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Asalamu Alaikum

Tommy, he's funny. Sometimes he blasts Quraan recitation from his house, and sometimes you hear the weirdest sounds of music coming. I realised, the days he has music on is when it's sunny and nice. When it's dark and gloomy, the Quraan be's on blast.

Cool huh.
 
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lol you've lost me but i kinda understand what you mean, what kind of music does he play?
 
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Not so much cool, as scary.

Surah Ahzab verse 4​

مَّا جَعَلَ اللَّهُ لِرَجُلٍ مِّن قَلْبَيْنِ فِي جَوْفِهِ​

"Allah has not made for any man, two hearts in his body"​

As Ibn Umar rightly puts it when he comments on this verse, how can someone who's heart is full of Qur'an be full of music at the same time? A single heart cannot contain the words of Allah and the voice of Satan. Nay, it must be one.

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Maybe there's two different guys in the room, like flatmates, and they fight over what's blaring out into the street.

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Asalamu Alaikum

Wow, this is amazing! Osman, looks like you've grown out of your old ways. Masha Allah! So like did this change come by you, or is there someones efforts behind all this? I want to know.

What kind of music? I'm not going to say or else I'll be accused of listening to music and paying attention to it. Sorry minaz.

Tommy lives with his wife and 2 kids. He's odd. Never seen him with anyone, he's got no friends.
 
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he sounds like my old me.....

may Allah swt forgive my past sins Ameen.

wasalamuaalikum wr wb.
 
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Asalamu Alaikum

Tommy is Muslim. He sometimes remembers he's Muslim and gets changed into somthing more modest. Good on him.

There's no need to confess Salafi sister, and insha Allah may Allah forgive you.
 
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Asalamu Alaikum

Wow, this is amazing! Osman, looks like you've grown out of your old ways. Masha Allah! So like did this change come by you, or is there someones efforts behind all this? I want to know.

What kind of music? I'm not going to say or else I'll be accused of listening to music and paying attention to it. Sorry minaz.

Tommy lives with his wife and 2 kids. He's odd. Never seen him with anyone, he's got no friends.
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Asalam o alikum warahmatulahi wabarakatuh.

bro y dont u get 2 know the guy and talk to him. if hez got no mates u can talk to him and then sooner or later talk about Islam. he'll be well happy that hes got a mate now and at the same time u can put thoughts in his head (about Islam.) which will make him think, he'll get social experience and at the same time you'll get the reward insh Allah of teaching him more about it.. and also pray to Allah (swt) that he does get guided onto the right path insh Allah.

wasalam o alikum warahmatulahi wabarakatuh.
 
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Asalamu Alaikum

Well, that is a really good idea Aqib, thank you.

The only problem I would say is that he seems determined not to get involved. A few of the local brothers tried getting him to come to the mosque and pray, but he insists on praying at home. His wife needs him there, though she's hardly ever in, always out.

And one other thing. He says that intentions are what matter. We should judge people on their intentions, not actions. Well obviously he's pure from inside, so it wouldn't matter on the outside too much.
 
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Wow, this is amazing! Osman, looks like you've grown out of your old ways. Masha Allah! So like did this change come by you, or is there someones efforts behind all this? I want to know.
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And what exactly are my old ways? Nah, I'm pretty much the same old me. :) I never was the deadly, weird, immature kid you thought I was. :)

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walaikum asalam warahmatulahi wabarakatuh..

buh bro maybe iss cz da boiz forced him to go.. why don't you try to get to know him 1st and gain trust in him.. then gradually with time u can or even he will open upto the religious matters. with people like that they dont feel secure and at some moments they might feel happy and hence listen to the songs for enjoyment, but wen they feel depressed (as u mentioned when its grey and rainin) they might focus on islam. in islam intentions matter but the actual action is even better, obviously if he says he will go the masjid and he doesn't then he wont get the reward for it because at the back of his mind he knew he wouldnt go.

why not at the beginning talk to him every now and then cz ppl feel too insecure at the beginning and gradually keep building up his trust and because he never had no matez he will want you to visit more and more. then gradually in your worldy talk slip in things about islam, somethings which are positive and will make him think. after that insh Allah he will get interested and ask u questions which he wasnt sure of in the 1st place. then later on insh Allah wen he gets deeper into it ask him to get 1 fact a day of islam that he never knew and u would aswell and you could discuss it the next day. this will gradually gain his trust insh Allah and will make him more confident towards islam.

insh Allah once he gets confident in islam you two will be good close mates and at 1st he wont be confident to go to the masjid but if u go with him and acompany him he will feel a sense of security.. dont let anyone put him down cz that will make him lose alot of confidence, even if it does happen try to support him and remind him that Allah (swt) is on our side to protect us.. just remember to keep praying for him cz without Allah (swt)'s help we cant acomplish nothin..

people like this are shy and insecure at 1st but they can make a big difference, and the best way is to open them up and cz we muslim we have the greatest help of Allah (swt) and because you hav a gud intention insh Allah u will get rewarded for it.. remember "Actions are but by intentions and every man will have only what he intended..."

(full hadith: Actions are but by intentions and every man will have only what he intended. So whoever emigrated for Allah and His Messenger, then his emigration was for Allah and His Messenger. And whoever emigrated to attain something of this world or to marry a woman, then his emigration was for whatever reason he emigrated." [Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim])

wasalam o alikum warahmatulahi wabarakatuh.
 
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Asalamu Alaikum

Seriously Osman, no more nonsense posts huh? Cool.
 
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I always think before I write.

Sheikh Ameer-ul-mumineen Maulana Mufti Imaam Abdul rahimullah. :)

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Assalamu alaikum

Maybe we should pray that Allah guides tommy, and us. Talking about him and others like him wont do anyone any good. :brother:
 
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Asalamu Alaikum

Yes, you are right. May Allah guide Tommy, and us all.
 
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Nay, it must be one.
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okay Mr. Osman Shake-pear

i agree with Aqib, try harder to chat with the dude,ask y he turns away from quran sometimes...maybe he is in mood of some singing, then tell him to listen to some nasheeds and ensure he knows music is haram

invite him to the day out to snooker or bowling game or somewhere fun, with other muslim buddies
 
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