Chaste - Unchaste

[Asiyah3]

I love this forum. So many interesting things to discuss.

I believe in being chaste before marriage for oh so many reasons. Virginity is self respect in my opinion. It is a gift to ones self to be able to go into a marriage pure and free of any shame or guilt or sadness at having been tossed around by this man or that one.
As many already know from a previous thread or two, I was once engaged. My ex fiance who had once claimed to be religious in fact came out to be the latter. When I went to visit his family with my father, I had gone on a shopping trip with him and his sister. At some point his sister decided she was going to take the bus home without telling me, so I was alone with him and he was going to drive us back to the house. He apparently thought I had no clue where anything was in that country and when he started driving opposite from his house I asked him where he was going, he slipped that he was taking me to a hotel.

Let me tell you, I didnt just freak out. I went insane. I demanded he stop the car. He didnt so I opened the door and screamed that I was going to jump out of the car because Id rather die than let him touch me. He had to slow down because traffic stopped so I took that moment and jumped out of the car. He followed me a long while with his car begging me to get back in. I walked to the nearest building I recognized, called my father and he came to pick me up.
One of the many reasons that imbecile is my ex now.

Even if he had been Mr.Perfect, and our engagement had still not worked out, I can still be comfortable about marrying someone else because I remained chaste. Ladies, even if you are head over heels in love, do not disrespect yourself or your family by committing something like that. It will haunt you for the rest of your life. Be proud to be a muslimah and to be pure.

As my dear grandmother used to always say, girls are like mirrors, once shattered they can never be whole again.

SubhaanAllah :S So many things to learn from this story.

 

[Ğħαrєєвαħ]

^ Yes a LOT!

Subhaan`Allaah

 

[Insecured soul]

SubhaanAllah :S So many things to learn from this story.

So it can be seen whatever laws we have in islam is for our own benefit to save us from lewdness and treachery

May allah forgive nowadays a couple enjoys everything before marriage which is haraam and as soon as they get into marriage which is halaal then they find everything boring

the brain have gone upside down isnt it?

 

[tigerkhan]

so i mean there's so many things and i believe its important to never judge from outside of the window because you never know what struggles and trials that person had

i want to say few lines on this topic but these above lines stop me...
yes u cant say about any persons chastity...only he/she knows himself....in my teen i was free style person but only i know i never did bad.....bcz i never want that to impure any girl by touching her....even many girls offered me such that time....and will u blv i say them "i want that on my marrige i can say my wife... u r the first girl in the world to whom i am touching...none b4 u and not after u insh" lol.......
so u think how much i am touchy/crazy in this sense..... to me the world most precious thing is chastity....i love pure and dedicated ppl....but i agree no1 can predict about anyone1 else (as quoted above)....i see many ppl with beard but staring at women and many girls with hijab but no haya in eyes....so its diificult to define parameters for chastity but surely i love it and i am alive for this....

 

[Asiyah3]

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