Coping with Depression, stress and anger

[Kittygyal]

Re: feel like a looser!!!

salamualikum.
Not a problem hun

^ See there you go, you got your answer don't worry about it alhamdulillah your still living, still got your own man so what if you can't have a baby not end of world, am sowiee if i am sounding harsh here but respect hun it happens to enough people inshallah you need to stop all this worrying and cheer up have fun don't let it get in to your way. Okay your going to feel down and upset but you can't be upset for the rest of your life just because you can't have babies. Inshallah just have sabr and rely on Allah subhanwatallah okay?

If you have any further details and would like to talk about it to someone please let me know inshallah am always here for ya , Sis smile>>>>>.....
Ma'assalama

 

[Noor]

Re: feel like a looser!!!

Sis was Ibrahim, peace be upon him, a loser? Far from it!!

Sister if you can't have a family or if it's taking time then know that no muslim faces sorrow except that it will cleanse it's sin, INSHAALLAH.

You've raised such a good point! MashaAllah TabarakAllah. Sister I also advise you to read the story of Prophet Ayyub (a.s).

 

[Kittygyal]

Re: feel like a looser!!!

salamualikum.

^ Yes true. Has anyone got that story for the sister and other people?

I have it in a book but am afraid i won't be able to type it all up. :-[

Ma'assalama

 

[Leena]

Re: feel like a looser!!!

Salam all ,I am getting really feed up and feel 2 b honest like a looser I been tryibg 2 start a family for the past 8-9 months and it s getting me really upset now any advice

Sister, you should not feel like a looser at all. Insha'allah you will be pregnant when the time is right. When most couples try to have a baby, it seems it just doesn't happen, but when you stop trying it happens (for most). Sister, you need to have patiences in this and don't get upset, as ones emotions can throw things off balance.

Sister you will be in my prayers.

 

[- Qatada -]

Re: feel like a looser!!!

Asalaamu 'alykum.


Remember sister that many prophets prayed for children and after testing them through patience, Allaah granted them really pious children. Prophet Ibrahim went through this, so did Prophet Zakariyyah. And Allaah blessed them with children who would become prophets, so don't worry because after hardship Allaah will grant ease - only Allaah knows the true wisdom behind this delay.

The stories of these Prophets can be read from here inshaa Allaah:

http://www.islamicboard.com/prophets-islam/1704-prophet-ayoub-job.html

http://www.islamicboard.com/prophets-islam/1713-prophet-zakariya-yahya-john-baptist.html

http://www.islamicboard.com/prophets-islam/1698-prophet-ibrahim-abraham.html


Remember to stay constant and patient in your prayers, and place your trust in Allaah. Because if we give up on our trust in Him - who else can we rely on? Know that Allaah is always hearing your prayers, and He is the Most Wise - so anything that happens is for your own good, there may be a thing you dislike but Allaah has placed in it much good. You never know which dua' Allaah will respond to, so continue praying.. and we will pray for you also.

May Allaah bless you with pious children who will help you and the muslims enter Allaah's Paradise. ameen.

 

[جوري]

Re: feel like a looser!!!

Sister it is standard you try for a year before seeking medical attention.
http://www.drmalpani.com/understandinginfertility.htm

This is a random website that I just found you, I didn't read it, but it does attest to common knowledge in medicine. Most couples do try for a year before seeking other routes.
I recommend you do everything everyone is telling you on this forum
And understand that somethings really are only in the knowledge of Allah.. perhaps you having a baby later than sooner is because of reason, that only Allah in his infinite wisdom can know right now... Just focus on your family and your soon to be family insha'Allah, in a positive way, rather than needing to be on some sort of biological schedule-- things will happen as Allah wills, and Insha'Allah he shall grant your desires soon..

 

[khushnood]

Re: feel like a looser!!!

the least i can do is to make dua for u sis.have patience for Allah loves the patient.

 

[Abdul Fattah]

Re: feel like a looser!!!

Selam aleykum sister
have patience inshaAllah
Allah subhana wa ta'ala knows best when to grant your desires and when to hold it. Maybe it's for your own good or maybe it's a test set for you. It defenitly doesn't mean you're a looser. Have faith in Allah subhana wa ta'ala inshaAllah.
And may Allah grant you your hearts desire

 

[Annie]

Re: feel like a looser!!!

Salams sis
just remember life and death is in the hands of Allah, if you are destined to have a child then inshallah you will,have patience sis.
wasalam