Alhamdulillah and thank you Brother. I think a lot of it is just me getting waswas and doubts about my purity. At one instance, I feel sure I have not become a junub and much later when the memory is less clear, I start being doubtful. I am going to apply the certainty is not lifted by a doubt ruling until I can overcome such waswas. Thank you very much. May Allah bless you for your time and help.
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Insha Allah i will post a couple fatwa by scholars in regards to waswas hope they help
Shaykh al-Islam [Ibn Taymiyah] (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Dar’ al-Ta’aarud (3/318): This waswasah may be dispelled by seeking refuge with Allaah and by ignoring it. So if the waswasah says: You did not wash your face, he should say: Yes I did wash my face. If it occurs to him that he did not form the intention or say takbeer, he should say in his heart: Yes I did form the intention and say takbeer. He should remain steadfast in following the truth and ward off any waswasah that is contrary to it. When the shaytaan sees his strength and steadfastness in following the truth, he will go away from him, otherwise if he sees that he is receptive to doubts and specious arguments and that he responds to waswasah and passing thoughts, he will bring against him more than he can resist and his heart will become receptive to what the devils among mankind and the jinn put in his mind of ideas and the waswas will move from one thing to another until the Shaytaan leads him to doom. End quote.
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A woman is affected by waswaas with regard to purity (tahaarah)
A woman is suffering from waswaas (insinuating whispers of the Shaytaan) concerning her tahaarah (purity) and feeling after she has done wudoo’ that she needs to relieve herself. On one occasion she felt that someone was telling her to insult the Qur’aan and insult Allaah, and all she could do was weep. How can she deal with this and get rid of these whispers?
Praise be to Allaah.
Many people suffer from these whispers – there is no power and no strength except with Allaah. The way to deal with waswaas is to seek refuge with Allaah a great deal from the accursed Shaytaan, and especially to recite al-Mi’wadhatayn (the last two soorahs of the Qur’aan), for there is nothing better with which a person may seek refuge with Allaah. So she should recite (interpretation of the meaning):
“Say: “I seek refuge with (Allaah), the Lord of the daybreak”
[al-Falaq 113:1] – to the end of the soorah, which includes seeking refuge from the evil of the Shaytaan, because he is one of the creations of Allaah. And she should recite Soorat al-Naas (interpretation of the meaning):
“Say: “I seek refuge with (Allaah), the Lord of the daybreak”
[al-Naas 114:1] – to the end.
The way to deal with that is to seek refuge a great deal in Allaah from the accursed Shaytaan, to turn to Allaah, and to have sincere resolve, so that one will not pay any attention to whispers that may enter one’s mind.
For example, whether you have done wudoo’ once or twice or three times, you should not pay any attention to the whispers of the Shaytaan. Even if you feel that you have not done wudoo’, for example, or that you neglected some part of wudoo’ or that you did not have the right intention, you should not pay attention to that. Similarly if you are praying and you feel or it occurs to you that you did not say “Allaahu akbar” at the beginning of the prayer, you should not pay attention to that, and you should carry on and complete your prayer. Similarly, if it crosses your mind – as mentioned in the question – to insult Allaah or the Mus-haf or any other kind of kufr, you should not pay attention to that and it will not harm you. Even if it goes so far as a person uttering them words under compulsion of the waswaas, there is no sin on him because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “There is no talaaq (divorce) under compulsion.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2193; Ahmad, al-Musnad, 6/276; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in al-Irwa’, no. 2047. If the divorce that is the result of waswaas does not count, then this is more likely to be forgiven, but one should turn away from that and not pay attention to it.
So my advice to this lady and others who are tested with waswaas is to seek refuge a great deal with Allaah from the accursed Shaytaan, to recite al-Mi’wadhatayn – Qul a’oodhu bi Rabb il-Falaq and Qul a’oodhu bi Rabb il-naas (the last two soorahs of the Qur’aan) – to have sincere resolve and not to pay attention to these insinuating whispers from the Shaytaan.
