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Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Thanks!I have tried to talk to them u know but when my friends and I do try to attack their weak points they just don't wanna listen and change the subject.They actually KNOW what their weak points are and they know the things they say are wrong but they keep sayin' them anyway.I really really pray for them to change but they are not willing to change.But i haven't lost hope.
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

salaam sis
hope this helps!!

Question:


I have a friend who insults Islam and says bad things to me in Ramadaan. How should I deal with him? He is always with me and is always saying these insulting things.

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

Insulting Allaah or Islam is major kufr which puts a person beyond the pale of Islam. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Say: Was it at Allaah and His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and His Messenger that you were mocking?”

66. Make no excuse; you disbelieved after you had believed”

[al-Tawbah 9:65,66]

What you have to do is to remind this slanderer and advise him, and warn him that all his good deeds are to no avail, and that if he does not repent, he will meet Allaah when he is guilty of major kufr.

Tell him that the punishment that he deserves in this world is execution, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever changes his religion, execute him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3017.

Tell him that he must come back to Islam, and that if he comes back and repents, Allaah will accept his repentance.

If he responds, then all well and good, but if he does not respond, it is not permissible for you to stay with him when he is insulting Islam.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen was asked about the ruling on staying among people who insult Allaah, may He be glorified.

He replied:

It is not permissible to stay with people who are insulting Allaah, may He be glorified, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And it has already been revealed to you in the Book (this Qur’aan) that when you hear the Verses of Allaah being denied and mocked at, then sit not with them, until they engage in a talk other than that; (but if you stayed with them) certainly in that case you would be like them. Surely, Allaah will collect the hypocrites and disbelievers all together in Hell”

[al-Nisa’ 4:140]

And Allaah is the Source of strength. End quote.

Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 2/question no. 238

It should be noted that bad company will bring nothing but evil, so protect yourself against that. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) likened a bad companion to the one who operates the bellows: either he will burn your clothes, or you will notice a foul smell from him.

It was narrated from Abu Moosa (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The likeness of a good companion and a bad companion is that of one who carries musk and one who works the bellows. With the carrier of musk, either he will give you some or you will buy some from him, or you will notice a good smell from him; as for the one who works the bellows, either he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell from him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5543; Muslim, 2628.

Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

In this hadeeth the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) likened a good companion to the one who carries musk, and the bad companion to one who works the bellows. It points to the virtue of sitting with righteous, good and honourable people, people of good attitude, awareness, knowledge and manners, and indicates that it is not allowed to sit with evil people and followers of innovation, those who backbite about people or who are foul-mouthed and have nothing better to do, and other blameworthy things. End quote.

Sharh Muslim, 16/178

In conclusion: You have to advise this person who lives with you, who has fallen into major kufr because of his insulting Islam, and who has committed a major sin by insulting you. If he responds to your advice and mends his ways, then stay with him and help him to discipline himself, but if he does not respond, then there is nothing good for you in remaining friends with him.

And Allaah knows best.



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wasalaam:)
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Lara said:
Thanks!I have tried to talk to them u know but when my friends and I do try to attack their weak points they just don't wanna listen and change the subject.They actually KNOW what their weak points are and they know the things they say are wrong but they keep sayin' them anyway.I really really pray for them to change but they are not willing to change.But i haven't lost hope.
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Salam dear sister :)

First thing sister, dont 'attack' their weak points. It would be very insulting. You have said so yourself, they already know their weak point - so there is no point rubbing it in their face. You are being pateint - mashallah. You know Prophet Nuh (as) tried to tell people about the Oneness of Allah for 900 years? And no one would listen.

You yourself must show a good example, be humble and kind. If a moment comes up - yes, explain our position and view on the topic. But also mention to them, that "If at any point when i am talking, you understand what i am saying and it makes sense, would you be willing to accept your creator and my creator, Allah, and worship Him alone with no partners?" This is what Yusuf Estes says (he's a good speaker).

