Being a convert is hard!

[Strzelecki]

Addressing how hard it is to be a convert; I know, as I reverted at age 17 and am now 18. My friends are always asking me out and just don't understand when I tell them why I'm not going to and keep bugging me, alhamdulillah though, they have all been supporting and accepting of me otherwise. My family on the other hand don't know and I am refraining from telling them as I know their rection won't be good.

The bottom line here, brother is to pace yourself. Don't overwhelm yourself. With all hardship will come great ease and know that when this life has ended, inshaAllah all the tests that Allah (swt) has put you through will be fully worth it.

Keep smiling!

 

[Kittygyal]

My family on the other hand don't know and I am refraining from telling them as I know their rection won't be good.

Assalamualikum.
Brother you should inform them before they find out from someone else mg:
end of day up to you brother.

May Allaah guide us all Amin

Ma'assalama

 

[Whatsthepoint]

It's not about mystical feelings, it's about logic and proofs. Keep searching and your reach the light at the end of the tunnel :thumbs_up

The more I search, the less impressed I become.
When a person's seen most of the impressive miracles and "proofs", they're left with unimpressive and often absurd quoting of verses and dibious scientific claims.
I might try mormonism instead..

 

[Umar001]

Hey bro it's not as bad as it seems.

Trust, I mean, its hard, but hey, it's ok, every position has its ups and 'downs' from our view point.

One benefit of being a revert (only one in the family) is that it reminds you that on judgement day you will be alone in front of Allah!

People with family members who are Muslims are not always so mindful about the lonelyness of judgement day. But when you know your family is not Muslim you tend to remember that more. And what a better way to stick to reality other than to face it on a daily basis?!

Sempre Avanti!

 

[Whatsthepoint]

Hey bro it's not as bad as it seems.

Trust, I mean, its hard, but hey, it's ok, every position has its ups and 'downs' from our view point.

One benefit of being a revert (only one in the family) is that it reminds you that on judgement day you will be alone in front of Allah!

People with family members who are Muslims are not always so mindful about the lonelyness of judgement day. But when you know your family is not Muslim you tend to remember that more. And what a better way to stick to reality other than to face it on a daily basis?!

Sempre Avanti!

What's the benefit of being alone in front of Allah on the judgement day?

 

[Umar001]

What's the benefit of being alone in front of Allah on the judgement day?

I don't think I mentioned there being a benefit of being alone in front of Allah on the day of judgement. I just said that there is a benefit in remembering that.

If you mean what is the benefit in remembering, then it is beneficial because one learns not to rely on loved ones, or not to be swayed by loved ones if they are doing wrong, but rather that we should help each other out but ultimately I will be asked about myself first and foremost.

I think that's a benefit.

 

[Whatsthepoint]

I don't think I mentioned there being a benefit of being alone in front of Allah on the day of judgement. I just said that there is a benefit in remembering that.

If you mean what is the benefit in remembering, then it is beneficial because one learns not to rely on loved ones, or not to be swayed by loved ones if they are doing wrong, but rather that we should help each other out but ultimately I will be asked about myself first and foremost.

I think that's a benefit.

It is, however, being alone in front of Allah, knowing that all your loved ones are on their way to hell, is not. I don't know how muslims (are supposed to) feel but I'd be devastated.

 

[Belief_is_Power]

yes you are right Alpha Dude, I fear hellfire, and while being a convert is hard, I will druge through it to get to Jannah at any cost.

 

[Umar001]

It is, however, being alone in front of Allah, knowing that all your loved ones are on their way to hell, is not. I don't know how muslims (are supposed to) feel but I'd be devastated.

That is part of this whole thing being hard. kay:

 

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Assalam-o-Allikum,
i myself am a new muslim and the main thing i find extremly difficult since converting is FOOD. in my area there is no halal meat and i have to travel long distances and buy in bulk when i can. or i resort to eating veggies...
my family have been more than supportive, my mother a christian was actually more than happy to know that i had 'found my faith'
i did my first Ramadan and read the entire Holy Quran during this month ( english translation ) with great ease... its also taken me 6 months to learn namaz from heart and i take great pride and self worth when offering my prayers....
ive never lived such a clean and understanding way of life since i converted, i do however have a great deal to learn and inshaAllah i can gain great insight and education from talking to other muslims here on this site.
But in many respects.. i do agree with the title of this board. Beign a convert is hard.. especially when you live in a small english market town where you find yourself to be the one and only islam follower. I hope in time this will become easier for me inshaAllah.

