I haven't been following the posts at all. But you said
I think i am gay and you requested aid from us on this site. Thus, you should seek that. Others haven't been very supported. I suppose thats how I would have reacted, but given some thought, I'd put in my two cents.
First of all bro, do you have any hatred against women in general? Most of the homosexuality arises because how a boy precieves the opposite gender. There might possibly a psychological issue that you haven't given some thought to it. We all live in a society where homosexuality is somewhat accepted because
we shouldn't discriminte.
Moving on, you should increase you're imaam first. Obviously, you're imaam is weak, hence shai'taan is able to hover over your mind like that. Pray every single salat on time and after that read Qur'an only for 20 min. Put your heart into it.
Can you say "yes" to the following questions:
1.) I do pray all five salats on time (or try to) each and every day?
2.) Do I visit masjid for jummah prayer of every week?
3.) Do I listen to khutbahs at jummah prior to the salat?
4.) Do I read Qur'an? Or attempt to at least?
5.) Am I close to Allah swt and Islam?
If you can't even answer yes to all of them, then there is you're problem. Muslim (believer) is never false. He/she
should not be homosexual orientated if they are practising Islam properly and doing the best they can in this world.
You should attempt to repair your relationship with Allah swt. Get back on your daily prayers and do extra prayers (nawafils).
Here is a quotation regards to homosexuality:
Dr. Muzammil Siddiqi, president of the Fiqh Council ofNorth America, states the following:
Homosexuality is sinful and shameful. In Islamic terminology it is called al-fahsha' or an atrocious and obscene act. Islam teaches that believers should neither do the obscene acts, nor in any way indulge in their propagation. Allah says, [Those who love (to see) obscenity published broadcast among the Believers will have a grievous penalty in this life and in the Hereafter: Allah knows, and you know not.] (Al-Nur 24: 19)
Normally, Muslims find it distasteful to get engaged in making the issue a fine topic of discussion because we know that sometimes evil is spread through discussion. When people hear a wrong and sinful act mentioned repeatedly, they get used to it and then slowly it looses its gravity in their minds and souls.
But nowadays this act has become a phenomenon. There are agencies and lobby groups that are working hard to propagate it and to make it an acceptable and legitimate lifestyle. For this reason it is important that we should speak against it. We should warn our youth and children from this devilish lifestyle. We should make it very clear that it is haram, absolutely forbidden, and that it kindles the wrath and anger of Allah.
The word 'homosexuality' is a neutral word. It does not convey its pejorative and sinful nature. This word is used nowadays as if it were just another type of normal sexual behavior.
In the Islamic literature, however, it is always referred to with its negative connotations. In modern Arabic literature it is called shudhudh which means 'abnormality'.
In our fiqh literature, it is referred to as the 'Behavior of the People of Lut' or `amal qawm Lut.
This immediately reminds a person that this is something bad that makes one subject to the punishment of Allah. No sooner had our minds get used to this idea than we develop a natural abhorrence towards it. Furthermore, when Muslims discuss this or similar haram acts, they often say, "A`adhana Allah min dhalik" or May Allah protect us from this. This is the adab that we should follow when we talk about it. We should call this behavior with its negative title and we should ask Allah's protection from it when we speak about it.
As far your second question about how we should deal with homosexuals, we should consider them people who get themselves engaged in a sinful act. We should deal with them in the same way we deal with any people who are involved in alcoholics, gambling or adultery.
We should have deep repugnance to their acts and we must remind and warn them. Those who insist on this lifestyle, consider it legitimate and feel 'gay pride', we should not associate with them and should not take them as friends. We should certainly avoid those people. If we see a person who has committed this sin and wants to repent then we should help that person as much as we can to get out of this evil. We should not leave him/her to the temptations of the Satan.
Refer: http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...h-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503543082
Insha'Allah that helps you brother. This is a serious issue and you must resolve it As Soon As Possible. Marriage is not an option. You will ruin the woman's life and shatter her family as well as your own and create more problems rather than resolving. My advise is, fix yourself up. Recite Surah Yaseen in the morning and in the evening. This will inshallah make you realise how wrong you are! I hope you read this thoroughly and understand it!