Please ask if you need more help.
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

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Lara said:
Since i live in Lebanon where there are a lot of christians,I sometimes hear my classmates saying things abou the prophet PBUH that are not true,I wouldn't say i'm the most devout muslim in my class or elsewhere but in my class I'm the one who knows most about the prophet PBUH and the history of islam.So i try to explain to them what Islam is all about but it doesn't affect them at all,partially it's because of the way they were raised.They hate islam and i know it (not all of 'em some of my best friends are christians) and they say bad things about it behind our backs but I can still hear them whispering sometimes.I try to control myself and try to talk some some sense into them but I am short-tempered and sometimes i feel so provoqued that i wanna yell and scream at them.but it's wrong doing that.What can i do?
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Their stupidity is depressing as opposed to being funny. Take pity on them and ignore them - yes, i'm aware that it's not easy to do so but most of the time they are doing it for a reaction - looking for another reason to hate muslims. Sad really.
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Thanks a lot!!Jazakom Allah khayran!!!!!
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Lara said:
Since i live in Lebanon where there are a lot of christians,I sometimes hear my classmates saying things abou the prophet PBUH that are not true,I wouldn't say i'm the most devout muslim in my class or elsewhere but in my class I'm the one who knows most about the prophet PBUH and the history of islam.So i try to explain to them what Islam is all about but it doesn't affect them at all,partially it's because of the way they were raised.They hate islam and i know it (not all of 'em some of my best friends are christians) and they say bad things about it behind our backs but I can still hear them whispering sometimes.I try to control myself and try to talk some some sense into them but I am short-tempered and sometimes i feel so provoqued that i wanna yell and scream at them.but it's wrong doing that.What can i do?
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Is it Mohammed life style they are against or Muslims in general?
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

A'salaam alaykum sister,

It is the deen/Faith inside your heart that makes you feel sorry and insulted when some one say wrong about islam. We can only just explain them and show them the right path rest allah is the one who does the rest. It is allah who decide on whom to show the right path. The path of light and mercy, love of all mighty allah. We can only pray. May allah show us the straight path. The path to heaven.
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

:sl:

Surah Furqan verse 63:
And the bondmen of the Most Affectionate are those who walk on the earth modestly and when the ignorant address them, they say, 'peace'.

:w:
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Nicola said:
Is it Mohammed life style they are against or Muslims in general?
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They're against muslims in general and also against Muhammed's (PBUH) lifestyle.So it's both.We live with them in peace ,we go out together from time to time but when it comes to this subject they are very mean and rude ,and I know for sure that when we're not around they do talk about Islam in general in a bad and wrong way.Usually ,what they attack the most is the Hijab ,they pretend that the women in islam wear it agianst their will and polygamy.
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Let them say what they want to, they'll burn in hell for saying it, let them laugh, they won't be laughing when there going to be fried alive in hell fire.
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Nicola said:
Is it Mohammed life style they are against or Muslims in general?
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Hi,
If someone is against our Prophet, it is worse than if they even insulted our mothers.
-Peace
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

one word.... *bakhand!!!!*.

naa sis, explain to them and if they are deaf dum n blind then jus hav sabr inshaAllah :)
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Lara said:
They're against muslims in general and also against Muhammed's (PBUH) lifestyle.So it's both.We live with them in peace ,we go out together from time to time but when it comes to this subject they are very mean and rude ,and I know for sure that when we're not around they do talk about Islam in general in a bad and wrong way.Usually ,what they attack the most is the Hijab ,they pretend that the women in islam wear it agianst their will and polygamy.
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If I was in your position right now, I would carry on has normal with them...showing them your warm kind heart...
every nation, religion on earth have two kinds ofpeople those with kind hearts and those with hearts full of hatered.


We cannot make people believe in what we believe in...I know it is most rude what these people are doing to you...please forgive them for their ignorance and pray that God will change their hearts to one of love instead of hatered...
They are the real ones who need help not you.

God Bless you
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

hafizmo said:
whats the difference in the two please explain?
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Well Muslims did not write the Koran...But most Muslims abide by the rules of the Quran...
So I was wondering if it was Mohammed they where angry about, for being the prophet of Allah and also because of the life style he lead. Or is it they just don't like Muslim people in genral, because they follow the laws of Allah and not the God of the Bible.

hope this clears it up for you.
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Hello Lara

It is hard to suffer ridicule and criticism because of your faith, and I really feel for you.
Even as a Christian living in a 'Christian' country I had to get used to that - from mild teasing from my friends to open hostility from others.

I don't know if this helps you, but for myself I try to separate between the hurt caused to me and the offence caused God.

My own hurt I have to learn to deal with. Either by avoiding certain situations, or by standing firm in my beliefs, or by trying to explain to people quietly.
I constantly have to check my own reactions. Am I getting angry or defensive? If so, why? Am I embarrassed to stand up for my faith? If so, what can I do about it? Do I not know enough about my faith to explain it to others? If so, how can I learn more?
Also, I am doing a lot of forgiving, and praying, praying, PRAYING! :)

As for the offence caused God, I feel that I should leave that to God to deal with himself. It does not matter what punishment or not Ifeel people deserve - God Himself will judge when the time is right, and His judgement will always be just and perfect.

