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Re: what can i do!

I think the key to this is that he is only 6 YEARS OLD! How to you expect him to be tough when he is still so young?
 
Re: what can i do!

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I have been bullied at age of 10 constantly. My mom threaten them and their moms, yet they still bullied, so in the end I had to be rude and very rude used in apprioate language and even threaten them with a knife then they stopped.

I'd say you should go to them and give them a shout and threaten them of the cops involvement might by necessary. In Canada, it is taken as a serious crime to bully anyone, a child of 11 years old was arrested and charged of bullying a 8 year old kid.

Not sure where you live, but if it is a considered a crime then you should threaten them.

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it honestly breaks my heart to see him upset, it brings his confidence down! i'm gonna ask my sister to send him to self defence! he used to do boxing as my brother does, but he doesnt have time anymore ........uncles! (roll eyes). he isnt a weak kid but when loadz of boys older than you gang up on ya isnt easy to fight off! the other day he was wet through becouse they had attacked him with water baloons, however he got one tjose big milk bottles and filled it with water and was fighting back, 1 agains many! i was proud, but when it comes to fist (hope not) whats he gonna do?
 
Re: what can i do!

:sl:

Nothing sister. You guys should help him, he is only 6 years old. You need to show those bullies that he is not alone. Tell him to get friends and his uncles to support him. Once the bully sees that, he will shortly back out.

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Re: what can i do!

Asalamu Alaikum

I recommend he take martial arts... not boxing. Boxing is 1 on 1 type of deal... with martial arts he can take several people if necessary.

Second... He shouldn't travel alone.

Let him fight his own battles... just give him guidance... He has to learn the world is a tough place and how to survive in it.

Sheltering him doesn't solve anything.

W'salaamz,
Hamid
 
Re: what can i do!

ya_Giney said:
my eldest nephew is 6yrs old, and we put the strain on him to look after my other small nephews, but lately i know he is getting bullied by older boys or boys who have older brother around our block! my sister always stresses at him to toughen up and i think he is but he cant fight boys who are double his size! :rollseyes i think this might cause other problems, as we constantly have a go at him to not be afraid of them! we try and not to get into it and let him fight his own battles but at end of the day he's still our baby and you cant help sticking up for him! what would be usefull? :heated:
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I think you should boost his moral by teaching the bullies a lesson in front of him, and set that as an example for him to follow... train him to be strong and self-confident so when he gets a little older he'll know how to handle matters for himself.

If he sees an example of what he should be doing, he'll feel that he's got someone to lean onto incase he needs help, and he'll be confident in himself that he's got "big guys" behind him as well.

at same time.. don't turn him into a gangster lol... teach him self-control along wtih self-defence.

salams
 
Re: Help!

Asalamulaikum

I totaly disagree with what this brother sed. Defo dnt tell em u already have a girlfriend because what kind of impression are u giving to them about muslims. this is a wonderful dawah oportunity for u. tell them ur muslim and therefore dnt date, if they ask why, go into the reasons about why its haram such as the Allah swt and the prophet saw forbade it n u have to obey ur creator. Also its haram to lie so by telling them u already have a girlfriend u wud be lying, and one lie always leads to another lie and so on. Also Allah swt may ask u on the day of judgment "when u had the opportunity to giv dawah, u didnt do but instead u lied" Brother just tell em strate, ur muslim n dnt date, dnt make up lies.

Asalamulaikum
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i do nit know if u still have this problem but id like to say i liked this reply....

dress up taliban style and they'll get rid of them
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= dress islamically
 
Re: Help!

limitless said:
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Thank you sister, I will try to be stronger next time (inshallah). Yeah lol I get very shy when I am around girls :\ i feel as though I might have a nerveous break down, it's scary sometimes.