If the Shaytaan manages to instill some doubts in a person’s heart concerning Allaah and so on, he should not worry about that, because he is only suffering these doubts because of the faith in his heart. The person who is not a believer does not care whether he doubts or not; the one who suffers because of these doubts and whispers is a believer. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “That is clear faith,” (narrated by Muslim, no. 132) , meaning that what the Shaytaan casts into your hearts of such matters is a reflection of clear faith, i.e., sincere faith… He described it as sincere faith, because the one who experiences these doubts is not happy about them and should not pay any attention to them; they grieve him and he does not want them. The Shaytaan only comes to hearts which are filled with faith in order to destroy it; he does not come to hearts that are devoid of faith, because they are already ruined. It was said to Ibn ‘Abbaas or Ibn Mas’ood that the Jews said, “We do not experience waswaas during our prayers.” He said, “Of course, what would the Shaytaan do with a heart that is already ruined?!”
My advice to her is to ignore all of these whispers. She will find it hard at first, and she will think that she is praying without wudoo’ or without saying “Allaahu akbar” at the beginning, and so on, but it will become easier for her after that, and this doubt and waswaas will leave her, in sha Allaah.
Praise be to Allaah, there are people who suffered with this problem, but they were told how to deal with it and how to resist it, and Allaah granted them relief. We ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.
Kitaab Liqaa’aat al-Baab al-Maftooh by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen, p. 14.
Insha Allah this helps as well Hisn Al-Muslim "Said to ward off the deception of the obstinate shaytaan" this duas should help Insha Allah
Shaykh al-Islam [Ibn Taymiyah] (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Dar’ al-Ta’aarud (3/318): This waswasah may be dispelled by seeking refuge with Allaah and by ignoring it. So if the waswasah says: You did not wash your face, he should say: Yes I did wash my face. If it occurs to him that he did not form the intention or say takbeer, he should say in his heart: Yes I did form the intention and say takbeer. He should remain steadfast in following the truth and ward off any waswasah that is contrary to it. When the shaytaan sees his strength and steadfastness in following the truth, he will go away from him, otherwise if he sees that he is receptive to doubts and specious arguments and that he responds to waswasah and passing thoughts, he will bring against him more than he can resist and his heart will become receptive to what the devils among mankind and the jinn put in his mind of ideas and the waswas will move from one thing to another until the Shaytaan leads him to doom. End quote.
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A woman is affected by waswaas with regard to purity (tahaarah)
A woman is suffering from waswaas (insinuating whispers of the Shaytaan) concerning her tahaarah (purity) and feeling after she has done wudoo’ that she needs to relieve herself. On one occasion she felt that someone was telling her to insult the Qur’aan and insult Allaah, and all she could do was weep. How can she deal with this and get rid of these whispers?
Praise be to Allaah.
Many people suffer from these whispers – there is no power and no strength except with Allaah. The way to deal with waswaas is to seek refuge with Allaah a great deal from the accursed Shaytaan, and especially to recite al-Mi’wadhatayn (the last two soorahs of the Qur’aan), for there is nothing better with which a person may seek refuge with Allaah. So she should recite (interpretation of the meaning):
“Say: “I seek refuge with (Allaah), the Lord of the daybreak”
[al-Falaq 113:1] – to the end of the soorah, which includes seeking refuge from the evil of the Shaytaan, because he is one of the creations of Allaah. And she should recite Soorat al-Naas (interpretation of the meaning):
“Say: “I seek refuge with (Allaah), the Lord of the daybreak”
[al-Naas 114:1] – to the end.
The way to deal with that is to seek refuge a great deal in Allaah from the accursed Shaytaan, to turn to Allaah, and to have sincere resolve, so that one will not pay any attention to whispers that may enter one’s mind.
