British Born parents

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I do not have British Parents and did not grow up in the UK.

But I did grow up in Post WW2 USA and it was a time of mass migration. During my school years, the foreign grown kids were the most likely to join gangs. I did not know of any American gangs but nationalistic gangs flourished. there were German gangs, Italian gangs, Spanish gangs, Polish gangs, Japanese gangs, etc.

I suspect it was because of the language differences and kids wanted to be with kids that spoke the same language.
 
(Bear in mind I'm talking from my experience only, I'm not saying all families are like this, I live in a itsy bitsy town, things may be diff elsewhere)

Not that they wont be taught morals, the moderation was my main part.
Basically the one who doesnt know the dangers will not attempt to protect his/her children from it.

Putting it simply.

You seem to have extracted more from what I said than I have.

WassalamuAlaykum
 
Amatul Wadud said:
(Bear in mind I'm talking from my experience only, I'm not saying all families are like this, I live in a itsy bitsy town, things may be diff elsewhere)

Not that they wont be taught morals, the moderation was my main part.
Basically the one who doesnt know the dangers will not attempt to protect his/her children from it.

Putting it simply.
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Ah.

So either they don't attempt to protect their children out of cultural ignorance, or they overprotect them for the same reason?

You seem to have extracted more from what I said than I have.
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My apologies.
 
Amatul Wadud said:
(Bear in mind I'm talking from my experience only, I'm not saying all families are like this, I live in a itsy bitsy town, things may be diff elsewhere)

Not that they wont be taught morals, the moderation was my main part.
Basically the one who doesnt know the dangers will not attempt to protect his/her children from it.

Putting it simply.

You seem to have extracted more from what I said than I have.

WassalamuAlaykum
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True

Basically the one who doesnt know the dangers will not attempt to protect his/her children from it.

Now your theory makes logic and is probably true.
 
I wont wrap my kids in cotton wool, inshallah when i have kids.

I,l talk to them straight, like how i do to my nieces, about life issues, why you musnt do certain things, and yeh give them a bit of freedom.

Take them with me to isha prayers in the summer when its like 11pm, that way they can say they stay up late, i used to hate going bed so early.

Round my ends, well lets say its got a bad reputation. I will show my kids , look at these gangs, and drug addicts, and show em not to go down that path.

Most of all have fun with them, i dont wana show em islam is boring. Inshallah
 
I think its down to good parenting skills and that includes awareness of the environment in which your children live.
 
Yeah it is down to good parenting, but at the same time if the parents are completely alienated from society, the same society that their kids spend so much of their time in, then that's where you have problems.
 
I am British but wasn't born here. My mum is British by birth. I was brought here by my parents 10 years ago.

I grew up in India and never followed Islam. I came to England and found myself drawn to Islam.

Don't know how I fit in this equation :?
 
wa alykum us-Salaam
@sis amat...oh, i get you now :D
but parents (esp mums) still know what their kiddies are up to even though they arent necessarily fluent with english...right :skeleton: :exhausted

i know it would have been like that for me :p :D
 
I feel sorry for my kids.

their not gna be able to get away with anything, cuz mummy knows all the tricks of the trade. :D
 
Since British born parents have gone through the difficulties that young muslims in the UK will experience, they have a better of idea of how to handle them and guide them, whereas parents born outside of the UK are not as aware of the different aspects of British society or how to deal with them in an appropriate manner.

I think that's what Amatul is trying to say?
 
Uh huh, but I said it in a roundabout 'it's nearly midnight and I'm sleepy' kind of way :-[ JazakAllah khayr
 

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