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Re: Help!
r u sure this is a good advice to give??
This is a sure way tell her u got std's lol, P.S. will probably result in major bullying.
r u sure this is a good advice to give??
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u know wat u sound like sum1 i know, this sint hu i think it is is it.........???? nahhhhh dont think so! hmmmm jus ignore em init! happens alot 2 sum1 i know even tho he a practisin bro hu dresses islamically etc etc
I had many incidents like this, I am walking in my high school uniform (private school) and these girls (Christians) call me and say "hey, my friend says your hot" and others similar to it. I mean one time, one girl literally grabbed my arm and wouldn't let go of me it was very difficult to get out of that situation, anyone know what should I do when this happens?I don't show my body or anything at all. I cover my body like how a muslim brother is suppose to.
u know wat u sound like sum1 i know, this sint hu i think it is is it.........???? nahhhhh dont think so! hmmmm jus ignore em init! happens alot 2 sum1 i know even tho he a practisin bro hu dresses islamically etc etc
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just thought i'd share this with you..
My Jamea friend called me up earlier, i was on the phone to her for about an hour and a half, Alhamdulillah i had already finished praying Taraweeh by then, so it was okay to chat we had a really nice conversation hadnt spoken to her since she last came for the holidays...one of my Ex room mates is an Appa there...she apparently is very strict! ...you will be sure to know who she is when you start after Ramadhaan Insha'Allah, lol! one thing which is strangely amazing is few of the appa's were younger than me by a year or so, but the amount of respect you develop for the appa's is incredible, you'll know what i mean once you go!
Sis you are so lucky you are going to Jamea, especially Jamea -Al- K its a fab jamea!..... i really miss it!.... I might go back someday, Insha'Allah
*sigh* I'd have been in Mishkat this year if I didnt leave..
dont worry sis you'll love it!
just thought i'd share this with you..
My Jamea friend called me up earlier, i was on the phone to her for about an hour and a half, Alhamdulillah i had already finished praying Taraweeh by then, so it was okay to chat we had a really nice conversation hadnt spoken to her since she last came for the holidays...one of my Ex room mates is an Appa there...she apparently is very strict! ...you will be sure to know who she is when you start after Ramadhaan Insha'Allah, lol! one thing which is strangely amazing is few of the appa's were younger than me by a year or so, but the amount of respect you develop for the appa's is incredible, you'll know what i mean once you go!
Sis you are so lucky you are going to Jamea, especially Jamea -Al- K its a fab jamea!..... i really miss it!.... I might go back someday, Insha'Allah
*sigh* I'd have been in Mishkat this year if I didnt leave..
dont worry sis you'll love it!
Help ... !
i have a younger brother who is 13 yrs old and all he does is keep making mistakes and the more you stop him the more mistakes he makes, he holds a criminal at the age of 13 which doesn't indicate anything good... he doesn't listen to anyone, always getting locked away e.t.c. what should i do... ?
to bring him on the right path... ?
i have a younger brother who is 13 yrs old and all he does is keep making mistakes and the more you stop him the more mistakes he makes, he holds a criminal at the age of 13 which doesn't indicate anything good... he doesn't listen to anyone, always getting locked away e.t.c. what should i do... ?
to bring him on the right path... ?
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You should try and be a good listener. Be very polite to him and ask him to confess his issues to you. You are the adult here, so try to get his intentions and show him how children in the world are attempting to make a difference and those who are unfortunate. This should help, when he sees those kids who don't have the luxury as your brother, or those who are making a positive impact at his age; might bring him to the good path.
You should try and be a good listener. Be very polite to him and ask him to confess his issues to you. You are the adult here, so try to get his intentions and show him how children in the world are attempting to make a difference and those who are unfortunate. This should help, when he sees those kids who don't have the luxury as your brother, or those who are making a positive impact at his age; might bring him to the good path.
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Assalmualikum warhmathullahi warbarakathuhu
oh subhanallah! lol this lingo what what says lol am really sowiee to hear that Ukthi, it's very upsetting when a member of your love ones gets locked up i mean my brother got locked up && it was like hell for the rest fo the family
anywho what you should do is NOT pest him because the more your going to go after him he's going to do it more, like you say the more you tell someone of the more they do it for seeking attention, now best thing to do is be kind to him && as his very young you should listen to him do what ever he tells like i mean not things like "oi go get me this && that" i mean some times sit with him && tell him you know what will happen when we die i mean read him some books on "life after death", pray to Allah subhanwatallah he leads him to thy right path inshallah, just be patient inshallah
do me a favour remember me in your Du3'ahs inshallah
walikumassalm warhmathullahi warbarakathuhu
Assalmualikum warhmathullahi warbarakathuhu
oh subhanallah! lol this lingo what what says lol am really sowiee to hear that Ukthi, it's very upsetting when a member of your love ones gets locked up i mean my brother got locked up && it was like hell for the rest fo the family
anywho what you should do is NOT pest him because the more your going to go after him he's going to do it more, like you say the more you tell someone of the more they do it for seeking attention, now best thing to do is be kind to him && as his very young you should listen to him do what ever he tells like i mean not things like "oi go get me this && that" i mean some times sit with him && tell him you know what will happen when we die i mean read him some books on "life after death", pray to Allah subhanwatallah he leads him to thy right path inshallah, just be patient inshallah
do me a favour remember me in your Du3'ahs inshallah
walikumassalm warhmathullahi warbarakathuhu
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Re: Help ... !