For example, whether you have done wudoo’ once or twice or three times, you should not pay any attention to the whispers of the Shaytaan. Even if you feel that you have not done wudoo’, for example, or that you neglected some part of wudoo’ or that you did not have the right intention, you should not pay attention to that. Similarly if you are praying and you feel or it occurs to you that you did not say “Allaahu akbar” at the beginning of the prayer, you should not pay attention to that, and you should carry on and complete your prayer. Similarly, if it crosses your mind – as mentioned in the question – to insult Allaah or the Mus-haf or any other kind of kufr, you should not pay attention to that and it will not harm you. Even if it goes so far as a person uttering them words under compulsion of the waswaas, there is no sin on him because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “There is no talaaq (divorce) under compulsion.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2193; Ahmad, al-Musnad, 6/276; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in al-Irwa’, no. 2047. If the divorce that is the result of waswaas does not count, then this is more likely to be forgiven, but one should turn away from that and not pay attention to it.
So my advice to this lady and others who are tested with waswaas is to seek refuge a great deal with Allaah from the accursed Shaytaan, to recite al-Mi’wadhatayn – Qul a’oodhu bi Rabb il-Falaq and Qul a’oodhu bi Rabb il-naas (the last two soorahs of the Qur’aan) – to have sincere resolve and not to pay attention to these insinuating whispers from the Shaytaan.
If the Shaytaan manages to instill some doubts in a person’s heart concerning Allaah and so on, he should not worry about that, because he is only suffering these doubts because of the faith in his heart. The person who is not a believer does not care whether he doubts or not; the one who suffers because of these doubts and whispers is a believer. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “That is clear faith,” (narrated by Muslim, no. 132) , meaning that what the Shaytaan casts into your hearts of such matters is a reflection of clear faith, i.e., sincere faith… He described it as sincere faith, because the one who experiences these doubts is not happy about them and should not pay any attention to them; they grieve him and he does not want them. The Shaytaan only comes to hearts which are filled with faith in order to destroy it; he does not come to hearts that are devoid of faith, because they are already ruined. It was said to Ibn ‘Abbaas or Ibn Mas’ood that the Jews said, “We do not experience waswaas during our prayers.” He said, “Of course, what would the Shaytaan do with a heart that is already ruined?!”
My advice to her is to ignore all of these whispers. She will find it hard at first, and she will think that she is praying without wudoo’ or without saying “Allaahu akbar” at the beginning, and so on, but it will become easier for her after that, and this doubt and waswaas will leave her, in sha Allaah.
Praise be to Allaah, there are people who suffered with this problem, but they were told how to deal with it and how to resist it, and Allaah granted them relief. We ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.
Kitaab Liqaa’aat al-Baab al-Maftooh by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen, p. 14.
Insha Allah this helps as well Hisn Al-Muslim "Said to ward off the deception of the obstinate shaytaan" this duas should help Insha Allah
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Alhamdulillah Brother. Thank you so much. If you don't mind, I would like to ask a question regarding a waswas I got today and has been bothering me.
I was thinking to myself how Allah (swt) is always with us and how He is the only God and that He never leaves us and is always with us with everything we do. And all of a sudden, I had this sudden thought, 'what an invasion of privacy' and it is literally horrifying and causing such discomfort.
I believe that as humans, whenever we need help we are grateful that Allah is with us but when we want to commit sins, we feel all these bad things. It scares me that on some level I might believe in this thought
and so I am having a difficult time brushing it off as waswas.
In my heart, I believe that Allah is always with us because He wants to guide those who wants to be guided, He is always there to answer our prayers, to grant us forgiveness. As slaves, we are in no position at all to judge or question our Creator and complain about 'invasion of privacy' at all. There is no such thing. Allah knows everything, and we can't hide anything from our Creator and this is when I keep getting thoughts such as 'no privacy' and I just really hate it and it is really horrifying me. I don't want to even think that I might believe such a thought at all. It scares me that I might believe it though because as soon as I try to brush it off with waswas, I keep thinking, yeah but if you think you might believe it then it's not waswas. How can I be sure that I don't believe in such an awful thought? Surely the fact that the thought provides me with such discomfort is proof enough?
