Depressed Doctors - A Silent Affliction

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Well, my scientific friend, what can we do to help?? I think I know a way to make you smile:D I mean come on....you have a Christian dude right here you can pick on;D I don't mind really...as long as it brings a smile across you face.

Come on try it, i know your thinking it....come on i think i see it....there it is:D i knw you could do it.:D

You gotta get out a little more Wahabi. Put a patch in that boat and start sailing on a journey of happiness.....omg, that was so cheesy i'm sorry;D

lol thanks man. yea man, last few days have been good Allhamdulillah. Two interview invites showed up miraculously in my email. I just hope these are not further tests from Allah (swt) like the previous ones. imsad
 
My dua is with you sis skye. I truly hope you find a way out,

Are you getting professional help if i may ask. My mild depression is linked with my lonliness and low self esteem, if i am around people , talking, joking, laughing , then i am okay.

90% of my time is spent on my own company, be it at work or home.

Ive seen it happen not to one but two of my family members, and it affects them for years and years.

The treatment in a 1st world country like u.k, just seems adequate, the only thing i see is them trying to get the patient to go to sleep.


My only remedy and time of peace is when i go to sleep, your mind is switched off,but this is not a cure to depression, when you wake up , your still down.
 
My dua is with you sis skye. I truly hope you find a way out,

Are you getting professional help if i may ask. My mild depression is linked with my lonliness and low self esteem, if i am around people , talking, joking, laughing , then i am okay.

90% of my time is spent on my own company, be it at work or home.

Ive seen it happen not to one but two of my family members, and it affects them for years and years.

The treatment in a 1st world country like u.k, just seems adequate, the only thing i see is them trying to get the patient to go to sleep.


My only remedy and time of peace is when i go to sleep, your mind is switched off,but this is not a cure to depression, when you wake up , your still down.

u jus described my symptoms exactly imsad
 
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May Allah fill your heart with happiness, sister.

Whenever I am slightly depressed, I would talk to myself and cry a lot. After a lot of crying, I would really feel better. When I am in one of those deeper depressions, I would try not to think of myself, instead focus on helping some people and their happiness lifts our mood.
 
Jazakoum Allah khyran..

I went today to see this new doc, I had sky rocketing blood pressure which for my age is really very strange so we are investigating that had a cardiac workup and some CT scans and what not.. it is really what I needed will find out results soon insha'Allah (khyer insha'Allah).. I was feeling these debilitating physical symptoms which to me were more than mere depression toward the end it was unbearable, I mean they cause me anxiety to, but who wouldn't be anxious when their heart is about to jump out of their throat, I have lost quite a bit of weight too so we'll see the results of the lab tests and whatever else.. khyer insha'Allah..

so exhausted now and been jabbed quite a bit today so I am going to rest myself a bit..

I really appreciate your support and du3a..

:w:
 
Jazakoum Allah khyran..

I went today to see this new doc, I had sky rocketing blood pressure which for my age is really very strange so we are investigating that had a cardiac workup and some CT scans and what not.. it is really what I needed will find out results soon insha'Allah (khyer insha'Allah).. I was feeling these debilitating physical symptoms which to me were more than mere depression toward the end it was unbearable, I mean they cause me anxiety to, but who wouldn't be anxious when their heart is about to jump out of their throat, I have lost quite a bit of weight too so we'll see the results of the lab tests and whatever else.. khyer insha'Allah..

so exhausted now and been jabbed quite a bit today so I am going to rest myself a bit..

I really appreciate your support and du3a..

:w:
may your results be normal inshAllah.
 
I hope you are fine.
Why don't you take a week at the spa or go skiing?
Check out my signature, I hope it can cheer you up a bit.
 
I hope you are fine.
Why don't you take a week at the spa or go skiing?
Check out my signature, I hope it can cheer you up a bit.


she advised me of a mini vacation.. I advised myself too of a mini vacation. It came in the form of a frivolous books, which I had very much regretted after reading given its somber mood.. but yeah I am past due for a mental break before I have a mental break down..

I had given up any activity I enjoyed of late the past two or three months saw a complete decline in every last activity I enjoyed, perhaps I might take up swimming again or whatever I just want to see the results first before I start any new project..

peace
 
she advised me of a mini vacation.. I advised myself too of a mini vacation. It came in the form of a frivolous books, which I had very much regretted after reading given its somber mood.. but yeah I am past due for a mental break before I have a mental break down..

I had given up any activity I enjoyed of late the past two or three months saw a complete decline in every last activity I enjoyed, perhaps I might take up swimming again or whatever I just want to see the results first before I start any new project..

peace

yea sister, you gotta get out of it. I love nature photography. This winter I have not taken a single shot! The things I love to do in "spare" time, I am not doing. It shows a change in my thinking and I do not like it. I wanna become a shutter bug again.
 