Peace and Blessing
Allah Hafiz

 

[Strzelecki]

Assalamualikum.
Brother you should inform them before they find out from someone else mg:
end of day up to you brother.

May Allaah guide us all Amin

Ma'assalama

Ameen.

I know; the last thing I want is for the find out from someone else, it's just they're most definitely going to be the hardest to tell cos I know the response won't be as positive as I'd like...InshaAllah, in the long term all should be well, though.

 

[MustafaMc]

One benefit of being a revert (only one in the family) is that it reminds you that on judgement day you will be alone in front of Allah!

I agree with you that we can't rely upon our friends and family on that Day. The realization that I must stand before Allah to give an account for my life is what led me in 2001 to practice Islam consistently after 19 years of wishy-washy practice. I knew that I could not use the excuse that there were some people who did bad things in the name of Islam as the reason that I, personally, did not worship my Creator. I am the only Muslim in all of my faily, except for my wife, but I hold out hope and pray for my unbelieving family members that they will accept Islam before it is too late.

 

[ayesha309]

Subhana'Allah. after reading some of the stories on this post, i feel like i have the most perfect life of ease and comfort. Alhamdulillah all my family members are Muslim; supporting Muslims, encouraging me everytime i take a step towards Islam; never deviating me from the correct path. Alhamdulillah. For this reason, I find convert stories fascinating and they help me increase my imaan, becuase i realize people have a lot worse conditions then me and yet they are soo much more thankful than me.

I know; the last thing I want is for the find out from someone else, it's just they're most definitely going to be the hardest to tell cos I know the response won't be as positive as I'd like...InshaAllah, in the long term all should be well, though.

bro you should do what you feel is right...........it was so beautiful to read your post and realize that people are converting to Islam even in Australia. (I hope i'm not offending you by saying that) from what i watch on tv, Australians didnt seem so nice to Islam. Anways, bro just keep asking Allah to help and if He wills, He will guide your family as well. May Allah reward you and help you. Ameen.

Assalam-o-Allikum,
i myself am a new muslim and the main thing i find extremly difficult since converting is FOOD. in my area there is no halal meat and i have to travel long distances and buy in bulk when i can. or i resort to eating veggies...
my family have been more than supportive, my mother a christian was actually more than happy to know that i had 'found my faith'
i did my first Ramadan and read the entire Holy Quran during this month ( english translation ) with great ease... its also taken me 6 months to learn namaz from heart and i take great pride and self worth when offering my prayers....
ive never lived such a clean and understanding way of life since i converted, i do however have a great deal to learn and inshaAllah i can gain great insight and education from talking to other muslims here on this site.
But in many respects.. i do agree with the title of this board. Beign a convert is hard.. especially when you live in a small english market town where you find yourself to be the one and only islam follower. I hope in time this will become easier for me inshaAllah.

Peace and Blessing
Allah Hafiz

sis im Ayesha tooo Masha'Allah reading your story showed how much belief you have in Allah and how hard you will work to follow his commands. It's incredible and you should keep it up. i have no idea how hard it would be to drive for a long time to get halal food, as Alhamdulillah i live in a neighbourhood with many Muslims and halal food stores close to my house. However remember Allah will reward you for working so hard, imagine how nice the food in Jannah taste. then this drive won't be hard at all. But sis Insha'Allah keep working hard on intaking halal food only. May Allah reward you and help you. Ameen.

yes you are right Alpha Dude, I fear hellfire, and while being a convert is hard, I will druge through it to get to Jannah at any cost.

Masha'Allah bro. that's the way it is supose to be. work hard to get Jannah, no matter the cost, and Masha'Allah you've sacrificed sooo much. May Allah reward you and help you. Ameen

Bro Woodrow, your story fascinated me. It reminded me that Allah guides whom He wants, when He wants. no matter the age. Masha'Allah. May Allah reward you and help you. Ameen

Sis Kittygyal, wow. you seem to have to suffer a lot but Masha'Allah you seem to have a strong faith in Allah. May you keep it up and May Allah help you and reward you. Ameen

Our sacrifices for the sake of Allah turn to mountains of rewards on the Day of Judgement and everything will seem worth it. May Allah reward and help all the Muslims in abundance. Ameen.

