Can I stop talking to a boy?

Riana17 said:
Salam Ukhtee,

So you are still at school? Very young mashallah.

So I understand you are developing to him and yes it is very common for teenage girls to fall for a'l'a feminine men, that's how we will get attach
We are not after looks, we love men you understand women and we hate maniac men lol

So I guess from advises given, you know which ones for you
Dont try the fire on, you are young and weak, at this stage you should avoid communicating with him further not to develop this young feelings of yours, maybe you can talk about school stuff with other girls?

My case was different, I was young and inlove but nothing committed just because poor life is pulling me back, I dont wanna marry early and I pray to have a better life, that's what held me in, but if case is different like I could go to school not worrying about consequences because parents provide well, I guess I could end up pregnant and no way I want that.


Nothing serious so far, I think you are on your mind it's okay to admire
its cute feelings, we oldies cant feel that anymore looool
so i guess,admire far far away?


I dont like to tight on you really, I didnt regret once that I had crushes before, its really cute but alhamdollellah I know where I stand.
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Salam Alaykum,

Yes, I am still in school, but I am not THAT young.:smile:
Maybe that is the reason I am trying to break this tie: after 2 years, I've come to like his personality. That is why I don't want this 'friend' relationship to end, so nothing happens. Astaghfirullah, I will never commit the dangerous 'zina' but I feel like the zina of the eyes will catch me. If I knew that I wasn't allowed to talk to boys in the first place, I would not have been his friend.
 
Salam Ukhtee :)
You are on track, perhaps complete your schooling first ?
and let's wait for him to ask your hand, I remember I was too embarrassed to tell a man about my feelings before he does. Even I grow up in open country, I guess that's prideee lool
and I'm glad when he told me he likes me and he will follow me, I was already over him, alhamdollellah, which means I am meant for my loving husband, a Muslim man. Alhamdolllelah, alhamdollellah
 
Riana17 said:
Salam Ukhtee :)
You are on track, perhaps complete your schooling first ?
and let's wait for him to ask your hand, I remember I was too embarrassed to tell a man about my feelings before he does. Even I grow up in open country, I guess that's prideee lool
and I'm glad when he told me he likes me and he will follow me, I was already over him, alhamdollellah, which means I am meant for my loving husband, a Muslim man. Alhamdolllelah, alhamdollellah
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Sister, are you married? I feel like you have gone through what I am going through.
 
Yes dear alhamdollellah, if you want to talk further and you dont wanna post it here I can msg you my email :)

I hope I can be at help to you and we can be friends too :) i love online friends more than people in person, online friends cant hurt you the way real human around lol
 
Blooming.Flower said:
Assalamu Alaykum.
I am very sorry for the confusion.

About 25% of our conversation is about school and the other 75% is about random things. But there are always other girls around too, so we're not alone.

I talk to him because he is not like other guys. He doesn't talk about girls or sports. He has a feminine side to him. I've known him for 2 years now but I can't seem to end this friendship. That is why I am asking for advice on how to break this tie. Should I gradually stop talking to him so we get farther away from each other?

I am very thankful for the Muslims here who are trying to help me.
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Yes gradually stop but this will only work if you put the effort in, when you wish to get married you should find a good pious man who preserves his modesty by not hanging around with girls, don't fall for this trap of "he's not like other guys", because this is exactly what shaytaan wants you to think, he beautifies the haraam for you with idea's such as the one you mentioned and makes ugly the halal. I'm sure you saw that in the shaytaan video's I posted right?
 
I think you will find this very beneficial. It's about a girl who fell for the traps of a man, Most men "are not like other guys" until they get what they want.

 
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aadil77 said:
I have to disagree with brothers adrianto and Tyrion. The prophet is an exceptional case, he was mahram to all woman. Interacting with the oppositie gender is allowed up to a certain limit.

Theres no possible way to maintain friendship with a woman you are non-mahram to whilst staying within islamic limits.
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Right! We (females) are not the asahabiyat and no man is like the Prophet. Khalaas!
 
Salahudeen said:
Yes gradually stop but this will only work if you put the effort in, when you wish to get married you should find a good pious man who preserves his modesty by not hanging around with girls, don't fall for this trap of "he's not like other guys", because this is exactly what shaytaan wants you to think, he beautifies the haraam for you with idea's such as the one you mentioned and makes ugly the halal. I'm sure you saw that in the shaytaan video's I posted right?
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Salam Alaykum,

Yes, I have seen the videos you have posted, thank you. I never actually thought of how shaytan will try to make me feel like that. I thought that when I said, "He is not like other guys," it was coming from me.

Thank you for sharing the video. I will try to get out of the trap, the situation I am in.

Jazakhallah Khair.
 
marwen said:


This is not correct too. The prophet was not mahram to all women, and he did not mix with women.
He answers non mahram women's questions from behind a veil/curtain

female sahaba who were not mahram to the prophet were not his friends.
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Sorry I meant he was allowed to be alone with women he was not mahram to.

You can read more here: http://islamqa.info/en/ref/45696
 
Blooming.Flower said:
Salam Alaykum,

Yes, I have seen the videos you have posted, thank you. I never actually thought of how shaytan will try to make me feel like that. I thought that when I said, "He is not like other guys," it was coming from me.

Thank you for sharing the video. I will try to get out of the trap, the situation I am in.

Jazakhallah Khair.
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Of course, that's why pre-marital relationships often fail, because once the deed is done and shaytaan has got what he's wanted and quits his whispering, both people wake up and think why the hell did I do that for, I sacrificed my honour and dignity for what? What kind of person am I with that has done this with me etc this is what goes through your mind after. Sorrow, guilt, anxiety, despair. Best to save yourself from this head ache.
 
Salahudeen said:
Of course, that's why pre-marital relationships often fail, because once the deed is done and shaytaan has got what he's wanted and quits his whispering, both people wake up and think why the hell did I do that for, I sacrificed my honour and dignity for what? What kind of person am I with that has done this with me etc this is what goes through your mind after. Sorrow, guilt, anxiety, despair. Best to save yourself from this head ache.
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Jazakhallah Khair. Thank you for the advice and the videos you have shown.
 

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