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Blessings and peace be with you F0z14;
Time spent on your own is the toughest, all kind of thoughts and doubts go through your head. You might have to struggle with these thoughts about the man for another two or three year. Perceived love and rejection are powerful emotions to overcome. These thoughts will be a distraction to your study and to your faith
You can find a beneficial love in the future, but it is so much better to try and end this one fully and totally in your own mind before you enter another relationship the Islamic way.
I struggled through something very similar thirty five years ago, I know you can also come out of this a better and kinder person.
Did you read post 73, you posted a couple of minutes after
In the spirit of praying for the strength to go through one more day.
Eric
Time spent on your own is the toughest, all kind of thoughts and doubts go through your head. You might have to struggle with these thoughts about the man for another two or three year. Perceived love and rejection are powerful emotions to overcome. These thoughts will be a distraction to your study and to your faith
You can find a beneficial love in the future, but it is so much better to try and end this one fully and totally in your own mind before you enter another relationship the Islamic way.
I struggled through something very similar thirty five years ago, I know you can also come out of this a better and kinder person.
Did you read post 73, you posted a couple of minutes after
In the spirit of praying for the strength to go through one more day.
Eric
i just made a right fool out of myself! basically i owed this guy £50 still and ive been reading that on the day of Judgement u have 2 account 4 everything, so i went to give it him back, and i wanted give it myself as it was my duty. not only that i wanted 2 ask 4 his forgivness in this month of Ramazan because i think that was the main thing not allowing me 2 move on, and he told me 2 **** off, he didnt even give the time of the day. he said he dont want money, i said its my duty 2 give it back 2 u, if u dnt want it give it 2 charity. n then he literally pushed me out. i texted him sayin that u misinterpreted me comin, i only gave u money 4 the sake of Allah, and i only asked 4 forgivness 4 the sake of Allah, not because i need u. i want to please Allah, i could die tmro, i dnt wana die in debt or having wronged some1. he jus doesnt care. he pushed me. he doesnt even fear Allah SWT. i feel a fool 4 going and him prob thinks that i still want him but at the same time alhamdulilah i have done my duties, i paid my debt, i said sorry and i also gave him dua. now i can move on without dwelling on my actions, and leave him to Allah
have i done wrong?
have i done wrong?
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^ i woulda used a middle man, but other then that past is past eh ;o
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^ realise he sucks n u dont
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With the benefit of age I can tell you that your pain will pass and you can help make it pass more quickly just by believing that it WILL pass and on a future date you WILL look back and see that although at the time it was hugely important, in fact it was just a part of life’s ups and downs.
On a practical level (not sure how it fits alongside Islam but) yoga, meditation and acupuncture could help with anxiety.
Believe me, the pain WILL pass.
On a practical level (not sure how it fits alongside Islam but) yoga, meditation and acupuncture could help with anxiety.
Believe me, the pain WILL pass.
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you have done what you needed to do you have asked him to forgive you and you paid back the money but i feel the only thing now to do is to stay away from him you have to tell your self passed is passed now its a new start for me and start as you mean to go on and insha'Allah Allah swt will ease your hardship
Blessings and peace be with you F0z14;
In spite of all these intense feelings, you need to get out and lead your life, study, pray. Forget the £50, you have offered to pay it back, give it to charity. Push yourself to go out, do not stalk him, do not find excuses to be in a place that he might be.
On the other hand do not be afraid to walk out to do your studies, your shopping, praying and all the other day to day stuff you need to do.
It is so easy to give advice, because we are not suffering as you are, only you can live the emotions that go through your mind.
You are in my prayers.
In the spirit of praying for the strength to go through one more day.
Eric
These feelings are not going to go easily, truthfully it is an inner struggle, a “jihad”
In spite of all these intense feelings, you need to get out and lead your life, study, pray. Forget the £50, you have offered to pay it back, give it to charity. Push yourself to go out, do not stalk him, do not find excuses to be in a place that he might be.
On the other hand do not be afraid to walk out to do your studies, your shopping, praying and all the other day to day stuff you need to do.
It is so easy to give advice, because we are not suffering as you are, only you can live the emotions that go through your mind.
You are in my prayers.
In the spirit of praying for the strength to go through one more day.
Eric
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Sis you took advice b4 you gave the money and you made ur choice accordingly, whatever you did is done so no point fretting over it.
You did what you had to do and now u gotta continue to do wat u gotta do..and that is stay strong.
Blesh
Sis you took advice b4 you gave the money and you made ur choice accordingly, whatever you did is done so no point fretting over it.
You did what you had to do and now u gotta continue to do wat u gotta do..and that is stay strong.
Blesh
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okay so literally u have nothing to worry about now.....u use everything u can, u asked for forgiveness and try to return the money you owed to that guy...so now you have nothing to regret....I think its gonna be easier for u to move on. I think now u really had enough of him. I think by behaving that way you are fully satisfied from all views
and to be honest I did expect that he will act that way, but khair (may be that was for you good....who knows what allah is want at the end)
think carefully about this ayah:
but it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. but ALLAH knoweth, and ye know not.
[1.34]
u did what you had to. and its your turn now to think about yourself and start a good life from the scratch. he did not deserve your pure intent to return the money to him....he keep thinking about what he want to think..so at the end he did'nt deserve u to think about asking forgiveness from him even for a little tiny moment.
so its time to move on now.............throw everything behind your back
and to be honest I did expect that he will act that way, but khair (may be that was for you good....who knows what allah is want at the end)
think carefully about this ayah:
but it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. but ALLAH knoweth, and ye know not.
[1.34]
u did what you had to. and its your turn now to think about yourself and start a good life from the scratch. he did not deserve your pure intent to return the money to him....he keep thinking about what he want to think..so at the end he did'nt deserve u to think about asking forgiveness from him even for a little tiny moment.
so its time to move on now.............throw everything behind your back
AsalaamAlaykum my dear brothers and sisters on LI. hope u all are fine inshAllah. sorry i havent really been on much lately. jus thought id give u an update incase any of u are worried... lol.
havent been on much cuz i have moved apartments, me and my flatmate moved into a 2 bed apartment in private accomodation. alhamdulilah i feel so much better, im so glad i moved out, ive done the best thing ever. im doing alot better mashAllah, jus concentratin on my Deen and studies. met some really nice sisters aswel. so alhamdulilah im alot better.
i mean sometimes i still feel weak, when i hear of things i start to remember the past, and sometimes i feel realy left behind because i dnt see any of my friends from last year, but then i remind myself that im alot better off and i have something which they dont have, guidance from Allah.
i want to thank everybody for ur kind words and support. im sorry if ever i have been annoying or ever said anything i shouldnt. inshAllah i will make dua for each and every single one of you
JazakAllah
havent been on much cuz i have moved apartments, me and my flatmate moved into a 2 bed apartment in private accomodation. alhamdulilah i feel so much better, im so glad i moved out, ive done the best thing ever. im doing alot better mashAllah, jus concentratin on my Deen and studies. met some really nice sisters aswel. so alhamdulilah im alot better.
i mean sometimes i still feel weak, when i hear of things i start to remember the past, and sometimes i feel realy left behind because i dnt see any of my friends from last year, but then i remind myself that im alot better off and i have something which they dont have, guidance from Allah.
i want to thank everybody for ur kind words and support. im sorry if ever i have been annoying or ever said anything i shouldnt. inshAllah i will make dua for each and every single one of you
JazakAllah