I am embarrassed that Christians are doing this to you and would like to apologise on their behalf, if I can. I don't know how old you are, but you and your classmates must be quite young. Immaturity and ignorance will play a part in your peers' actions, but this sounds like bullying to me and is not okay! Can the situation be helped by talking to your parents and teachers?

I wish you peace.:)

glo
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Lara said:
Since i live in Lebanon where there are a lot of christians,I sometimes hear my classmates saying things abou the prophet PBUH that are not true,I wouldn't say i'm the most devout muslim in my class or elsewhere but in my class I'm the one who knows most about the prophet PBUH and the history of islam.So i try to explain to them what Islam is all about but it doesn't affect them at all,partially it's because of the way they were raised.They hate islam and i know it (not all of 'em some of my best friends are christians) and they say bad things about it behind our backs but I can still hear them whispering sometimes.I try to control myself and try to talk some some sense into them but I am short-tempered and sometimes i feel so provoqued that i wanna yell and scream at them.but it's wrong doing that.What can i do?
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assalaamu alaykum sister,

your sense of protection over the reputation of the prophet Muhammad (saws) is to be commended, it is only though talking to these people the lies of their parents can be disproved.

insha'allah keep up the good work and try to be calm if you can and use kind words and beautiful speech as we advised to use when giving dawah, by none other than Allah (swt) in the Quran.

assalaamu alaykum,
Daw'ud
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

Asalamu Alaikum Sister,

Allah has sealed there hearts, for they may have done acts, that are not worthy of forgiving. I give you one advice.... Do what prophet Mohammad did in the following... and they will learn to know how great Islam is through your actions.

The Garbage Thrower:
by Haji Hadi

She thought till late at midnight and finally decided how to take revenge from him. She could not sleep all night, because she was too eager to take revenge for the idols she worshiped. Even before the first ray of sunlight had entered her window, she was busy sweeping her house. She saved all the garbage in a basket, placed it on the roof of her house and proudly looked at it for a while, then with an impatient look on her face, she looked at the street that she lived on, and thought, "No one has ever seen him angry. Everybody will praise me when they will see him shouting at me and getting mad. They will laugh at him and make fun of him." She looked at the basket again and grinned.

Meanwhile, she heard footsteps, announcing the approach of the end of her waiting. "Finally my prey has arrived," she thought, as she saw a man dressed in clean, white clothes coming that way. She picked up the basket in her hands and threw all the garbage on him when he passed by. Much to the woman's disappointment, he did not say anything and continued on his way.

She did the same the following day thinking, "Maybe this time I will be able to annoy him." But he was too gentle to shout at a woman. She misinterpreted his attitude as fear and decided to repeat the same mischief everyday in order to keep him frightened, so that he might stop preaching the Oneness of God.

This gentleman whom the woman hated so much was Muhammad (pbuh), the last prophet of Allah Almighty. He did not want to disappoint the woman and so continued to walk down the street everyday, instead of picking an alternate route, and prayed for the woman to recognise the Truth.

One day, the Holy Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) did not find the woman to be on the roof of her house with the basket. This worried him, because he thought something must have happened to her for not being over there. So he knocked at the door. "Who is it?" asked a feeble voice. "Muhammad bin Abdullah," was the reply, "can I come in?" The woman feared, "I am sick, and too weak to fight or talk back, therefore Muhammad has come to take revenge for what I have been doing to him." But the permission to enter her house was in such a gentle voice that she allowed him in.

Muhammad (pbuh) entered the house and told the woman that not finding her on the roof had worried him and he thus wanted to inquire about her health. On finding out how ill she was, he gently asked if she needed any help. Hypnotised by the affectionate tone in the Holy Prophet's (pbuh) blessed voice, she forgot all fear and asked for some water. He kindly gave her some in a utensil and prayed for her health, while she quenched her thirst. This made her feel very guilty for being so cruel to him in the past and she apologised for her mean behaviour. He forgave her and came to her house everyday to clean it, to feed her and to pray for her, till she was on her feet again. The kind attitude of the Holy Prophet (pbuh) inspired her into the recognition of the Truth, and his prayers were answered in the form of yet another addition into the growing number of Muslims.
 
Re: how I can respond to those who disrespect muslims

If someone is against our Prophet, then he has a problam with me.
 

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