That and the fact that I believe in my heart that the fact that Allah (swt) is always with us is a good thing. We never ever have to feel alone or scared or anything because we know our Creator is with us and everything will happen as He wills. Plus, its a good thing at times when you are tempted to commit a sin. Knowing that you can commit a sin but it will be something that will be viewed by Allah does help me try and reduce sins (not as much as I would like but still getting there insha Allah). If I genuinely believed it as an 'invasion of privacy' (subhaanAllah), then surely this means I also believe that I don't want to pray to such a God and the fact that I don't like missing prayers etc and feel so thankful for the many blessings He has bestowed upon us means that I don't believe this thought
Sorry it's really long. I was just getting worked up wondering if I did believe in such a horrible thought.
I hope this applies to me and I take comfort in knowing that at least the fact that I do feel bad about such thoughts is a good thing. It's just worrying me whether or not I might believe such thoughts really.
May Allah bless you.
I was thinking to myself how Allah (swt) is always with us and how He is the only God and that He never leaves us and is always with us with everything we do. And all of a sudden, I had this sudden thought, 'what an invasion of privacy' and it is literally horrifying and causing such discomfort.
I believe that as humans, whenever we need help we are grateful that Allah is with us but when we want to commit sins, we feel all these bad things. It scares me that on some level I might believe in this thought
and so I am having a difficult time brushing it off as waswas. In my heart, I believe that Allah is always with us because He wants to guide those who wants to be guided, He is always there to answer our prayers, to grant us forgiveness. As slaves, we are in no position at all to judge or question our Creator and complain about 'invasion of privacy' at all. There is no such thing. Allah knows everything, and we can't hide anything from our Creator and this is when I keep getting thoughts such as 'no privacy' and I just really hate it and it is really horrifying me. I don't want to even think that I might believe such a thought at all. It scares me that I might believe it though because as soon as I try to brush it off with waswas, I keep thinking, yeah but if you think you might believe it then it's not waswas. How can I be sure that I don't believe in such an awful thought? Surely the fact that the thought provides me with such discomfort is proof enough?
That and the fact that I believe in my heart that the fact that Allah (swt) is always with us is a good thing. We never ever have to feel alone or scared or anything because we know our Creator is with us and everything will happen as He wills. Plus, its a good thing at times when you are tempted to commit a sin. Knowing that you can commit a sin but it will be something that will be viewed by Allah does help me try and reduce sins (not as much as I would like but still getting there insha Allah). If I genuinely believed it as an 'invasion of privacy' (subhaanAllah), then surely this means I also believe that I don't want to pray to such a God and the fact that I don't like missing prayers etc and feel so thankful for the many blessings He has bestowed upon us means that I don't believe this thought
Sorry it's really long. I was just getting worked up wondering if I did believe in such a horrible thought.
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I hope this applies to me and I take comfort in knowing that at least the fact that I do feel bad about such thoughts is a good thing. It's just worrying me whether or not I might believe such thoughts really.
May Allah bless you.
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Naam Allah is with us with His knowledge seeing hearing
nothing is privte from Allah he know all he says in the quran
qaf 16. And indeed We have created man, and We know what his ownself whispers to him. And We are nearer to him than his jugular vein (by Our Knowledge).
this goes back to
if it crosses your mind – as mentioned in the question – to insult Allaah or the Mus-haf or any other kind of kufr, you should not pay attention to that and it will not harm you. Even if it goes so far as a person uttering them words under compulsion of the waswaas, there is no sin on him end quote
sis you need to try to take the advice of the scholars sis and try to ignore it and not let it take over you say duas read the last 2 surah etc
sis disliking it and fighting it and overcoming it this is a sign of clear faith naam sis this seems like waswas but pls do as the hadith says everytime u get waswas first seek refuge with Allah, the Almighty then ignore it and then if you can do some acts of ibadah read quran make dua etc and remeber this the prophet said
He said, “Of course, what would the Shaytaan do with a heart that is already ruined?!”
so alhumdulillah we see from this hadith if a heart is ruined shaytaan has no use in it so Alhumdulillah it seems to me that for you this is a sign of clear faith
Alhumdulillah yes this is what it seems ....
insha Allah it does .... continue to jahid yourself and the shayton May Allah make it easy on us all ameen you are being tested nothing happens without the will of Allah so in some way this is a blessing if you win and dont let iblis win for you pass the test and Alhumdulillah
Thank you Brother. I am going to try and ignore waswas as much as possible and try and make Dua's as much as I can as well insha Allah.
