it depends if either of them have a sickness in the heart.

i have a niece a couple years older and younger than me, but end of the day they are my sisters kids, i am their uncle no matter what,

we are not close because they grew up back home, they are here now, so theres limited chit chat.

just becareful is al i say
 
maybe youre hearing that because if they are not married and the age dif then it isnt appropriate for them to be alone-like you said in a bedroom. just like scholars advise that if a mother in law/father in law is close in age to son/daughter in law, although they are still mahram caution has to be taken because things DO happen.
so yes caution should be taken especially if he may like her
 
Is this pernissable ? The aunty is an aunty through marriage. She is the nephews mothers; brothers wife.
 

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