I think a boot camp sounds like a good idea... I know there are people who turn good because of the boot camp experience... not because they are forced to do something but... just enough to read the Quran... and once they actually pick up the Quran and having nothing else to do around the camp... they read with full attention and understand the message it conveys and they think about how they are living their lives...
Remember it is Allah who guides us to the right path... you just have to point him to the righ direction.
Make duah for him... and Inshallah Allah will guide him. Ameen.
W'salaamz
I think a boot camp sounds like a good idea... I know there are people who turn good because of the boot camp experience... not because they are forced to do something but... just enough to read the Quran... and once they actually pick up the Quran and having nothing else to do around the camp... they read with full attention and understand the message it conveys and they think about how they are living their lives...
Remember it is Allah who guides us to the right path... you just have to point him to the righ direction.
Make duah for him... and Inshallah Allah will guide him. Ameen.
W'salaamz
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Assalamu aleikum
He is still young and not responsible.sometimes kids need some adult who stands their groung to face them.boys mostly can only be tamed a male figure.try to get maybe a dad or an uncle involved in his life.
Try to get him involved with da islamic community,and most effective way of being a role model is by example,and pliz dont judge him,it will only drive him away .i hope that helps.
Assalamu aleikum
He is still young and not responsible.sometimes kids need some adult who stands their groung to face them.boys mostly can only be tamed a male figure.try to get maybe a dad or an uncle involved in his life.
Try to get him involved with da islamic community,and most effective way of being a role model is by example,and pliz dont judge him,it will only drive him away .i hope that helps.
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Re: Help ... !
He is still small and innocent Sister. Let him grow up a little, insha Allah you'll see that he'll completely changed by the time he'll grown up. I've also brothers, when they were small, they were very naughty but as they were growing, their behaviour changed and, alhamdullillah, they're okay now. You should never be disappointed in life. It's the nature of kids when they're small, they tend to be mischievious and that's all. Rest assure, it's nothing to be worried about. Insha Allah very soon, he'll changed. Have faith in Allah!!!
He is still small and innocent Sister. Let him grow up a little, insha Allah you'll see that he'll completely changed by the time he'll grown up. I've also brothers, when they were small, they were very naughty but as they were growing, their behaviour changed and, alhamdullillah, they're okay now. You should never be disappointed in life. It's the nature of kids when they're small, they tend to be mischievious and that's all. Rest assure, it's nothing to be worried about. Insha Allah very soon, he'll changed. Have faith in Allah!!!
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^He is 13 not 3 sis lol
I like the 'boot-camp' and 'visit to a poor country' idea. But make friends with him first and get him to open up. It may be that he is rebellious becuz things are going on with him which he can't tell no one about.. e.g. bullying/abuse.
If his behavior is simply due to mixing with the wrong crowd then get your parents to take other measures as suggested before.
Keep making duaa for him inshaAllah.
^He is 13 not 3 sis lol
I like the 'boot-camp' and 'visit to a poor country' idea. But make friends with him first and get him to open up. It may be that he is rebellious becuz things are going on with him which he can't tell no one about.. e.g. bullying/abuse.
If his behavior is simply due to mixing with the wrong crowd then get your parents to take other measures as suggested before.
Keep making duaa for him inshaAllah.
Re: Help ... !
Assalamu Aleykum,
Am very upset to hear that people still consider a thirteen year old 'young' maybe to non-muslims, I guess it echo's the undeniable truth that Muslims seem to adapt alot of the ways of non-muslim.
Most people at thirteen are physically capable to have kids, surely this is a sign that they are not kids themselves.
I think society natures them with the mindstate that they are kids until 16 then young adults at like 18 or so.
It is unfourtunate that Muslims raise their kids as such.
Personally, what I think worked with me, though noone done it, is at a good time, when he is happy, call him to your room, sit him down and ask him to be honest with you, that your not going to pester him, but ask him how he feels he is making the family feel, how he feels that the woman who had him in his stomach for so long is seeing him go through what he goes through. Do it in a calm way, not confrontive, say "Can I ask you something.." be suggestive, use phrases like "what do you think about this and that.." to get him to open up, and think and talk to you, say "tell me what you think we should do to make mum happy" remind him that your human too, he'll prolly be thinking 'pfft you done this and that' but wont say it or not properly so ask him "Bro, tell me what I need to change bout myself, give me advise" and so on.
