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[Ummu Sufyaan]

@thread starter. im abit weary about replying to your post, since you may not read it. but cos your my sis in islam, im gna make the effort . so god darn it, read it!!! *slams fist on table* you better not ignore this post like you have wiv some other beobles here :mmokay: *jokes*


seriously, realize that if you wanna change, then you have to make the effort. the fact that you haven't read (if im remembering right :-[ ) some of the posts in this thread, tells me that you are not sincere in changing. but if you truly want to change, again, you need to be sincere and put in the effort and to also continue making the effort, no matter how many times you fall. no matter how many times you try and fail.

life is a test and Patience is a virtue.

dont stop praying. how can you know your sincerity. don't let satan put you off. this whole life sis we don't know where we are going. the Prophet, sallahu aleyhi wa sallam, didn't know where he was going, until certain verses from surat al-Fath were revealed to him!!!! so what about us! sis, that doesn't mean you give up because you don't know that your prayers are gna be accepted, it just means you have to strive in moderation, meaning you pray with fear that your prayers are gna be rejected, whilst having the utmost hope that they are gna be accepted innit. after all, islam is moderation, and moderation is success!!! :thumbs_up

also, about your duas and destiny, check this thread out.

and also, about your dua being answered, read this inshallah, and see where it applies to you but do NOT give up making dua. image that you do. how do you know that some kinda evil hasn't been removed from you. image by not making dua, that evil that may befall you, that may have been prevented due to your dua. how do you know that there is something better for you in the Hereafter. you just dont you just keep making dua, and hope for the best!!!

Things which may prevent du’aa’ from being answered include:

1. When the du’aa’ is weak in itself, because it involves something inappropriate, or involves bad manners towards Allaah, may He be exalted, or it is inappropriate, which means asking Allaah for something which it is not permitted to ask, e.g. when a man asks to live forever in this world, or he asks for a sin or something haraam, or he prays that he will die, and so on. Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A person's du’aa’s will continue to be answered so long as he does not pray for something sinful or for the breaking of family ties.” Narrated by Muslim.

2. When the person who is making du’aa’ is weak in himself, because he is faint-hearted in his turning towards Allaah. This may be either because of bad manners towards Allaah, may He be exalted – such as raising his voice in du’aa’ or making du’aa’ in the manner of one who thinks he has no need of Allaah; or because he pays too much attention to the wording and tries to come up with unnecessarily ornate phrases, without paying attention to the meaning; or because he tries too hard to weep or shout without really feeling it, or he goes to extremes in that.

3. The reason why his du’aa’ is not answered may be because he has done something that Allaah has forbidden, such as having haraam wealth – whether it be food or drink or clothing or accommodation or transportation, or he has taken a haraam job, or the stain of sin is still in his heart, or he is following bid’ah (innovation) in religion, or his heart has been overtaken by negligence.

4. Consuming haraam wealth. This is one of the major reasons why du’aa’s are not answered. Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O people, Allaah is Good and only accepts that which is good. Allaah commanded the pious to follow the same commandments as He gave to the Messengers. He says (interpretation of the meaning):

‘O (you) Messengers! Eat of the Tayyibaat [all kinds of Halaal (lawful) foods which Allaah has made lawful (meat of slaughtered eatable animals, milk products, fats, vegetables, fruits)] and do righteous deeds. Verily, I am Well-Acquainted with what you do’ [al-Mu’minoon 23:51]

‘O you who believe (in the Oneness of Allaah — Islamic Monotheism)! Eat of the lawful things that We have provided you with’ [al-Baqarah 2:172]

Then he mentioned a man who has travelled on a long journey and is dishevelled and covered with dust; he stretches forth his hands to the heaven, (saying) “O Lord, O Lord”, but his food is haraam, his drink is haraam, all his nourishment is haraam, so how can he du’aa’ be accepted?” Narrated by Muslim.

The man described by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) had some of the characteristics which help du’aa’s to be answered – he was travelling and he was in need of Allaah, may He be exalted and glorified – but the fact that he consumed haraam wealth prevented his du’aa’ from being answered. We ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.

5. Trying to hasten the response. Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The du’aa’ of any one of you will be answered so long as he is not impatient and says, ‘I made du’aa’ but it was not answered.’” Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim.

6. Making the du’aa’ conditional, such as saying, “O Allaah, forgive me if You will” or “O Allaah, have mercy upon me if You will.” The person who makes du’aa’ has to be resolute in his supplication, striving hard and earnestly repeating his du’aa’. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Let not any one of you say, ‘O Allaah, forgive me if You will, O Allaah, have mercy on me if You will.’ Let him be resolute in the matter, whilst knowing that no one can compel Allaah to do anything.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim.

In order for du’aa’s to be answered, it is not essential to adhere to all of these points and be free of all that could prevent one’s du’aa’s from being answered. That is something which happens very rarely. But one has to try hard and strive towards achieving this.

Another important point is to realize that the response to the du’aa’ may take different forms: either Allaah will respond and fulfil the desire of the person who made the du’aa’, or He will ward off some evil from him because of the du’aa’, or He will make something good easy for him to attain because of it, or He will save it with Him for him on the Day of Resurrection when he will be most in need of it. And Allaah knows best.