Thank you so much for taking the time to help me.
May Allah bless you brother.
Thank you so much for taking the time to help me.
May Allah bless you brother.
Ugh I think I did this again
I'm not a 100% sure though. I filled my hands with as little water as possible but because I wanted to clean out my teeth as well (and not just wudhu) I rinsed it out a bit more roughly than I should have. I'm not completely sure this happened but I don't know what the best thing to do would be. I'm still continuing on with my fast but do I need to start Kaffarah again? At this rate, I'm never going to make it past ten days am I I do suffer from waswas a lot as well so I don't know if that's what is making me feel paranoid but like I said, I'm not 100% sure because it did go a bit further down towards the throat than I intended but don't know if any water actually did trickle down or not.أبو سليمان عمر
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sis just carry on with you fast and your kafarah for
1 you didnt intend to if it happened
2 it is waswas so ignore it
1 you didnt intend to if it happened
2 it is waswas so ignore it
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if a person was in the state of junub then before fasting yes if the women just came of her period she needs to make ghusl but just becasue you are fasting kaffarah no you dont
Allah knows best
Assalaamu alaykum,
Thank you for the reply. I know I'm being a big pain but I have another query. I had an unwanted 'wet' dream last night. I saw this in '''s because I wasn't sure if I did actually ejaculate or not. Even though I wasn't entirely sure if I had ejaculated I decided that since there was wetness, I would do a ghusl today. I didn't rinse my mouth and nose too much so as to avoid water going down my throat and I thought that after the sun sets, I'll do that before I eat.
After the sun set, I went to the sink. In my heart I had decided that I would say the niyyat for ghusl of janabt and rinse my mouth and nose and then say the niyyat for breaking the fast and eat something. So I'd decided that I was already going to break my fast. Whilst I was rinsing my mouth I swallowed some water (no maybes, 100% sure). I quickly said the niyyat for breaking fast as well but by this point the water had already gone down my throat. I completely forgot that whilst rinsing mouth and nose so much, I quite often tend to swallow water so I didn't break my fast first before I did this.
I was wondering is my fast still valid? :S Bear in mind that it was after the sun had set cz I waited to make sure and that I went into the bathroom with the thought in my mind that I would complete my ghusl and then break fast. It just so happened that I swallowed water whilst completing my ghusl.
Thank you for the reply. I know I'm being a big pain but I have another query. I had an unwanted 'wet' dream last night. I saw this in '''s because I wasn't sure if I did actually ejaculate or not. Even though I wasn't entirely sure if I had ejaculated I decided that since there was wetness, I would do a ghusl today. I didn't rinse my mouth and nose too much so as to avoid water going down my throat and I thought that after the sun sets, I'll do that before I eat.
After the sun set, I went to the sink. In my heart I had decided that I would say the niyyat for ghusl of janabt and rinse my mouth and nose and then say the niyyat for breaking the fast and eat something. So I'd decided that I was already going to break my fast. Whilst I was rinsing my mouth I swallowed some water (no maybes, 100% sure). I quickly said the niyyat for breaking fast as well but by this point the water had already gone down my throat. I completely forgot that whilst rinsing mouth and nose so much, I quite often tend to swallow water so I didn't break my fast first before I did this.
I was wondering is my fast still valid? :S Bear in mind that it was after the sun had set cz I waited to make sure and that I went into the bathroom with the thought in my mind that I would complete my ghusl and then break fast. It just so happened that I swallowed water whilst completing my ghusl.
