Did i do something wrong?

sis ive been in the same situation as you before


my friends use to come to my doorstep and i still wouldnt invite em in sometimes coz i knew my dad dont approve of them kinda boys. I even would go half way sometimes n just come back coz i know my dad wudnt like me hanging around wiv them at their places n stuff.


your doing the right thing, obeying parents is priority


may Allah reward you !
 
None of us have any say over how a friend will act towards us. We can only control how we ourselves act as a friend. We never have friends, but we can be a friend.
 
I didn't do anything unfair or wrong on my part. I can't disobey my parents. They've provided me with a good reason.

If she wants to be friends then she is more than welcome because there are many ways i can benefit her. :)

Jazak'Allah for your help and support (It's really appreciated).
 
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wa alaykum us-Salaam
Life_Is_Short said:
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I was talking to my (only) friend today and i asked her to let me borrow her book so that i could revise properly and in return i offered to help her with her exam but i didn't have my previous notes or books to give her. She asked me to come to her house but i'm not allowed and so i told her to come to the nearest library with the book but she went offline. :hmm: I have never met up with any of my friends outside school. I was going to see this friend after three years and many times during school and college days she has invited me to her house, birthdays, ramadhan parties etc but i refused simply because my parents don't like it.

What did i do wrong? :embarrass
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do you didn't do wrong. your parents not letting you see her are just worried that you are hanging around bad company. my mum used to be the exact same. i wasn't allowed to see any of my friends after school only during school hours.
 
Dear sister,

Throughout the whole of your life, you'll face those "Did-I-do-something-wrong?" situations. We all are very complex beings. We assume more than we know and misunderstandings are more harmful than verbal arguments.

The wisest thing to do, since your friendship is important to you, is to go ahead and ask her what's happening? Start by asking:"Did I do something wrong? If so, I must apologize.......".

But as far as I'm concerned, and that is my motto, "A friendship that ended is a friendship that has never begun."
 
Sister, what exam are you studying for? Maybe I can help you find some material you need. Maybe others can also. :)
 
If my assumptions are correct, you're likely to move on to higher education soon? If so, you'll meet a wider range of personalities- people who are far more welcoming and more considerate.

If she disregards you, let it be.
 
try it one more time and ask her why she disregarded you.....its easy to hate those that disregard you so talk to her and see what she says...she's just perplexed as to why you're not coming to her house.
 
i dont think you did anything wrong.. but i think you shpuld talk to her.. at school.. and ask her what you did wrong and say sorry.. this happned to me too.. and i sorted it all ourt alhamidullah.. althouhg it did go on for months.
 
She is pretending like nothing happened.
I can't keep up with the demands of friendship. Especially now that i am on gap year i have nothing to talk about so i don't call. I am not interested in things outside studies so i don't go out. When ever i give advice to this friend, it's not followed. So what's the point of friends who don't share the same interest as you?
 
Life_Is_Short said:
She is pretending like nothing happened.
I can't keep up with the demands of friendship. Especially now that i am on gap year i have nothing to talk about so i don't call. I am not interested in things outside studies so i don't go out. When ever i give advice to this friend, it's not followed. So what's the point of friends who don't share the same interest as you?
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is she pretending like nothing has happened because you didn't talk to her and ask her is there something wrong my sister?
 
just go to her and say in the nicest and politest manner ''what could i do to make you less angry with me'' and change that thing but don't change anything that will anger your parents.
 
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