Degrading the hijab?

[libertymouse73]

OK, so I agree with Salehah but we also have to think. SOme of these girls might be forced because of issues they have had in the past. so would their actions today suprise us? I know a girl who had a rep for doing things unislamic. When some of it got back to her parents she was immediately married at the age of 16! THe guy was 10yrs older and she wasn't even allowd to finish school. Masha allah she later did and here iman is now much better but she has also eluded to the fact that it is not her choice to wear hijab and niqab but her hubby's. How do we deal with that?

 

[Raizins]

May Allah guide them inshAllah.
It's the muslims duty to represent the deen in the best way possible.
It's the youth's most biggest resposibilty, but most are just unaware of the danger and harm they're putting themselves in I guess. They just need to wake up and Idk realize what a bad impression they're putting on themselves as well as the rest of the Ummah.

 

[Snowflake]

I don't think organising a one-off talk would be enough to achieve the desired result. How about starting regular sisters meetings - a halaqa, I think it's called. That way you can get your point across slowly but surely in a relaxed and friendly atmosphere and those who don't attend at first, may inshaAllah follow others who do. May Allah guide us all. Ameen.

 

[Zamtsa]

wa 'alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh.

Just print this and put it on their school bag or desks. Smoking is Haram:

1. cause many kinds of sickness
2. Air pollution
3. Endangering other people
4. Wasting your money
5. endangering babies


About sitting on someone laps and foul language:


Al Isra' (17):32 Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil opening the road (to other evils).


Assalamu'alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh.

 

[Erundur]

I know a girl who had a rep for doing things unislamic. When some of it got back to her parents she was immediately married at the age of 16! THe guy was 10yrs older and she wasn't even allowd to finish school. Masha allah she later did and here iman is now much better but she has also eluded to the fact that it is not her choice to wear hijab and niqab but her hubby's. How do we deal with that?

I see the marriage as a slap back to reality, her parents I feel, did something that was necessary to save her in the long run. It does not make sense right now but in due time it will. Like the sister said, since her iman has gotten much better, I equate it to the marriage, samething with the hijab, its better to have it on otherwise her intentions might revert back to her "pre-islamic" days.

 

[Erundur]

many of the Muslim guys are the one's who provoke or 'flirt' with the hijabi's etc.

This is the problem, the blame can go to many of the sisters, but I feel the real culprits behind this are the MUSLIM GUYS, in order for many of the muslims living in the west especially in the teens and the 20s the guys have to be pious and lead a righteous life, because otherwise what they do is exploit the muslim women like you've mentioned and just have 'fun' with them is all and nothing more and the women's modesty becomes compromised. :hmm:

Just pray to Allah (swt) to help safeguard your iman and protect your modesty, and try to talk to some of the sisters the more 'open' minded ones that are doing these actions, sometimes the acts that they commit are from the environments that they are exposed to at home. Especially with the cultural gap with some of the parents not understanding the british way of life allows such muslims to have a identity crisis. And instead of confronting the issue, they make the child to just obey them and not actually guide them. That or they are worried to much about this dunia and only care about making money, some of things we have materially may seem nice but when mom and dad are not at home and are at work, the kids will go somewhere else for comfort mainly in non-muslim areas or something.


Sometimes we crave so much attention that we put ourselves out there and all we really needed was to feel, for once, important. So we could have some meaning of honesty, care, warmth, and above all love, because no one ever made us feel like that before.

 

[-Elle-]

Sub7an'Allah, I just keep on hearing(and seeing) stories similiar to this(although, i think your situation might be worst...to an extent).

Sis, insh'Allah you never get influenced by this, and don't ever be shy to stand up to what you believe in. If some guy talks to you or erm..does something? innappropriate, you can explain it to him why YOU don't do such things, and why such things aren't permissible.

They might say" But so and so does, it, why not you?"

And then follows the explanation. I've had to do this pleeeenty of times. Dear Lord. but, never get tierd of it, it's important that these people see that even if "everyone" is doing it, doesn't mean "it's O.K".(that was a quote I used many times)

As for how you can help your muslim sisters out...awh that is very noble of you, if you feel you are capable, try to speak to one of these girls, preferably if you have a friend among them, not in a critical manner, but in a way of incomprehension. Ask them why they behave in such a way,then tell them that your door is open to them anytime.(it works...not with everyone, but it works!)

Lastly, make Du'ah to Allah(swt) to guide our muslim bros & sis...it truly saddens me when I see/hear such things, to an extent where..where I kind of get depressed at times(when I see people I know and love behave in such a way)... in the end,don't judge,that Allah(Swt) will do in its proper time,and be there for anyone who needs your help...

Remember, no one's perfect,everyone makes mistakes, and Allah is Forgiving.

 

[aminahjaan]

Siss! You're not alone
I've seen some hijabis that can turn out to be kinda nasty...publicly
make yourself an example.
Life your live, and let Allah judge them because what ever they do, shouldn't affect you.
if you really want to help them, I think you should form some type of all girls Qur'an/Islamic class.
I have one and wooow masha'Allah it did wonders for me and for people that needed a little spiritual push.
And tell them to come, don't force them, just say its cool and that they're missing out lol.
Don't worry sis, if Allah wants to guide them he will, just pray for them

 

[Dawud_uk]

Aslam walaikum

Well...Ive recently moved to a sixth form college from my high school (which was a girls only) and Im really upset and annoyed at what I see. There are many jilbabi's in my college who smoke, sit on guys laps, touch their faces, use REALLY foul language..and all the rest of the stuff... and the worst thing is they do it publicly. :'( Many of the other students are non-muslim, and the issue is that none of the Muslims say anything. There is so much free mixing etc, and many of the Muslim guys are the one's who provoke or 'flirt' with the hijabi's etc. I myself am a hijabi and I feel by participating in such behaviour not only are the sisters degrading the hijab, but they are not representing islam in the right manner. The main problem is that I can't say anything as many of them have 'attitudes' and I really don't want to get myself beaten up or anything..lol

So what can I do? I feel that because many hijab's and jilbabi's have adopted this kind of behaviour that people will not respect me for being a hijabi (as in treat me islamically) and that many of the males will think I'm just like the rest of them. I really don't know how I'm meant to approach these people, or how I'm meant to cope with this, because when I see what they do...AstagfurAllah but it really makes my blood boil!

Any advice?

JazakAllah

enjoin the good and forbid the evil, and call others to do the same who are avoiding these evils themselves.

start nice and simple, be friendly but firm in saying these things are wrong, keep pushing gently and try to form a jammat of brothers and sisters doing the same.