:sl: sis

your posts have truly saddened me, insh'Allah you feel better soon, and insh'Allah every aspect of your life will improve once rid of these emotions..

The best advice has been given therefore I have nothing to add, except to take care of yourself, even if it seems hard right now. Communicate with your family members/ dearest friends about what you are feeling.

I hate to see a Muslim sister suffer like this..if you need to talk to anyone and find yourself incapable of facing people in your entourage,you can PM me anytime.

Best of Luck

:wa:
 
MY biggest problem is staying awake in the night and sleeping in the day. I've rarely gotten up past 12 o clock and its made me depressed to see so little sunshine and affected my biorythm as well. I have so much styudying to do these days, that's a depressing factor too.
 
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May Allaah (swt) relieve you of your suffering, and give you complete shifaa', Aameen.

Remember that any tests and trials experienced by the believer have much wisdom and benefit in them. This includes raising one's rank in the Sight of Allaah (swt), expiating sins and causing one to turn back to Allaah (swt) and making you more humble and submissive to Him.

Remember the beautiful hadeeth in Sahih Al-Bukhari:

Narrated Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri and Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that."

Here's a list of treatments that have been mentioned in a book entitled, Dealing with Worries & Stress by Shaykh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid. You can download the book here or here for further detail on any of the points.

ISLAM'S TREATMENT FOR ANXIETY & WORRY

1. Equipping oneself with îmân (faith), accompanied by righteous deeds.
2. Thinking of how the Muslim may earn expiation for his sins, purify his heart and raise his status, when he is stricken with distress and worry in this life.
3. Understanding the reality of this world
4. Following the examples of the Prophets and the righteous
5. Making the Hereafter one’s main concern
6. A surprisingly effective remedy: remembering death

7. Praying to Allâh, may He be exalted*

...A number of other du’aa’s to do with distress and anxiety have also been narrated in the Sunnah. They include the following:

Ibn ‘Abbaas reported that when the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) felt distressed, he would say:


لا إلَهَ إِلا اللَّهُ الْعَظِيمُ الْحَلِيمُ ، لا إلَهَ إلا اللَّهُرَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمُ ، لا إلَهَ إلا اللَّهُ رَبُّ السَّموَاتِ وَ رَبُّالأَرْضِ وَرَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْكَرِيمُ


“Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah al-‘Azeem al-Haleem, laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb al-‘Arsh al-‘azeem, la ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb al-samawaat wa Rabb al-ard wa Rabb al-‘Arsh al-kareem

(There is no god but Allaah, the All-Powerful, the Forbearing; there is no god but Allaah, Lord of the mighty Throne; there is no god but Allaah, Lord of heaven, Lord of earth, and Lord of the noble Throne).

Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that when the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was distressed by something, he would say:

يَا حَيُّ يَا قَيُّومُ بِرَحْمَتِكَ أَسْتَغِيثُ

“Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoom bi rahmatika astagheeth

(O Ever-Living, O Eternal, by Your mercy I seek help).”

Asmaa’ bint ‘Umayr said: “The Messenger of Allâh (peace and blessings of Allâh be upon him) said to me: ‘Shall I not teach you some words which you can say at times of distress?


اللَّهُ اللَّهُ رَبِّي لَا أُشْرِكُ بِهِ شَيْئَاً

‘Allaah Allâh rabbee laa ushriku bihi shay’an

(Allâh Allâh is my Lord, I do not associate anything with Him).’”

Another of the beneficial du’aa’s which the Messenger of Allâh (peace and blessings of Allâh be upon him) taught us is the one he told us about when he said: “The du’aa’ of the person who is in distress is:


اللَّهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ أَرْجُو فَلَا تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ وَأَصْلِحْ شَأْنِي كُلَّهُ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ

‘Allaahumma rahmataka arjoo fa laa takilni ilaa nafsi tarfat ‘ayn w’aslih li sha’ni kullahu laa ilaaha illa anta

(O Allâh, for Your mercy I hope, so do not leave me in charge of my affairs even for the blink of an eye; rectify all my affairs. There is no god except You)’”

If a person thinks about the meaning of these du’aa’s and prays with concentration and a sincere intention, doing all those things that can help to bring about a response, Allaah will fulfil his hopes and do the things asked for; He will turn his distress into joy.



8. Praying for the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allâh be upon him) (i.e., saying “Allaahumma salli ‘ala Muhammad,” etc.)