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you better have read my post sis

 

[AnonymousPoster]

@thread starter. im abit weary about replying to your post, since you may not read it. but cos your my sis in islam, im gna make the effort . so god darn it, read it!!! *slams fist on table* you better not ignore this post like you have wiv some other beobles here :mmokay: *jokes*


seriously, realize that if you wanna change, then you have to make the effort. the fact that you haven't read (if im remembering right :-[ ) some of the posts in this thread, tells me that you are not sincere in changing. but if you truly want to change, again, you need to be sincere and put in the effort and to also continue making the effort, no matter how many times you fall. no matter how many times you try and fail.

life is a test and Patience is a virtue.

dont stop praying. how can you know your sincerity. don't let satan put you off. this whole life sis we don't know where we are going. the Prophet, sallahu aleyhi wa sallam, didn't know where he was going, until certain verses from surat al-Fath were revealed to him!!!! so what about us! sis, that doesn't mean you give up because you don't know that your prayers are gna be accepted, it just means you have to strive in moderation, meaning you pray with fear that your prayers are gna be rejected, whilst having the utmost hope that they are gna be accepted innit. after all, islam is moderation, and moderation is success!!! :thumbs_up

also, about your duas and destiny, check this thread out.

and also, about your dua being answered, read this inshallah, and see where it applies to you but do NOT give up making dua. image that you do. how do you know that some kinda evil hasn't been removed from you. image by not making dua, that evil that may befall you, that may have been prevented due to your dua. how do you know that there is something better for you in the Hereafter. you just dont you just keep making dua, and hope for the best!!!


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you better have read my post sis

OK, I won't ignore it.

Seriously though, did I ignore some posts in here? I hope I didn't, if I did then please forgive me I will go back and check them all. :embarrass


You don't know how much I appreciate the fact that you have taken time out to reply. Alhumdullilah, thank you sister.

I haven't stopped praying, maybe I missed a few prayers but I haven't completely stopped even though I did feel like it.

The problem is, while I'm praying I start thinking, "I'm praying because I have to, I will make Dua because I have to," then I just laugh at myself silently thinking, "Things will only get worse, but I'll carry on praying". I have no faith left in me, and that is the killer.

Believe me, I used be so determined to wake up, pray my namaz, do my dua and be fully sincere and feel the fresh air and the happiness in my heart after praying.

I did if for years, throughout my depression I tried staying strong. But, the suffering has been so long now, so long that anything I read, duas, their meanings, stories of repentence, miracles of the Qur'an, nothing, nothing makes me feel better. I'm emotionaly and physically drained, I have no strength left in my weak body to believe anything anymore.
The shaytan has well and truely taken over me. I'm still fighting with the little strength I have left, trying to fight the shaytan. I feel like a failure in front of Allah swt, He gave me tests and I'm failing them miserably.

Your right, maybe if I carry on making dua an evil might be reverted from me. I will carry on praying and I hope Allah swt will forgive me for my messed up thinking, and messed up behaviour and InshaAllah I pray that He cures my depression and I hope it never comes back. Ameen.

Please keep me in your duas. imsad

 

[Ansariyah]

Change is inevitable..One day things will change. I hope that u believe that..InshaAllah.

Don't lose ur hope..EVER!

Pls read the story of Prophet ayub (as) n draw ur own conclusions from it.

I have dedicated a poem to u long be4 I even knew ur story, because u remind me of those I had in mind.

here is the poem:
http://www.islamicboard.com/creative-writing-art/134273921-dont-curse-ur-hardships.html

 

[muslim sister)]

The problem is, while I'm praying I start thinking, "I'm praying because I have to, I will make Dua because I have to," then I just laugh at myself silently thinking, "Things will only get worse, but I'll carry on praying". I have no faith left in me, and that is the killer.

anything I read, duas, their meanings, stories of repentence, miracles of the Qur'an, nothing, nothing makes me feel better. I'm emotionaly and physically drained, I have no strength left in my weak body to believe anything anymore.
The shaytan has well and truely taken over me. I'm still fighting with the little strength I have left, trying to fight the shaytan. I feel like a failure in front of Allah swt, He gave me tests and I'm failing them miserably.



