confessions...

[ardianto]

I think I have too high expectations regarding marriage which is strange since my parents didn't have a good marriage and divorced. I grew up in single parent home. Still I believe in happy marriage.

Expecting happy mariage is normal, not too high. But you must realize that you will not get what you expect if you don't do anything to get it.

You should work together with your husband to build and maintain happiness in marriage.

but lately I've seen cases of domestic abuse and that has greatly saddened me. such cases can cause phobia in a person and make them fear marriage.

Fear of domestic abuse is nomal. This was the fear of my wife when she was young, and this is why she expected me to be her husband although there were many men who wanted her.

My wife had know my character and personality long time before we made promise to marry each other. We met everyday in classroom in high school. I was close with her family since in high school because her older brother was my friend. Some people around her were my friends too who knew much about me. So, with this many 'recommendation' she did not hesitate to marry me.

Just an input for sisters. It's better you choose a man who recommended by people you can trust.