Destiny

[Riana17]

Asalam Alaikkum

I believe it is destiny, because I supposed to be not married to my husband now, I suppose to marry a Kuwaiti of my age, I prepared my paper for him and we almost did it, but it didnt happen. This is one of the happiest memory of my life, alhamdollelah Allah gave me a man who's 1000x better than him

Lol did it sound my husband is 65? Nah he is 6yrs older than I

I marry my long time friend who's with me while arranging that papers lol and infact the truth he likes to marry me too and in the end I am the one who proposed to him plus I pray to Allah to make our wedding on date with number 7 (theres nothing superstitous about it, its just close to remember because i was born on 17) and it happened, Allah is so kind,

before that, we went to court 1 & 2nd time, we failed to get married because judge were late etc .. so 27 is meant for us

If marriage is not destiny then I am destined to be alive too coz my parents may not be for each other
Im afraid that if marriage is not destiny then our book of life is not written before, isnt it Allah wrote the major things like whether we will have children and what gender are they & so on, I believe it is written, children are created by Allah through couples, so our partner in life is already decided by Allah but we should have patience and pray it come on right time

 

[Ğħαrєєвαħ]

As'Salaamu Alaaykum

I guess it is also in our hands to make the decision in who we choose to marry, but when unsure we ask Allaah through ishtikarah salaah.

There was a brother I thought I would end up marrying but by the will of Allaah it didnt happen, so I guess Allaah has something better for everyone. But I guess the way we find someone should be vital, like having no pre-maritul relationships and so on, halal way and Allaah SWT helps you and places barakah.

Like when you dislike someone you have the right to decline. you ask Allaah to place barakah in that act your taking, to grant you what is good for this life and the akhirah, isnt it important you achieve happiness..

But like if it didnt happen it would mean it wasnt the will of Allaah-Qadr..Allaah has someone better for you. But if you are married but didnt want to marry so and so you would probably say it was Qadr? Like sis Riana said Allaah knows what gender the child the mother is having is, he knows who we will marry but we dont. So basically its already been written, its just whatever will happen was already written, we cant really change that, we have been given the knowledge of the right and wrong, so we must make a decision in which we want, if that makes sense..apologies if i said anything wrong.


I agree with all the posters..

 

[aadil77]

So Allah hasn't made us in pairs then? Would be easy if it was lol

lol well I doubt it, since muslim men can marry 4 wives

 

[Insaanah]

So Allah hasn't made us in pairs then? Would be easy if it was lol

I see where you are coming from.


وَخَلَقْنَـكُمْ أَزْوَجاً

Sahih International
And We created you in pairs (78:8)


وَمِنْ ءايَـتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَجاً لِّتَسْكُنُواْ إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِى ذَلِكَ لأَيَـتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

Sahih International
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. (30:21)

وَمِنْ ءايَـتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَجاً

(And among His signs is this that He created for you wives from among yourselves,) meaning, `He created females of your own kind, to be wives for you.'

لِّتَسْكُنُواْ إِلَيْهَا

(that you may find repose in them,) This is like the Ayah,

هُوَ الَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ مِّن نَّفْسٍ وَحِدَةٍ وَجَعَلَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا لِيَسْكُنَ إِلَيْهَا

(It is He Who has created you from a single person, and He has created from him his wife, in order that he might enjoy the pleasure of living with her) (7:189). This refers to Hawwa'. Allah created her from Adam, from the short rib on his left. If Allah had made all of Adam's progeny male, and created the females from another kind, such as from Jinn or animals, there would never have been harmony between them and their spouses. There would have been revulsion if the spouses had been from a different kind. Out of Allah's perfect mercy He made their wives from their own kind, and created love and kindness between them...

Source: Tafsir Ibn Kathir http://www.qtafsir.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=1772&Itemid=86

That is, "The Creator's perfect wisdom is such that He has not created man in one sex only but in two sexes, which are identical in humanity, which have the same basic formula of their figure and form, but the two have been created with different physical structures, different mental and psychological qualities, and different emotions and desires. And then there has been created such a wonderful harmony between the two that each is a perfect counterpart of the other. The physical and psychological demands of the one match squarely with the physical and psychological demands of the other. Moreover, the Wise Creator is continuously creating the members of the two sexes in such a proportion since the dawn of the creation that in no nation and in no region has it ever happened that only boys or only girls may have been born. This is one thing in which human intelligence has absolutely no part to play. Man cannot at all influence the course of nature according to which girls continue to be born with the feminine qualities and the boys with the masculine qualities, which are perfectly complimentary to each other, nor has he any means by which he may change the proportion in which men and women continue to be born everywhere in the world. The working of this system and' arrangement so harmoniously and perpetually in the birth of millions and billions of human beings since thousands of years cannot be accidental either, nor the result of the common will of many gods. This is a clear indication of the reality that One Wise Creator and One only, in the beginning made a most appropriate design of a man and a woman by His Infinite Wisdom and Power and then made arrangements that precisely in accordance with that design countless men and countless women should be born along with their separate individual qualities in the right proportion."

Source: Taf'heemul Qur'an by S. A. Maududi http://www.islamicstudies.info/tafheem.php?sura=30&verse=20&to=27

We tend to take it to mean that if we are created in pairs, then that means that we are all one half of a pair and that here is another half of the pair somewhere out there, with whom marriage will take place. This is not necessarily true, as some people never end up getting married.

The ayaat actually refer to the human race being create not as one type, but two types (male and female), of the human species, who throughout history have been pairing together in marriage. It doesn't mean that everyone will, though. That will only happen if and when Allah wills it to happen.

And Allah knows best in all matters.