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as Salaam alaykum wa Rahmetallahu

- Serene - said:
What do u mean ur not ready to cover ur head?! How hard is it to put a scarf on ur head when u go out?! :-\
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lol Don't be so harsh on the sister, think throughly before you reply. That's sometimes the reaction of sisters who mashaAllah, very early started to wear the scarf and don't think beyond their own experience.

But there is so much more into it than just a scarf and put it on. Modesty, your character, your behaviour... Hijab is the whole package and sometimes it might seem too much for a girl. I think it's even better to re-think your reasons and what's gonna have to change after you wear it, put your heart in it and not just change the way you dress, but make yourself modest aswell.

InshaAllah, Anonymous, you'll see the beauty in hijab and will soon feel ready to wear it.
 
Is it not contradictory to say it is fard for females to cover their heads (and some believe head and face) when the opposite the case when at Ihram? (I am asking a question not making a statement).
 
I dont think he should be forcing you. I have first hand experience at that cos I was forced from childhood and I think it just distances you from Islam.
Since I got my own life I never wore it but I have been thinking about it alot recently and I'm hoping to start soon inshallah.
My husband also pesters me to
wear it even though hes not the slightest bit religious himself. I just say yeah I'm thinking about it and then he forgets about it.
Yes Islam says that the wife should please her husband but it also says that its important to have a good understanding between a couple and thats what makes a marriage successful. I dont think its healthy to be forced into it at all.
Good luck hope you manage to sort it out whatever you decide.
 
AnonymousGender said:
as Salaam alaykum wa Rahmetallahu



But there is so much more into it than just a scarf and put it on. Modesty, your character, your behaviour... Hijab is the whole package and sometimes it might seem too much for a girl. I think it's even better to re-think your reasons and what's gonna have to change after you wear it, put your heart in it and not just change the way you dress, but make yourself modest aswell.
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but why don't u put it on, then worry about them things later...i thought they go hand in hand anyway...i.e u put the hijab on, and it comes natural to be good in behaviour, etc...no :?
 
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Anon#2

What are you on about? Yeah she must be obedient to her man, but forced into doing something she doesn't want to do?
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i dont think he meant forcing her to wear it i think the bro meant that in general shes responsible for obeying him, whether its the hijaab or otherwise.:) it just happens to be in this case the hijaab...nothing about forcing :)

@OP...do u feel comfortable with all them creepy sleezy men looking at you with lust +o(+o(+o( i guess u could look at it that way :p
sis, hes just worried and jealous over ya...thats all... :)
 
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AssalamuAlaykum

Lol you know its Gheerah and its natural.

But sometimes in life we realise that such and such a thing was haram but we did it. And then we wonder why nobody told us to stop it earlier. Sis if somebody is encouraging you to protect urself and do what is fardh, u shud be thankful IMO and take that step forward.

[MOUSE]Power to the Hijaabi's :D[/MOUSE]

WassalamuAlaykum
 
Ramlah said:
but why don't u put it on, then worry about them things later...i thought they go hand in hand anyway...i.e u put the hijab on, and it comes natural to be good in behaviour, etc...no :?
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Do not tell me you have seen only hijaabis who behave well. For there are many of those who even how modest they are clothed, they do not necessarily behave the way they are suppoused to. A piece of clothing does change you skin deep, but not to the bone.
That way which you suggested above, is almost comparable to the issue with having an Islamic name. Muslim by name, but not practicing. Now an Islamic name does not mean you will become practicing or that you are. If you have the hijaab on or not, most is because of your inside, the 'Ilm you have gained, the Eemaan.
 
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LOL@ Jolie Fleur:D

A piece of clothing does change you skin deep, but not to the bone.
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well let the sis stand out and be different. she dosnt have to be like them...
dont worry how others behave...just worry about how you behave...:) concentrate on your self.

besides...do we really have time to sit and worry about this kinda stuff...to sit and worry about 'being ready' just think about your aakhirah and that ought to put things into perspective, inshallah:)
 
People make Hijab sound so much more intimidating than it really is.
They just say "Oh it's so hard, only really religious people do it." blah blah blah
It's like bug repellent, you should be anxious and ready to start, and happy that your husband wants to protect you. That means he loves you and cares about you. He wouldn't care about you if he let you wear whatever. Hijab is more than a piece of cloth, it's a symbol of dignity and pride and strength. I love my hijab and I would never take it off, it makes me feel like I am something. I'm not saying this to sound cheesy, I mean it. I doubt you'll feel bad with hijab, trust me sis, you won't loose friends. Real friends will stick with you. And Hijab encourages people to look past the beauty and see who you really are. I'm not playing, this is how I truly feel about hijab.
 
I DON'T mean to offend anyone but, personally i get annoyed when people tell me "i'm not ready, i can't do it" so when are you gona do it? after you die? seriously...people need to start thinking, if Allah ordered us to do something, who are we to say we're not ready?

again, i'm sorry if i offended anyone...
 

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