Salaam, if I get married at some point Allah willing then I would hope that we would work on things together by talking it out. It's about mutual respect which will embellish our Deen and relationship further.
Okay this is good point also not about obeying but for the success of couple, i remember seeing this video of Brother Nouman Ali Khan week ago about the nature of Men/women.
He said that women should understand that its nature of men to look when he sees beautiful girls, so instead of women nagging around, she must understand that WOMAN is the greatest weakness of a man [mentioned in Holy Quran- (Good to know coz when my husband look at beautiful girls I'm with him and we will exchange good comments - i dont know if it makes me abnormal, i dont have desire for women loool , but they fill my eyes LOOOL )]
On the other hand, man needs to understand that women are made to be complicated / mysterious at times, so when wife is sad or feeling bad or crying, and the husband asked her what's going on, then the wife replied "i dont know huhuhuhu" instead of getting mad at her or thinking that she's crazy, husband has to understand that yes its true sometimes that woman doesnt know why on earth she is sad! lol