Sis Snowflake,I feels the advice given are more than enough If the man in question wants to act.All in all his focus should be on what he have right now not what he will gonna get or where circumstances leading him to....
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Sis Snowflake,I feels the advice given are more than enough If the man in question wants to act.All in all his focus should be on what he have right now not what he will gonna get or where circumstances leading him to....
I also didn't feel it necessary add anything else. However, I don’t think we should discourage each other from giving advice brother. Remember Allah is also testing those giving advice in whether they remain patient when it seems that the one seeking advice is not heeding it. If we leave them at the first sign of rejecting it, then how much patience do we have ourselves?
The future does depend on what we do today - just as we are in our present situation due to what we did in the past. So it’s good to consider the options and consequences. I'm not compelling my brother to follow my advice. It’s his choice. But I’d hate to feel I lacked in giving my best because my brother’s welfare in this dunya and the hereafter, and of those in his life means a lot to me.
I also didn't feel it necessary add anything else. However, I don’t think we should discourage each other from giving advice brother. Remember Allah is also testing those giving advice in whether they remain patient when it seems that the one seeking advice is not heeding it. If we leave them at the first sign of rejecting it, then how much patience do we have ourselves?
The future does depend on what we do today - just as we are in our present situation due to what we did in the past. So it’s good to consider the options and consequences. I'm not compelling my brother to follow my advice. It’s his choice. But I’d hate to feel I lacked in giving my best because my brother’s welfare in this dunya and the hereafter, and of those in his life means a lot to me.
I wrote because in my humble view words loses their worth when being said again and again.Words of Man are already cheap in this World of lies--------That was my point.However I only holds a position to give my best to others and not to compel them.Peace
Assalamu Alaikum
Thanks everybody. I know what I have done was a big mistake, I have hurt myself and other people with my act and that I have to do towbe for the rest of my life. I appreciate and accept all the "you should have known before you did this" type of comments. What I am trying to do now is to find a way which will recover everyone involved with least damage. That was the only reason that I shared my situation with you and asked for the opinion of wise people like sister Snowflake and everybody else who helped me here.
Insha Allah, I am very close to make my final decision on staying in the U.S. and have my baby healthy. I am now trying to approach my family in an appropriate way to face the consequences. Please keep me in your prayers. You have all helped me and may Allah always be with you all and help you in every way that you need.
Assalamu Alaikum.
Insha Allah, I am very close to make my final decision on staying in the U.S. and have my baby healthy. I am now trying to approach my family in an appropriate way to face the consequences. Please keep me in your prayers. You have all helped me and may Allah always be with you all and help you in every way that you need.
Assalamu Alaikum.
Alhamdulillah, my brother. I thank you for giving my advice place in your heart. May Allah reward you for that. Ameen. Allah guides those who have good in them and are worthy of His love and mercy. I understand how hard it is to put things right but with His help you will be successful insha Allah.
Ibnul Qayyim (Rahimahullah) explained in one of his books that when Allah wants to do good for a person He makes them inclined to do good deeds so that He may increase His mercy and reward on them. And similarly when He wishes to punish a person (one who has become really disobedient to Allah subhana wa ta 'ala and turned away from His remembrance) He turns away from them and leaves them to the care of Shaytaan (na udhu billah) who leads them to further self destruction and disobedience so that way Allah increases His punishment on them. Subhan Allah, may Allah grant us refuge from such a wretched existence and a bad end. Ameen.
