Be Kind to your wives

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You know what's funny? If I was to make a similar thread saying 'Be kind to your husbands' and wrote 'spend less, don't use your husband's money without though' I wonder how many women will reply there!
 
'Abd-al Latif said:
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You know what's funny? If I was to make a similar thread saying 'Be kind to your husbands' and wrote 'spend less, don't use your husband's money without though' I wonder how many women will reply there!
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without what? if the husband dont mind the wife spending his money from what he can afford then thats totally fine :hiding:
 
'Abd-al Latif said:
:salamext:

You know what's funny? If I was to make a similar thread saying 'Be kind to your husbands' and wrote 'spend less, don't use your husband's money without though' I wonder how many women will reply there!
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It wouldn't work for all the sisters who are financially independent or taking care of their husbands financially and I know quite a few of them..
but I agree that it is a two way thing and I especially loved brother Muraad's commentary..

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^ It takes a big man to be taken care of by his wife, rizq can be bestowed upon us from many sources.

I wonder if the prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam still worked under khadija after marriage?

Personally I would find it hard to sleep if my wife was providing for me.... is that wrong? but same goes for if anyone other then me was providing for me
seriously !
I think a lot of sisters feel the same...
 
I don't think it is an issue, I know many sisters who have helped their husbands until they landed on their feet, I call it a partnership.. I don't think money is what makes a man or a woman.. and I don't like it to be used as a vantage point to make someone feel like a lesser being, whomever is providing..
as Allah swt states in Suret Al-Baqara.

Results قَوْلٌ مَعْرُوفٌ وَمَغْفِرَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ صَدَقَةٍ يَتْبَعُهَا أَذًى ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَنِيٌّ حَلِيمٌ [FONT=verdana,arial,helvetica]{263}
[SIZE=-1][Pickthal 2:263] A kind word with forgiveness is better than almsgiving followed by injury. Allah is Absolute, Clement.

I think it is better not to give at all than allowing someone to spend and constantly make them feel guilty about it, especially if it is a spouse, like it is a handout, when it comes to men especially it is an obligation, that is in fact the degree above that Allah swt bestowed for that purpose, then why minify this God conferred dignity and as the next verse describes '' Render not vain your almsgiving by reproach and injury'' sob7an Allah.. ones spending on ones family shouldn't even be thought of as almsgiving.. and if you are not to make the poor feel lowly with your charity, why make your spouse feel it?

my two cents..

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Well said mashaAllah^^^...few days ago a brother(i call him ammu) at my masjid was talking about ole days at our masjid n how missed them. He was telling me, whenever there was a new young man at masjid, they greeted him and taught him the correct way of praying etc, and fathers and brothers let them marry their daugthers even if he wasnt fully on his feet yet.
 

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