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Lol, just don't faint bro! Like everyone else said, stick to the truth and tell them you don't do dating. Or simply say, sorry I don't feel the same way about you. Or go cock-eyed when passing females lol. Keep reciting something and Allah will protect you from their devilish fantasies. They might also start to think you are talking to yourself and hopefully be put off. :D

I remember this story about a very pious man who was the object of desire for this woman. Somehow, she summoned him to her house (I can't remember why etcetc...)
Once there she made her intentions quite clear and the poor man tried to get away. She locked the main gate and hid the key. Now he was trapped with a woman suffering from fatal attraction. So not knowing what else to do he told her he needed the bathroom and there he covered himself with his own faeces, knowing that now the woman wouldn't come near him even if he begged her to. Unsurprisingly, when he came out the woman retched at the smell and let him go.

At least you'd never have to resort to such drastic measures! ;D
 
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Muslimah_Sis said:
Lol, just don't faint bro! Like everyone else said, stick to the truth and tell them you don't do dating. Or simply say, sorry I don't feel the same way about you. Or go cock-eyed when passing females lol. Keep reciting something and Allah will protect you from their devilish fantasies. They might also start to think you are talking to yourself and hopefully be put off. :D

I remember this story about a very pious man who was the object of desire for this woman. Somehow, she summoned him to her house (I can't remember why etcetc...)
Once there she made her intentions quite clear and the poor man tried to get away. She locked the main gate and hid the key. Now he was trapped with a woman suffering from fatal attraction. So not knowing what else to do he told her he needed the bathroom and there he covered himself with his own faeces, knowing that now the woman wouldn't come near him even if he begged her to. Unsurprisingly, when he came out the woman retched at the smell and let him go.

At least you'd never have to resort to such drastic measures! ;D
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Re: Help!

yes i know that story, he used to sell porfumes and they called him ba'ee al-misk... i love his story masha'allah

if a girl grabs ur arm, look at her with disgust+shock of how low she can be and say, "r u ok miss? ^o) "

man id like to see that happen ;D
 
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ask 'em if they're interested in becoming muslims and tell him the address of some masjid (one that you don't go to - just in case!).
 
Re: Help!

limitless said:
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Oh and one more, what are you suppose to do when a girl asks you out for a "date", I mean you generally would say no, but then she says she will commit sucide and etc... . What is a muslim brother suppose to do then? Sorry they may be "stupid" questions but I don't think my mom could help me, and I feel very shy to talk about girls with her or anyone else. And I am shy to talk to girls as well.

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:sl: brother. do your part, and if she commits suicide well than you know shes not worth it, cause if she was, she would be a stronger girl.

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darul-loom

inshallah i will be attending darul-loom soon and some members of family are being so un-supporticve saying ill come back without finishing!!it reli upsets me and makes me angry:cry:
 
Re: darul-loom

salaams

go 4 it girl :thumbs_up ive been to draul uloom aswell unfortunetly i neva finish my studies but i tell u 1 thing it makes no diffrence weather or not u finish it (inshallah u will) the enviroment tht ur in just changes u .draul uloom has gt 2 b one the best xperinces in my life so far. my mate her parents neva supportd her but she still went n did it n now her whole family has become religious.1 thing girl if u do finish ur islamic studies neva ever think tht u knw everything nowadays there r loads of alimah's hu think tht they knw everything n they r the 1's hu end up in the most **** in the real world.(u myt not get wat i mean:p)

hpe allah makes everything easy 4 u :thumbs_up
 
Re: darul-loom

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woo-hoo!

sister, I went to Jamea-Al-Kauthar!

Its the best Jamea going! Masha'Allah
you'll love it!
you will make great friends who you can increase in your quest for knowledge with and have fun at the same time!

unfornately I didn't finish my studies either (I regret leaving) but I left due to family commitments.

Whatever Allah(swt) does he does for the best.

but I wish I went when I was at a younger age.

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Re: darul-loom

soulsociety said:
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Is there a lot of bullying in girl's madrasah?
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there isnt bullying as such,

but there are times when you wish you could throttle some of the younger
11-16yr olds because of their petty, childish, disruptive behaviour.

InshaAllah, they have been chosen by Allah to be Alimah's and probably have rare qualities (dawah, etc)

may Allah make it easy for them, make them successful, righteous Alimaat.
Ameen.
 

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