Normally, our death signals the end of our ability to do good for our next life. But The Merciful has granted us the means to keep being rewarded through three things:
Abu Hurayrah (ra), reported that Allah's Messenger, sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said, "When a human being dies, all of his deeds are terminated except for three types: an ongoing sadaqah (charity), a knowledge (of Islam) from which others benefit, and a righteous child who makes du'a for him." [Muslim and others]
"We record that (deeds) which they have put forward and their traces (that which they have left behind)." [Al-Qur'an 36:12]
Abu Qatadah, rahimahullah, reported that Allah's Messenger, sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said, "Among the good deeds that continue to benefit a believer after death are: a knowledge that he taught and disseminated, a righteous child who lived after him, a Qur'an book that he left as inheritance a masjid that he built, a house that he built for the two wayfarers, a stream that he ran, or a charity that he gave from his wealth during his healthy lifetime so that it would reach him (in rewards) after death." [Ibn Majah and others. Verified hasan by al-Mundhiri and al-Albani). Commenting on this, al-Mundhiri, rahimahullah, said: "Some scholars say that the deeds of a human being end with his death. However, since he had caused these things (which are mentioned in the above ahadith), such as the earning of a child, disseminating the knowledge among those who take it from him, compiling a book that remains after him, or establishing a sadaqah, the rewards of these things continue to reach him as long as they continue to exist." ['Awn al-Ma'bud, 8:86]
I know your child hasn't arrived yet, (may Allah protect him and he/she be born strong and healthy - Ameen) but it's never too early to prepare yourself with knowledge in how to raise him/her Islamically. We hear parents complaining of their children going off the rails and we witness the suffering those parents are going through. However if a child is raised correctly then it's hard to imagine the possibility of them going astray. That almost always happens when there's been neglect in their upbringing. So make this your desire and commitment as Allah is calling us back to Jannah through the guidance He has given us through the Quran and His beloved Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam).
Insha Allah something to inspire all would be parents... Masha Allah :statisfie
Don't disappear bro. I find myself looking forward to the birth of your child as I would of my own brother/sister's and to making an abundance of duas for him/her upon their arrival in the world. Insha Allah ta'ala.
Ibnul Qayyim (Rahimahullah) explained in one of his books that when Allah wants to do good for a person He makes them inclined to do good deeds so that He may increase His mercy and reward on them. And similarly when He wishes to punish a person (one who has become really disobedient to Allah subhana wa ta 'ala and turned away from His remembrance) He turns away from them and leaves them to the care of Shaytaan (na udhu billah) who leads them to further self destruction and disobedience so that way Allah increases His punishment on them. Subhan Allah, may Allah grant us refuge from such a wretched existence and a bad end. Ameen.
Normally, our death signals the end of our ability to do good for our next life. But The Merciful has granted us the means to keep being rewarded through three things:
Abu Hurayrah (ra), reported that Allah's Messenger, sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said, "When a human being dies, all of his deeds are terminated except for three types: an ongoing sadaqah (charity), a knowledge (of Islam) from which others benefit, and a righteous child who makes du'a for him." [Muslim and others]
"We record that (deeds) which they have put forward and their traces (that which they have left behind)." [Al-Qur'an 36:12]
Abu Qatadah, rahimahullah, reported that Allah's Messenger, sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said, "Among the good deeds that continue to benefit a believer after death are: a knowledge that he taught and disseminated, a righteous child who lived after him, a Qur'an book that he left as inheritance a masjid that he built, a house that he built for the two wayfarers, a stream that he ran, or a charity that he gave from his wealth during his healthy lifetime so that it would reach him (in rewards) after death." [Ibn Majah and others. Verified hasan by al-Mundhiri and al-Albani). Commenting on this, al-Mundhiri, rahimahullah, said: "Some scholars say that the deeds of a human being end with his death. However, since he had caused these things (which are mentioned in the above ahadith), such as the earning of a child, disseminating the knowledge among those who take it from him, compiling a book that remains after him, or establishing a sadaqah, the rewards of these things continue to reach him as long as they continue to exist." ['Awn al-Ma'bud, 8:86]
I know your child hasn't arrived yet, (may Allah protect him and he/she be born strong and healthy - Ameen) but it's never too early to prepare yourself with knowledge in how to raise him/her Islamically. We hear parents complaining of their children going off the rails and we witness the suffering those parents are going through. However if a child is raised correctly then it's hard to imagine the possibility of them going astray. That almost always happens when there's been neglect in their upbringing. So make this your desire and commitment as Allah is calling us back to Jannah through the guidance He has given us through the Quran and His beloved Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam).
Insha Allah something to inspire all would be parents... Masha Allah :statisfie
Don't disappear bro. I find myself looking forward to the birth of your child as I would of my own brother/sister's and to making an abundance of duas for him/her upon their arrival in the world. Insha Allah ta'ala.
I wrote because in my humble view words loses their worth when being said again and again.Words of Man are already cheap in this World of lies--------That was my point.However I only holds a position to give my best to others and not to compel them.Peace
Assalamu Alaikum
Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu
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