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I am suffering from so much waswas whilst doing my Kaffarah. I'm coming on to ten days tomorrow and I really don't want to have to start over and yet I keep getting really bad waswas.
For instance, I didn't manage to make Fajr prayer this morning and then whilst I was helping my housemate clean the house, I was being really conscious of the time cz I didn't want to miss Dhuhr prayer either. I kept getting thoughts like, oh if I miss two prayers in a day then my fast will not be valid and I'll have to start over. I kind of meant it in the sense that I didn't want to miss two prayers or any if I can help it. But then I didn't really ponder over it because I was so sure I would be able to make Dhuhr prayer today.
It was getting really really close to Asr time so I quickly went into make Wudhu and I kept getting waswas of purities and I took longer than I normally would to make wudhu and for that reason I think I missed my Dhuhr prayer by 3 minutes. I know I shouldn't have left it so late so I'm going to try and not do that from now on. The reason I say think is that we have a mosque where I live where they publish certain prayer times, and we have a muslim centre in my University with different prayer times. The only major difference is with Asr prayers where there is a different of about half and hour. So I came back from wudhu and I still prayed it like normal, not like a Qadha prayer but at the back of my mind, I'm not sure if I made it or not and I feel really bad about that. I normally follow the university published muslim prayer times just because when I'm on campus, they have they prayer calls based on those times. The mosque is just half an hour away from me and I'm not sure why there is such a difference. So my Dhuhr prayer was late based on one schedule and alright based on the other. I feel bad though that I left it till so late.
But what's worse is that I now think I might have to start my kaffarah AGAIN I don't recall making an oath saying If i miss two prayers in a day, I'll start Kaffarah. I just had this thought that my fast would be void (in my opinion anyway) if I missed more than two prayers in a day and that I would start again. I agreed with that thought and because I was so sure I wouldn't miss Dhuhr, I didn't bother dismissing the thought as waswas. I did not say this out loud as an oath but I might have thought it as an oath :S I'm not sure. (as in the thought may have come to me in the form of an oath). I was in such a rush.
I don't really know what this means :S It bothers me so much because I didn't dismiss it as waswas and I did mean it as well. But I don't know if I would have meant it as in, I would have wanted to start my kaffarah again (because I really wouldn't want to do that), or if I would have meant it like, the fast is not really valid like the same way if a person slept from Fajr light till sunset and then ate. :S
I am really going to try my best and pray as soon as possible from now on. What's even more annoying is the fact that I have been home and could have prayed as soon as I got up but I thought I'll clean my room first because it was such a mess and that way I could pray after having cleaned the entire area.
For instance, I didn't manage to make Fajr prayer this morning and then whilst I was helping my housemate clean the house, I was being really conscious of the time cz I didn't want to miss Dhuhr prayer either. I kept getting thoughts like, oh if I miss two prayers in a day then my fast will not be valid and I'll have to start over. I kind of meant it in the sense that I didn't want to miss two prayers or any if I can help it. But then I didn't really ponder over it because I was so sure I would be able to make Dhuhr prayer today.
It was getting really really close to Asr time so I quickly went into make Wudhu and I kept getting waswas of purities and I took longer than I normally would to make wudhu and for that reason I think I missed my Dhuhr prayer by 3 minutes. I know I shouldn't have left it so late so I'm going to try and not do that from now on. The reason I say think is that we have a mosque where I live where they publish certain prayer times, and we have a muslim centre in my University with different prayer times. The only major difference is with Asr prayers where there is a different of about half and hour. So I came back from wudhu and I still prayed it like normal, not like a Qadha prayer but at the back of my mind, I'm not sure if I made it or not and I feel really bad about that. I normally follow the university published muslim prayer times just because when I'm on campus, they have they prayer calls based on those times. The mosque is just half an hour away from me and I'm not sure why there is such a difference. So my Dhuhr prayer was late based on one schedule and alright based on the other. I feel bad though that I left it till so late.