 

[Esther462]

I am a new Muslim. I've been a convert for about 2 months now and I'm find things really hard going with me. There are not that many Muslims in my town so I'm kinder on my own in my faith. Most of my friends and family are Christian and are trying to get me back to Christianty and I think I'm starting to fall into there trap. I hate it as a person when mainly my family is upset with me. I have to keep going to church to keep them happy as I have no were else to go on Sunday morning as the nearest Mosque is an hours drive from my house.:mmokay:
I'm still covering my body and wearing Hijab and not eatting pork but my prayer have slipped a lot, i.e I only prayed 3 times today and with only one at the right time.imsad

 

[Woodrow]

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You need to keep in mind that the reason your family has difficulty accepting your reverting is because they do not understand Islam. Take this as an opportunity to show them the truth by living as a Muslim and not falling prey to the temptations others your age often fall prey to.

 

[transition?]

I can imagine it being difficult. :uuh:



The harder the test, the greater the reward.


In some way, being born Muslim isn't as easy, especially when you are born "Muslim" into a family that doesn't practice it.
It's quite embarrassing actually not knowing much about your religion imsad A lot of Muslims are coming back to Islam, some of them know very little and similar to my dad's case, have to learn how to pray, and fast.

May Allah (swt) Guide us

 

[Belief_is_Power]

may allah guide us indeed. salam

 

[Umm Yoosuf]

I am a new Muslim. I've been a convert for about 2 months now and I'm find things really hard going with me. There are not that many Muslims in my town so I'm kinder on my own in my faith. Most of my friends and family are Christian and are trying to get me back to Christianty and I think I'm starting to fall into there trap. I hate it as a person when mainly my family is upset with me. I have to keep going to church to keep them happy as I have no were else to go on Sunday morning as the nearest Mosque is an hours drive from my house.:mmokay:
I'm still covering my body and wearing Hijab and not eatting pork but my prayer have slipped a lot, i.e I only prayed 3 times today and with only one at the right time.imsad

Assalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatulaah sister,

May Allaah make things easy for you. You have to gain strengh sister in your deen and in order for you to do that you have to seek knowledge but with you not living near a Masjid I can imagine thats had. There are couple of site's you can learn Islaam and get in contact with the scholars. Drop me a PM and I could help you with that Insha Allaah

 

[adeeb]

I am a new Muslim. I've been a convert for about 2 months now and I'm find things really hard going with me. There are not that many Muslims in my town so I'm kinder on my own in my faith. Most of my friends and family are Christian and are trying to get me back to Christianty and I think I'm starting to fall into there trap. I hate it as a person when mainly my family is upset with me. I have to keep going to church to keep them happy as I have no were else to go on Sunday morning as the nearest Mosque is an hours drive from my house.:mmokay:
I'm still covering my body and wearing Hijab and not eatting pork but my prayer have slipped a lot, i.e I only prayed 3 times today and with only one at the right time.imsad

masha Allah, Alhamdulillah, Allah has show u the right path and way to jannah.. now people are testing to your faith.. strong or weak...the more u struggle for that.. the more u get a lot of benefit from it..

come on sis, u can do it!! learn and read a lot of islamic books, look a muslim friend, and BE PROUD coz Allah has made u MUSLIM...hold it until u die, do good deeds... and jannah will be yours. ameen kay::thumbs_up:thumbs_up

 

[Angelzz]

I am so grateful to allah swt for leading me out of ignorance and granting me knowledge to know that Islam is the Truth and the chance to know Him Allah swt the way he should be known and worshipped.

SubhanAllah the best day of my life to date and the best thing thats ever happened to me is the day i said shahada and became a muslimah.

To this day I get all teary remembering how much allah swt has blessed me with just this one thing (let alone all the other blessings before and after islam and continue to get)

SubhanAllah its overwhelming -- this is what we should be grateful for and remember that the people around us even our loved ones --- are still living in the dark they are still ignorant.

If you dont teach them or slowly slowly implement islam and show them islam -- how can they learn? How do you know it wasnt in allah' wisdom that through YOU they too accept Islam ? SubhanAllah I make dua after every salah that allah swt has mercy on my family and inshaAllah they be led to Islam too.

As you learn Islam more and more and put more things into practise -- yes you struggle --- life happens and you get tested --- but the beauty of islam is Your not alone and not left alone to deal with your tests.

You have the best guidance in the Quran and Sunnah (let alone all the brothers and sisters you can turn to for advice and support) and subhanAllah this has been the greatest blessing for me --- whenever im stuck in a certain situation I say what does Allah say i should do here and look it up --- there are countless sources and an easy page to get rulings on different aspects of life as they happen is Islam QA for example.

Yes life is hard in Islam BUT life WITHOUT islam is harder.

Dont take the guidance and blessings and the power of Dua we have in Islam for granted.