Please keep me in your duas. imsad

Assalamu Alaikum sister.Sorry my english is bad but I will try to help u.
The red lined phrases is not your words BUT WISPERS FROM SHAYTAN,yes it is wispers from shaytan may he be cursed!!!He is trying to misguide u,make u a disbeliever.Be strong don't let it wisper u,spoil your life,keep praying,make dua,even if u feel like it is not going to be answered,believe me it will be answered,Allah subhanahutaala never ignores his slaves' duas,it will be answered if not in this world,then hereafter InshaAllah,just keep praying and one day u will realise it.never leave faith in Allah,imagine what we were going to do if we didn't have faith.if u truly believe in Allah sooner or later we will go Paradise of course if we will be true believer and only with mercy of Allah InshaAllah,May we all be amongst that people Ameen!!!so why suffering,why bothering,eventually the ease will come InshaAlla,I know easy said than done,I myself now "depressed"but I am trying to fight it,I try not to allow shaytan to feel myself down,of course it is not easy to get over from depression quickly,it needs effort,and only YOU can change your situation,if u go on complaining that u can't get over depression,and won't make any effort,of course ur situation is not going to change,so sister get up and strive for life,take baby steps,start from this:whenever u have bad thoughts like"u will never get over it"say:NO I will get over it,I will live happy life,I will have happy family ,children husband etc..InshaAllah,if u do so,Allah subhanahu taala will see that u are doing effort to change ur situation and He will help u with it,and it will become easier and easier day-by-day,don't expect u will find ease in a month or so,it is going to take long,depends on how hard u work on it.Let me tell u about myself,first days all I did was cry and sleep all day and cry all night,:'(then I said to myself Stop,I will not go on like this,and alhamdulillah day by day I am feeling ease of course some days I do feel sad,cry sometimes,but I realised that I don't cry everyday alhamdulillah,and it is only with help of Allah subhanahutaala,with prayers for him I have been making with duas I have been making to Him,how grateful I am that He made me muslim,alhamdulillah,:statisfieI can't imagine what was I going to do if didn't have faith in Allah,
it is Shaytan's goal to make us measerable and loose our believe in Allah,don't let it!!!Fight it,how difficult it may be.I know that u state is very bad as u think,but you are MUSLIM sister,we have hope that eventually we will get reward inshaAllah for our effort,surely Allah never fails in His promises, imagine what would u do if u were paralised,homeless,no family,and if u didn't believe in Allah,that would be real bad.Allah subhanahu taala has given us great gift "Islam",so whenever I feel depressed I thank Allahu subnahahutaala that he has guided me to the straight path to Islam,I think to myself it is much better to live whole life in misery being muslim (difficult though)than living happily life being kuffar,so sister please don't despair in Allah's mercy (eventually with mercy of Allah u will go to Paradise,and if u make effort u will live happily life as well, Inshaallah,surely after every hardship there will come relief.if u even don't believe in it,make uoyrself believe in it
see, in your first post you asked us not even to bother in replying,now u ask to remember u in our duas,I am very happy to hear this,it proves that you aren't that bad and negative as you sound to be,deep inside you are very kind person I feel it,it is just you suffered so much as u think,in real there are lots of people in much more difficult situation and believe me they wish they were in our situation,it is as if me feeling good,cos we are both suffering from depression,it is good sign,InshaAllah I will remember u in my duas,I prayed for you yesterday as I read your post in ummah.com,but I was sad as I saw it was closed I was going to post u and found out it was closed,and do u know why they closed it?
sis,try not to offend people who are trying to help you,we here spending our time in typing trying to help u sincerely and u offended some of them,I can understand that u are suffering,but it doesn't give u right to offend people,try to be nice to people,and in exchange Allah will be nice to you inshaallah,maybe that is why as u sayed all your friends went away from you,if u replied to all of them like u replied on ummah even the truest friend can't endure that,imagine u also would turn away from friend like you,don't get offend,I am trying to explain that what u are doing is only harming yourself,we can go away but u can't,so try to find new friends,if u offended old ones go and ask forgiveness and try to be nicer to them next time,I am trying to say that with this attetude with this negative you are killing yourself day-by day
I was going to show u one video,watch it and read carefully what that man says,here is the link:
http://theislamicummah.ning.com/video/another-reminder-must-see
please,don't be negative,pessimistic,after watching this video I thought to myself,how ungrateful I was towards Allah,He has given me family,I can see,I can walk,I can make sujud to Allah,pray make dua,read Quran,I have home,warm bed,food to eat ,water to drink,hope in future,I have health,if I count it goes on and on and on,as Allah says in Quran if we count blessings of Allah we will never be able to end counting them,subhanallah!!!We are so ungrateful,I felt guilt after seeing this video,maybe because of my ungartefulness I am suffering from depression?!So sister think about it,maybe because of our ungratefulness we are suffering?so Lets start to live new,pure life,without envy,negative,ungratefulness,negative thoughts,lets starts to live being grateful towards Allah,He has granted us with so many things that we have,isn't it wonderful being grateful living pure life,with hope,that eventually there will be ease,and doing this u r actually taking step forward in recovering from depression,and inshaAllah Allah will see that we are being grateful and he will grant us peace of mind with wondeful life in this world and hereafter Inshaallah
Sis,there are many people that would be real HAPPY to have our "depressed condition"so think about it,I am not only telling all this things to u,it is as if I am reminding to myself ,I need to do it myself to,so sis lets start new life with HOPE and beliefe to Allah subhanahutaala

 

[Mujahidah4Allah]

i feel for you sis you probably dont want sympathy votes, i wish you lived by me... if i knew where you lived, sometimes when you need an answer, its right in front of you but one chooses to ignore thinking that might not be it... it may take years to discover but once the answer unfolds everything will fit... and i'm not just saying it ...