This is one of the greatest ways through which Allâh may relieve worries:

Al-Tufayl ibn Ubayy ibn Ka’b reported that his father said: “When two-thirds of the night had passed, the Messenger of Allâh (peace and blessings of Allâh be upon him) got up and said: ‘O people, remember Allâh, remember Allâh. The first blowing of the Trumpet has come, and will be followed by the second blowing. Death has come, with all that it implies, death has come with all that it implies.’ I said: ‘O Messenger of Allâh, I pray a lot for you. How much of my prayers should I devote to you?’ He said, ‘As much as you want.’ I said, ‘A quarter?’ He said, ‘As much as you want, and if you increase it, it will be good for you.’ I said, ‘Half?’ He said, ‘As much as you want, and if you increase it, it will be good for you.’ I said, ‘Two-thirds?’ He said, ‘As much as you want, and if you increase it, it will be good for you.’ I said, ‘I will devote all my prayer to you.’ He said, ‘Then your worries will be taken care of and your sin will be forgiven.’” (Tirmidhi)
9. Relying upon Allâh and entrusting matters to Him
10. Other ways of dispelling distress and anxiety include paying attention to what is beneficial, focusing on what matters today and no longer worrying about what may happen tomorrow or regretting what happened yesterday
11. One of the most effective ways of finding comfort and contentment is to remember Allâh frequently
12. Seeking refuge in prayer
13. Another thing that may dispel worry is jihad for the sake of Allâh.
14. Speaking about the blessings of Allâh, both those which are obvious and those which are hidden
15. Keeping oneself busy with useful work or the pursuit of beneficial knowledge
16. Looking for the positive aspects of the events in which he tends to see only things that he dislikes.
17. Understanding the true value and shortness of this life, and that time is too precious to be wasted in stress and anxiety
18. Another beneficial measure is not to allow one’s work and other duties to accumulate
19. Constantly anticipating and being prepared for all possibilities
20. Another remedy is to complain to religious scholars and ask them for advice
21. The person who is distressed or worried should know that after hardship comes ease
22. Another remedy for distress is certain kinds of food*

*The food referred to here is the soup/broth of Talbeen, which has been recommended to alleviate sickness, grief and distress.

And in addition to making lots of du'aa, remember to recite the Qur'an as much as possible, in which there is a healing for the believers.



I hope this has been helpful Insha'Allaah.
 
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May Allaah (swt) relieve you of your suffering, and give you complete shifaa', Aameen.

Remember that any tests and trials experienced by the believer have much wisdom and benefit in them. This includes raising one's rank in the Sight of Allaah (swt), expiating sins and causing one to turn back to Allaah (swt) and making you more humble and submissive to Him.

Remember the beautiful hadeeth in Sahih Al-Bukhari:

Narrated Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri and Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that."

Here's a list of treatments that have been mentioned in a book entitled, Dealing with Worries & Stress by Shaykh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid. You can download the book here or here for further detail on any of the points.



*The food referred to here is the soup/broth of Talbeen, which has been recommended to alleviate sickness, grief and distress.

And in addition to making lots of du'aa, remember to recite the Qur'an as much as possible, in which there is a healing for the believers.



I hope this has been helpful Insha'Allaah.

It has been very helpful Jazaka Allah khyran..
I just want to add, that I am not intentionally feeling this way because I have worked myself up to a frenzy.. it really just sort of sprang on me, I can't help it at all, I wish to get back to normal ASAP insha'Allah..

this food '[FONT=Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif]Talbeen' [/FONT] is this a sort of beleela? I have never heard of it.. but will try it insha'Allah..

Jazaka Allah khyran.. and everyone who has offered me advise here..

:w:
 
It has been very helpful Jazaka Allah khyran..
I just want to add, that I am not intentionally feeling this way because I have worked myself up to a frenzy.. it really just sort of sprang on me, I can't help it at all, I wish to get back to normal ASAP insha'Allah..

this food '[FONT=Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif]Talbeen' [/FONT] is this a sort of beleela? I have never heard of it.. but will try it insha'Allah..

Jazaka Allah khyran.. and everyone who has offered me advise here..

:w:

:sl: my dear sis,

Have a look at this re: Talbina:

http://www.healthmeanswealth.co.uk/index.php?pr=Talbina

I'd never heard of it before either. Barley is supposed to be very nourishing...
 
wait lol.. they just put a picture of it there, it isn't really for sale imsad...

I am going to see if I can find a shop online to directly buy it insha'Allah

:w:
 
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^ InshaAllah.
But it does have the recipe at the bottom of the page, if you can't get hold of Talbina. Not sure how easy barley flour is to get hold of, but I think whole barley can be ground in a kitchen processor...
 

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