Selam aleykum, everyone
I know and truly can understand why it is an great loss not to be able to concieve children of your own. I know I'd have a hard time with this, it makes you kind of feel incomplete, I myself sometimes fear what if I find out I can't have children in the future (astagfirullah!), because I love children, it would be so horrible for me, subhanAllah. I can really understand this.
But to have children is not only about giving birth to the child or making it together with someone. It is about love and seeing the child grow. You may not feel the exact same feelingd as for your "real child", but an adopted or foster child also grants you the parental love, slightly different than that of your biological child, but nonetheless does it become "yours" when you see it grow and learn and you become its parents. I know plenty of people who'll agree with me here and also, if you think you miss something big as you haven't given birth to him/her (the pain, for example), then think of the great pain you may have to deal with if the child grows to dislike you or doubt you when in the future... There are lots of trials you'll go through, some more or less different than that of an biological child, but this doesn't mean these different kinds of trials makes a child less of your own.
There are so, so, SO many orphans in the world. Those children, are our future. Often, some leave their biological children because they can't take care of it, too many kids and too little money/place/time/etc. But this isn't the child's fault. It is all of our obligation to help it, a little baby and child in this world, we are all its parents and teachers, we have to take care of them. Just think if it was you who was the orphan. Just to have someone there, biological or not, is what counts and matters in the end. Your blood-line might not continue, but who cares? Do you continue your blood-line for Allah's sake or is it the love/religious commitment/wisdom/ect that you want to continue for Allah's sake? Your teachings and love will continue, no matter if biological or not. Your care and compassion. Your wisdom, your time. Think about it.
I know and truly can understand why it is an great loss not to be able to concieve children of your own. I know I'd have a hard time with this, it makes you kind of feel incomplete, I myself sometimes fear what if I find out I can't have children in the future (astagfirullah!), because I love children, it would be so horrible for me, subhanAllah. I can really understand this.
But to have children is not only about giving birth to the child or making it together with someone. It is about love and seeing the child grow. You may not feel the exact same feelingd as for your "real child", but an adopted or foster child also grants you the parental love, slightly different than that of your biological child, but nonetheless does it become "yours" when you see it grow and learn and you become its parents. I know plenty of people who'll agree with me here and also, if you think you miss something big as you haven't given birth to him/her (the pain, for example), then think of the great pain you may have to deal with if the child grows to dislike you or doubt you when in the future... There are lots of trials you'll go through, some more or less different than that of an biological child, but this doesn't mean these different kinds of trials makes a child less of your own.
There are so, so, SO many orphans in the world. Those children, are our future. Often, some leave their biological children because they can't take care of it, too many kids and too little money/place/time/etc. But this isn't the child's fault. It is all of our obligation to help it, a little baby and child in this world, we are all its parents and teachers, we have to take care of them. Just think if it was you who was the orphan. Just to have someone there, biological or not, is what counts and matters in the end. Your blood-line might not continue, but who cares? Do you continue your blood-line for Allah's sake or is it the love/religious commitment/wisdom/ect that you want to continue for Allah's sake? Your teachings and love will continue, no matter if biological or not. Your care and compassion. Your wisdom, your time. Think about it.
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if kids are meant to be their then they are, if not then they are not, and subhanallah so much treatments it can be sorted anyway lol so why we worryin!