wa/salam

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Assalamu Alaikum sister.Sorry my english is bad but I will try to help u.
The red lined phrases is not your words BUT WISPERS FROM SHAYTAN,yes it is wispers from shaytan may he be cursed!!!He is trying to misguide u,make u a disbeliever.Be strong don't let it wisper u,spoil your life,keep praying,make dua,even if u feel like it is not going to be answered,believe me it will be answered,Allah subhanahutaala never ignores his slaves' duas,it will be answered if not in this world,then hereafter InshaAllah,just keep praying and one day u will realise it.never leave faith in Allah,imagine what we were going to do if we didn't have faith.if u truly believe in Allah sooner or later we will go Paradise of course if we will be true believer and only with mercy of Allah InshaAllah,May we all be amongst that people Ameen!!!so why suffering,why bothering,eventually the ease will come InshaAlla,I know easy said than done,I myself now "depressed"but I am trying to fight it,I try not to allow shaytan to feel myself down,of course it is not easy to get over from depression quickly,it needs effort,and only YOU can change your situation,if u go on complaining that u can't get over depression,and won't make any effort,of course ur situation is not going to change,so sister get up and strive for life,take baby steps,start from this:whenever u have bad thoughts like"u will never get over it"say:NO I will get over it,I will live happy life,I will have happy family ,children husband etc..InshaAllah,if u do so,Allah subhanahu taala will see that u are doing effort to change ur situation and He will help u with it,and it will become easier and easier day-by-day,don't expect u will find ease in a month or so,it is going to take long,depends on how hard u work on it.Let me tell u about myself,first days all I did was cry and sleep all day and cry all night,:'(then I said to myself Stop,I will not go on like this,and alhamdulillah day by day I am feeling ease of course some days I do feel sad,cry sometimes,but I realised that I don't cry everyday alhamdulillah,and it is only with help of Allah subhanahutaala,with prayers for him I have been making with duas I have been making to Him,how grateful I am that He made me muslim,alhamdulillah,:statisfieI can't imagine what was I going to do if didn't have faith in Allah,
it is Shaytan's goal to make us measerable and loose our believe in Allah,don't let it!!!Fight it,how difficult it may be.I know that u state is very bad as u think,but you are MUSLIM sister,we have hope that eventually we will get reward inshaAllah for our effort,surely Allah never fails in His promises, imagine what would u do if u were paralised,homeless,no family,and if u didn't believe in Allah,that would be real bad.Allah subhanahu taala has given us great gift "Islam",so whenever I feel depressed I thank Allahu subnahahutaala that he has guided me to the straight path to Islam,I think to myself it is much better to live whole life in misery being muslim (difficult though)than living happily life being kuffar,so sister please don't despair in Allah's mercy (eventually with mercy of Allah u will go to Paradise,and if u make effort u will live happily life as well, Inshaallah,surely after every hardship there will come relief.if u even don't believe in it,make uoyrself believe in it
see, in your first post you asked us not even to bother in replying,now u ask to remember u in our duas,I am very happy to hear this,it proves that you aren't that bad and negative as you sound to be,deep inside you are very kind person I feel it,it is just you suffered so much as u think,in real there are lots of people in much more difficult situation and believe me they wish they were in our situation,it is as if me feeling good,cos we are both suffering from depression,it is good sign,InshaAllah I will remember u in my duas,I prayed for you yesterday as I read your post in ummah.com,but I was sad as I saw it was closed I was going to post u and found out it was closed,and do u know why they closed it?
sis,try not to offend people who are trying to help you,we here spending our time in typing trying to help u sincerely and u offended some of them,I can understand that u are suffering,but it doesn't give u right to offend people,try to be nice to people,and in exchange Allah will be nice to you inshaallah,maybe that is why as u sayed all your friends went away from you,if u replied to all of them like u replied on ummah even the truest friend can't endure that,imagine u also would turn away from friend like you,don't get offend,I am trying to explain that what u are doing is only harming yourself,we can go away but u can't,so try to find new friends,if u offended old ones go and ask forgiveness and try to be nicer to them next time,I am trying to say that with this attetude with this negative you are killing yourself day-by day
I was going to show u one video,watch it and read carefully what that man says,here is the link:
http://theislamicummah.ning.com/video/another-reminder-must-see
please,don't be negative,pessimistic,after watching this video I thought to myself,how ungrateful I was towards Allah,He has given me family,I can see,I can walk,I can make sujud to Allah,pray make dua,read Quran,I have home,warm bed,food to eat ,water to drink,hope in future,I have health,if I count it goes on and on and on,as Allah says in Quran if we count blessings of Allah we will never be able to end counting them,subhanallah!!!We are so ungrateful,I felt guilt after seeing this video,maybe because of my ungartefulness I am suffering from depression?!So sister think about it,maybe because of our ungratefulness we are suffering?so Lets start to live new,pure life,without envy,negative,ungratefulness,negative thoughts,lets starts to live being grateful towards Allah,He has granted us with so many things that we have,isn't it wonderful being grateful living pure life,with hope,that eventually there will be ease,and doing this u r actually taking step forward in recovering from depression,and inshaAllah Allah will see that we are being grateful and he will grant us peace of mind with wondeful life in this world and hereafter Inshaallah
Sis,there are many people that would be real HAPPY to have our "depressed condition"so think about it,I am not only telling all this things to u,it is as if I am reminding to myself ,I need to do it myself to,so sis lets start new life with HOPE and beliefe to Allah subhanahutaala

Alhumdullilah thank you for taking time out to reply, honestly I really appreciate it.