It will be hard depending on what type of family yall are and so on.
Eesa
Assalamu Aleykum,
Am very upset to hear that people still consider a thirteen year old 'young' maybe to non-muslims, I guess it echo's the undeniable truth that Muslims seem to adapt alot of the ways of non-muslim.
Most people at thirteen are physically capable to have kids, surely this is a sign that they are not kids themselves.
I think society natures them with the mindstate that they are kids until 16 then young adults at like 18 or so.
It is unfourtunate that Muslims raise their kids as such.
Personally, what I think worked with me, though noone done it, is at a good time, when he is happy, call him to your room, sit him down and ask him to be honest with you, that your not going to pester him, but ask him how he feels he is making the family feel, how he feels that the woman who had him in his stomach for so long is seeing him go through what he goes through. Do it in a calm way, not confrontive, say "Can I ask you something.." be suggestive, use phrases like "what do you think about this and that.." to get him to open up, and think and talk to you, say "tell me what you think we should do to make mum happy" remind him that your human too, he'll prolly be thinking 'pfft you done this and that' but wont say it or not properly so ask him "Bro, tell me what I need to change bout myself, give me advise" and so on.
It will be hard depending on what type of family yall are and so on.
Eesa
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I agree with Eesa.
Thirteen may seem young to some, but it is a vital age when young people find out about themselves and develop their own identity.
Some people will not listen to the advice of others and only learn from their own mistakes (You sometimes hear about people going off the railings for a while, and finding back to God later in life - or even finding faith because the have fallen so low in life ...)
But it shouldn't discourage you from trying to speak to your brother - in a loving and calm way, as Eesa suggested. Or perhaps even just listen to what's troubling him!
He needs to know that you are there for him, and that you love him - no matter what mistakes he may make!
He is very blessed to have a caring sister like you!
He may not be aware of that at the moment, but God willing one day he might.
Peace
I agree with Eesa.
Thirteen may seem young to some, but it is a vital age when young people find out about themselves and develop their own identity.
Some people will not listen to the advice of others and only learn from their own mistakes (You sometimes hear about people going off the railings for a while, and finding back to God later in life - or even finding faith because the have fallen so low in life ...)
But it shouldn't discourage you from trying to speak to your brother - in a loving and calm way, as Eesa suggested. Or perhaps even just listen to what's troubling him!
He needs to know that you are there for him, and that you love him - no matter what mistakes he may make!
He is very blessed to have a caring sister like you!
He may not be aware of that at the moment, but God willing one day he might.
Peace
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Bullying
I am having a big problem with bullying at school. It's not the classic senario of being picked on over and over by one group of people, it's that loads of people that I don't know pick on me, and it's so bad I'm afraid to move about outside. There's this gang of chavs who run up to me and pretend to hit me, there are a group of chavettes (female chavs, girls that smoke behind buildings) who keep harrassing me (one of them pushed my friend onto the floor and sat on his back which hurt him so much that he had trouble bending it afterwards), and there is a gang of younger boys who carry sticks around and throw mud at me. And what's worse is that these people don't pick on me for any reason, they just single me out because ''it's Oliver!''. imsad
I am having a big problem with bullying at school. It's not the classic senario of being picked on over and over by one group of people, it's that loads of people that I don't know pick on me, and it's so bad I'm afraid to move about outside. There's this gang of chavs who run up to me and pretend to hit me, there are a group of chavettes (female chavs, girls that smoke behind buildings) who keep harrassing me (one of them pushed my friend onto the floor and sat on his back which hurt him so much that he had trouble bending it afterwards), and there is a gang of younger boys who carry sticks around and throw mud at me. And what's worse is that these people don't pick on me for any reason, they just single me out because ''it's Oliver!''. imsad
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Kick
Their
Ass
You'll get all this lah-de-dah advice, but with habitual bullying that has not stopped when all other avenues have been exhausted, that's the only viable solution short of calling the police.
Kick
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Ass
You'll get all this lah-de-dah advice, but with habitual bullying that has not stopped when all other avenues have been exhausted, that's the only viable solution short of calling the police.
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Re: Bullying
Just try to stay clear of them, or go to the authorities.
Just try to stay clear of them, or go to the authorities.
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Re: Bullying
yep he's right. If you can't do it yourself hang out with someone that will do it for you for a while, and soon the bullying will wear off...
yep he's right. If you can't do it yourself hang out with someone that will do it for you for a while, and soon the bullying will wear off...