I am trying to bring the hope slowly. Some of it has come back Alhumdullilah, some of it of it I'm still uncertain about. But, it's a start.

I'm starting therapy soon, and when I asked the doctor if it will help, he didn't even sound too sure. Allah I can do is put my trust in Allah SWT and see how it goes. I'm still in complete misery and the hardest thing is trying to think positive. imsad

 

[sevgi]

Alhumdullilah thank you for taking time out to reply, honestly I really appreciate it.

I am trying to bring the hope slowly. Some of it has come back Alhumdullilah, some of it of it I'm still uncertain about. But, it's a start.

I'm starting therapy soon, and when I asked the doctor if it will help, he didn't even sound too sure. Allah I can do is put my trust in Allah SWT and see how it goes. I'm still in complete misery and the hardest thing is trying to think positive. imsad

Sis, it is all in your hands. You are gonna look back and be like...'what the hell..was that me????'

Brother Fighting4iman will probably remember best how unstable I was. Seriously...it's a matter of time before you just outgrow your problems.

I learnt that people outgrow everything...including problems...no matter how detremental..I just look back and cannot recognise myself. I cant.

You are going to be fine. You are because you believe in Allah and you cant just go on like this...and no one will fix you but you. Good to see you are taking steps towards betterment.

 

[glo]

I'm starting therapy soon, and when I asked the doctor if it will help, he didn't even sound too sure. Allah I can do is put my trust in Allah SWT and see how it goes. I'm still in complete misery and the hardest thing is trying to think positive. imsad

Good that you are starting therapy soon!
Try to feel positive about it and see how it goes. It's a new start and a new opportunity to create a change.

Let us know how you are getting on ...

 

[muslim sister)]

Sis, it is all in your hands. You are gonna look back and be like...'what the hell..was that me????'

Brother Fighting4iman will probably remember best how unstable I was. Seriously...it's a matter of time before you just outgrow your problems.

I learnt that people outgrow everything...including problems...no matter how detremental..I just look back and cannot recognise myself. I cant.

You are going to be fine. You are because you believe in Allah and you cant just go on like this...and no one will fix you but you. Good to see you are taking steps towards betterment.

Glad to hear good news,InshaAllah everything will be fine,keep us informed,we do care about you

 

[sevgi]

Glad to hear good news,InshaAllah everything will be fine,keep us informed,we do care about you

Me? Lol..I'm awesomely finey winey.

 

[muslim sister)]

Me? Lol..I'm awesomely finey winey.

Sorry I quoted ur post by mistake and later realized it,but here there were no options to edit it,so left it like that:-[

 

[sevgi]

Sorry I quoted ur post by mistake and later realized it,but here there were no options to edit it,so left it like that:-[

Hehehe...that is quite alright sis. You will be able to edit your posts once you have reached 50 posts.

 

[BNDGR]

Asalam alaikum,
I can feel how much pain your in, I'm so sorry, inshallah SOMETHING will change for the better for you soon! Noone should feel so alone and suffer as much as you are.
I don't think there is anything anyone can say to you at this point you just need to vent since this is a good place for it. Inshallah I do wish you comfort and peace of mind and for you to see the light at the end of your tunnel!, and I will make dua for you.

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

OK, I won't ignore it.

Seriously though, did I ignore some posts in here? I hope I didn't, if I did then please forgive me I will go back and check them all. :embarrass

maybe i misunderstood something then :-[ lol hmmm....

You don't know how much I appreciate the fact that you have taken time out to reply. Alhumdullilah, thank you sister.

Barakallahu feeki, not a problem

I haven't stopped praying, maybe I missed a few prayers but I haven't completely stopped even though I did feel like it.

okie dokie! but you know that you cant do that! you gotta strive to keep all five im serous sis, pull your socks up!

The problem is, while I'm praying I start thinking, "I'm praying because I have to, I will make Dua because I have to," then I just laugh at myself silently thinking, "Things will only get worse, but I'll carry on praying". I have no faith left in me, and that is the killer.

answer one question for me:
when you pray, do you intend on praying because you have to, as you mentioned? do you make dua because you have to? what is your intention when you get up to pray?

you cant say you have no faith left in you, because you are a Muslim. one who didn't have faith, wouldn't be a Muslim, and wouldnt be ranting and raving on lol about their fear of their prayers, and duas, no? if you didst care you wouldn't have that worry in you to find out what your prob is, right! but you are a Muslim, alhamdulillah. all you have to do, is build and cultivate that lil seed of faith into a giant been stalk lol where at the end of the day you pick your beans. i.e jannah, inshallah. :statisfie woo.. you're new name is now Jacqueline

Believe me, I used be so determined to wake up, pray my namaz, do my dua and be fully sincere and feel the fresh air and the happiness in my heart after praying.

maybe your're trying too hard. you try hard you maybe your're exerting yourself un-necessarily, meaning you do deeds for the sake of it, without it really begin your true desire. you know, like you feel you have to make dua. nah sis, if thats the case, then your being excessive, and you only should do what as much as you feel like doing. even if that be the smallest amount. now obviously i mean this for voluntary acts of worship. as for the obligatory ones, such as prayer, ukhtee you HAVE to fear allah in regards to these, and perform them. these are obligatory! you simply have no excuse...even if you were sick, you aren't allowed to give up your prayers...
stick with the obligatory duties first, and when you feel good enough, step up abit, and read some extra quran during the day, for eg. but for now, you HAVE to work on praying your all five. theres no excuse sis!
you know, maybe you should pray or do your 'ibaadah with someone. maybe a sibling/friend or something...

I did if for years, throughout my depression I tried staying strong. But, the suffering has been so long now, so long that anything I read, duas, their meanings, stories of repentence, miracles of the Qur'an, nothing, nothing makes me feel better.

although i agree that these things you just mentioned do make one feel better, try other permissible methods of trying to feel better. maybe see a friend, smell the roses dudette, smell the roses oh: . go for walk. listen to a nasheed. think outside the square, and do something different! sure 'ibaadah is important, but there are other stuff in our life that we need to tend to also

I'm emotionaly and physically drained, I have no strength left in my weak body to believe anything anymore.

dont over exert yourself sis...just. be. paitent. i seriously cant think of anything more benefical to advice one who has tried everything and has nothing left. seriously, have patience. see, the best things in life are for free and dont we all like a freebie

The shaytan has well and truely taken over me. I'm still fighting with the little strength I have left, trying to fight the shaytan. I feel like a failure in front of Allah swt, He gave me tests and I'm failing them miserably.

well if you haven't given up then your not a failure, right. so as long as you keep patiently persevere and praying, dude your in to score, big time *inshallah*

Your right, maybe if I carry on making dua an evil might be reverted from me. I will carry on praying and I hope Allah swt will forgive me for my messed up thinking, and messed up behaviour and InshaAllah I pray that He cures my depression and I hope it never comes back. Ameen.

alhamdulilah, keep it up :thumbs_up

I can't truely pinpoint it. I'm guessing the way I've been brought up in my broken family has made me the person I am today - a failure in life!!

i completely and utterly disagree lol i do know that certain things in our life, deffo affects the way we turn out and all. however to say that one has failed due to these, is going a step far. you know why? cos what happens to you, and how you react to it, are two different things. i understand why you will connect them somehow, but you still have the free will to change your negative into a positive, by the will of allah. do you not?

name me ONE thing that you are not able to do to change your negative into a positive. just one. sure you come from a broken family, but you're still one whole, right? so why cant you do something to change your condition.
what are YOU personally doing to change yourself. are you just making dua and sitting and waiting for change? it doesn't work like that. its like sitting and hoping for a job, but not looking for one, or going for interviews, etc. tell me, how is that logical? as long as your're able to do something about it, then do so.

all this it just feeling sorry for yourself, and it isn't gna get you anywhere... in fact, it makes you go backwards, no?
i mean for how long have you been feeling so down for, your whole life you say? so tell me, for how long has sitting and feeling depressed and not doing anything about it helped you. hasn't it occurred to you that perhaps you need to do somethings differently.
you have the means to change sis, but your problem does not lie in what happened to you, and how you feel, etc...your problem lies in that your not doing anything to change.

 

[The Ruler]

It seems as though you know what your future is and what it holds. And yet,

YOU DON'T KNOW THAT FOR SURE ONLY ALLAH SWT KNOWS!!!

I see happy people, I want to murder them.

I see people smiling, I want to murder them.

You're funny. No really. That's hilarious.

DON'T TELL ME THEY MIGHT BE UNHAPPY BEHIND CLOSED DOORS!!!! AT LEAST THEY CAN MANAGE A SMILE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Managing a smile whilst being unhappy is more painful than you think. To always pretend and smile even when you're sad, angry and/or frustrated is p-taking. Yet people do that. Why? I don't know.

I believe that when advising someone, slapping them with reality is the best pathway. But if I were to do that, I'd be ignoring Alpha nee-chan's, "Speak and advise kindly." Tch.

 

[Danah]

Your post bring tears to my eyes I am really sorry to read ur first post, it made me feel very sad Wallahi
but sis, do you really think that u r the most person on the face of this earth who are suffering in hardships????

Please don't tell me I will live a happier life in the hereafter, YOU DON'T KNOW THAT FOR SURE ONLY ALLAH SWT KNOWS!!!

u dont know that either my dear!! so dont lose the hope

I say Istighfar all the time but I can't say it like I mean it, I can't recite the Qur'an like I mean it anymore, I can't read any dua like I mean it anymore

see? u have the tools but u need to use them correctly, u need to make them coming from the heart. from the deep of ur heart my dear, I know its very hard in ur case, but believe me if u keep trying u will do it at the end, u will prove to Allah that u r very sincere in that, not just say them in ur praying and thats it. As u said in one of your posts, you pray but u asked urself whether there is a use of praying or not. Do u think that if u make any duaa in that situation u will make it really from your heart?
I dont think so at all. sister, u have to put all ur trust in Allah, imagine as if u r about thrown in a big, deep, scary hole and the bottom of that hole, there will a fire, or monitors or anything scary and that u have no one to help....no one, okay?
then u start fulling down in that very deep hole and in ur way to the bottom u r surely 100% that u will not get hurt when u hit the ground, because u r very sure that Allah will protect u from any harm----> that is the ultimate trust in Allah

remember the story of prophet Ibrahim peace be upon him, his people threw him in the fire, what was his reaction? did he said that its gonna be the end? he kept his patient and was fully aware that Allah will not leave him, and that what happened, how can the fire turned to a cool breeze!! If Allah want something it is just a "Be"

look at the prophet Mohammed Peace Be Upon him when he was with his friend Abu Bakar Assidiq on the cave of Thowr when Quraish men were chasing them and they were exactly under their feet in that cave, Abu Baker said: "if anyone of them look at his feet position he will definitely see us"...and if they got caught they will be for sure killed, but what did the Prophet said?
he said: "dont get scared, Allah is with us"
that is the ultimate trust in Allah


so sister, your Shaitan is playing very perfectly in ur heart, dont let him get you, burn him with ur pure intent to change.
I can see that you are a pious sister that's why u are still trying to make ur prayers and duaa better, if its someone else he/she will just gave up and live a miserable life without even think about return back to allah

"Verily after hardship comes relief" YES that is correct for everyone EXCEPT ME!

"No soul is burdened with more than it can bare" YES for all of you EXCEPT ME!!!!!

My dear sister, this is a very serious thing, Dont decide that by yourself, you are not the God to decide whether those versus are excluding u or not. Be Careful !! jazaki allah khair

DON'T BOTHER REMEMBERING ME IN YOUR PRAYERS!!!!!!!!!!!

I was very sad to read that from you sister, its as u r not believing in the powers of Duaa

Please keep me in your duas. imsad

But here, wallahi u have no idea how relieved I felt to see that u start changing through ur posts from the beginning to ur last post

May Allah make your whole life easy, cheerful, full with happiness until u die and even after ur death in ur grave
May Allah wipe all of ur sins by what u have been through in ur life
May Allah strengthen your eman by this experience u r going through and help u to go through this test
May Allah compensate all ur patience and grant u a very bright future

and Finally May u find this post kind of helpful because I am not good at giving advices or make the others feel better :-[ imsad


you r in my duaa my dear sister

 

[kjra]

I've been depressed for so long now (years yes YEARS) that I am so close to losing faith or maybe I've already lost it. I pray as much as I can but I give up now. I still feel the need to pray, but having the sincerety and even trying to believe that eventually my duas will be answered and I will get better is an impossibilty.

I can't think like that anymore, it's probably not worth me praying if I haven't got the sincerety in my heart right? Should I just give up altogether and accept that this is my life and I will NEVER get better?

Please don't tell me things will change and I have to believe they will and all that crap because my kismet is already written, I can't do anything, that's right NOT even make dua because it will never be accepted.

Please don't tell me I will live a happier life in the hereafter, YOU DON'T KNOW THAT FOR SURE ONLY ALLAH SWT KNOWS!!!

After years and years of trying to make my life better, it collapses on top of me again and again. I pray and I pray and yes I shouldn't be complaining like this but how else am i supposed to let this anger and these frustrations out to release the tension?

No one else listens, my family don't care, my friends are sick of me and my depression (not good friends I know) or maybe i've driven them away by being miserable all the time.

I wake up every morning feeling painfully lonely, empty, like I'm already dead just walking around in a body, nothing to look forward too, no true friends, no family who actually care. I drive around in my car and I just cry while i'm driving, I used to play the Qur'an in my car, but not even that makes me feel better. Even after praying, I feel lifeless and empty.

Why should anyone care how i feel? Afterall, I'm just another 'nobody' walking around on this earth waiting to drop dead with this torturous pain and loneliness.

I say Istighfar all the time but I can't say it like I mean it, I can't recite the Qur'an like I mean it anymore, I can't read any dua like I mean it anymore, I feel treacherously hopeless. All these words can't describe the pain and suffering I'm going through.

What I do, should I just give up and accept that I was born to live in misery? If Allah swt is forgiving, why after years of asking for forgiveness am I still suffering this much? Why do people say "Allah doesn't burden a soul more than it can bear"? When I feel i could collapse and die any minute from this pain that has built up over the years and has got too much for me to handle?

Do I really have to accept the fact that i will NEVER see the light at the end of the tunnel?

"Verily after hardship comes relief" YES that is correct for everyone EXCEPT ME!

"No soul is burdened with more than it can bare" YES for all of you EXCEPT ME!!!!!

None of these matter to all of you, you are just reading, you can't feel what i feel.

These words are nothing. I'm nothing, this world is nothing!!! My pain doesn't mean anything to anybody.

I see happy people, I want to murder them.

I see people smiling, I want to murder them.

DON'T TELL ME THEY MIGHT BE UNHAPPY BEHIND CLOSED DOORS!!!! AT LEAST THEY CAN MANAGE A SMILE!!!!!!!!!!!!


One day people will be sad and the next day they find relief. Allah swt eases their pain after a while.

But my pain doesn't matter, it carries on and on and it doesn't stop hurting. This is not a TEST IT'S NEVERENDING TORTURE!!!!!

Are you all happy? haha, did you all find 'relief after hardship' hahahaaaaaa GOOD FOR U!!!!!!!

Are any of you going through hardship right now this very minute????? What is your hardship? It's probably so minor and pathetic you call it HARDSHIP LOL!!!!!!

Don't worry about me, I'm just another excuse for a human being!!!!! MY FEELINGS DON'T COUNT!!!!!!

SORRY IF I'VE OFFENDED ANYONE I DON'T MEAN TO, YOUR PROBLEMS MUST BE REAL BAD!!!!!

What are you going to tell me next? That I have a roof over my head, I have bread to eat and clothes to wear?????? WHAT IS THE POINT WHEN I'M LIVING IN MISERY!!!!!!!


Are you going to tell me that the people in GAZA are suffering???? so am I! YES GO ON CALL ME PATHETIC OR WHATEVER COMES TO MIND!!!!!

GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL IN YOUR SHORT LIVES!!!!!!!!!!!

DON'T BOTHER REMEMBERING ME IN YOUR PRAYERS!!!!!!!!!!!

Assalamu-alaikum sis, i really don't know what to say. I was crying when i read your post. I obviously don't know what exaclty ur problems are but this is exactly how i feel sometimes. For years too i have been suffering from depression.....there were times i have felt that there was no option for me other then death.....but i am still here! I know the only reason i am here is because of my faith in Allah. Without my belief in Allah i am nothing.
Sometimes i feel so low that it makes me question why im here.....things get soo bad sometimes that i find the smallest things so hard. There are times when i don't feel like getting up from bed......but i push myself....the only reason i push myself to get up is so that i do not miss my prayer.

I wake up everyday thinking today will be different.....but it usually is the same. I believe that whatever i am going through is a test from Allah, but why does the same hardship repeats its self! Sometimes i feel like i am going around in a circle.......! The things i have been through i wudn't wish it on my worst enemy......[not so long ago....i did wish it!]

I found it so hard to talk to any one about it.....evryone knew what i was going through but they would always tell me that some one else is worse of then i am....so i should think that i am really lucky....! but how am i? I obviously knew that there is no way that they can understand what i am going through......i felt so alone! You talk about the emptyness, the lonliness, the heart ache.......i too feel it.....but i am slowly learning to ignore it. How is that possible.....right? I don't know......i keep praying to Allah....maybe its because of that....i don't know.
There is nothing much in my life to look forward to......espicially with everything i have been through.
There is a tiny hope still alive in me........i don't want to kill that hope.

My family and friends can't understand what i am going through.....when i tried to open up to them they hurt me more some how......now i just 'pretend' im fine......when inside im just tearing up. It helps when i pretend......
When they go on about there so called 'problems'.....such as 'im feeling so depressed, i cannot go on holiday this year'.......it makes me wanna laugh at their face.....! lol.......but i don't! I pretend ....'yeh it must really depressing for you!'
No one can truly understand our pains except Allah......
Why doesn't Allah answer our prayers?....Only Allah knows...maybe he has something better in store for us......thats what i keep telling myself.
I keep thinking there is something i am doing wrong.....i don't know what though!

When i read your post.....it sounded so much like what i had wrote down on my journal.........yeh i know im kinda sad fro having a journal! But i find it helps sometimes to write.....so u can vent your anger.....no one's going to get hurt by that right? Obviously it doesn't solve your problems.....but it made me see how bitter i had become....it made me see how much i have changed from a loving and out going person.....to.......!

Anyways i realise that the only thing i can do is pray, pray and pray. I just think that if i were to continue having a life of miseary....and die....then at least i cud ask Allah why?....but if i do not fulfill my duties towards Him.....how can i possibley ask Allah 'why?'.......because in my heart i already know the reason.......

So i am trying to.....I know i have nothing to look forward to in my life....but im still trying........
All i can say to u sister...is that keep praying. If its possible try doing Umraah. And if u can then drink Zam Zam water evryday. I am definately going to include you in my dua. May Allah bless you and protect you always.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Still no changes, still dying and slowly collapsing with the torture.

Alhumdullilah for giving me this pain and torture, and for giving happiness to the people who destroyed me. ALHUMDULLILAH. :enough!:

 

[kjra]

Still no changes, still dying and slowly collapsing with the torture.

Alhumdullilah for giving me this pain and torture, and for giving happiness to the people who destroyed me. ALHUMDULLILAH. :enough!:

aww sis i really wish i cud take away ur pain.....but i can't. All i can do is remember u in my duas. Please sis, take care. may Allah ease ur pain.Ameen

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

Still no changes, still dying and slowly collapsing with the torture.

Alhumdullilah for giving me this pain and torture, and for giving happiness to the people who destroyed me. ALHUMDULLILAH. :enough!:

didnt go travelling yet eh