But what's worse is that I now think I might have to start my kaffarah AGAIN
I don't recall making an oath saying If i miss two prayers in a day, I'll start Kaffarah. I just had this thought that my fast would be void (in my opinion anyway) if I missed more than two prayers in a day and that I would start again. I agreed with that thought and because I was so sure I wouldn't miss Dhuhr, I didn't bother dismissing the thought as waswas. I did not say this out loud as an oath but I might have thought it as an oath :S I'm not sure. (as in the thought may have come to me in the form of an oath). I was in such a rush.I don't really know what this means :S It bothers me so much because I didn't dismiss it as waswas and I did mean it as well. But I don't know if I would have meant it as in, I would have wanted to start my kaffarah again (because I really wouldn't want to do that), or if I would have meant it like, the fast is not really valid like the same way if a person slept from Fajr light till sunset and then ate. :S
I am really going to try my best and pray as soon as possible from now on. What's even more annoying is the fact that I have been home and could have prayed as soon as I got up but I thought I'll clean my room first because it was such a mess and that way I could pray after having cleaned the entire area.
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Prayer is one thing, fasting is another thing. Missing 2 prayers does not negate a fast (unless you've found some kind of evidence for it). You cannot say "oh if I miss two prayers in a day then my fast will not be valid" because you're not God. You should not worry about, or try to make up thoughts about, things you don't know and have no authority on.
If you are concerned then research for accuracy but as far as I know there is no such rule. You need to tell yourself you are following God's rules, not the ones you make up or random thoughts.
You should pick out which prayer timetable you follow and then stick to it.
But what's worse is that I now think I might have to start my kaffarah AGAIN
Don't start again. You say you did not make an oath and even if you missed the prayer it has no bearing on what you're saying! It's like saying "if there is a car parked outside the post office then my prayer is not valid today". The statement has nothing to support it and is a kind of obsessive compulsion. In my opinion you are taking things to extremes and punishing yourself for no reason. Maybe you should speak to a scholar for reassurance?
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do you want to know what the best way to "extinguish" wiswaas is? the key is by analyzing your actions. your actions are a direction to what your problem is...with wiswaas, one is compelled to repeat and repeat one thing over and over again. your own sanity and mind seemed to be turned against itself and it is as if something has overtaken/is controlling you. but obviously if you are repeating something over again you have some kind of doubt regarding that particular thing, otherwise why would you keep repeating the same thing, right? it doesn't make any sense to repeat something over and over unless you have some type of doubt about it right?
now we need to work on this doubt. we need to ask ourselves if our thoughts are infact true because if they are true, then we have a reason to repeat that particular action again.
The way we determine whether they are true or not, by going by reality and not mere thoughts. note the difference, it is huge but it is easy to get them confused. are you certain that you have broken your fast? Does accidentally eating nullify your fast?
You need to ask yourself these questions ...you need to question your actions because sometimes your answer to them will be “hmm, well yes....i dont really know. Why do i keep repeating myself? Why iam/why do i keep obsessing over this?” doesn’t it seem weird to you that you keep repeating the same thing and you keep getting these types of doubts frequently..doesnt the same pattern of thoughts/actions just make you wonder why you do what you do. We need to ensure that our actions in repeating that act of worship is actually justified , otherwise we cause ourselves unnecessary hassle.
fight shaytan back with questions because the burden of proof is on him, not you. he is the one suggesting these things to you, despite the fact you have fulfilled what is required of you to fast, etc so then, why is there any room for doubts? Where are these doubts coming from? Why are they occurring? shaytan must have evidence that you are doing something wrong, otherwise why would he suggest this to you. Don’t you think such a claim needs proof. ibn al-mubbrak rahimahullah did.
http://www.islamicboard.com/words-w...ons-ibn-al-mubarak-taught-us.html#post1110923
Besides i doubt shaytaan would be nice enough as to give you dawah and suggest that you are indeed doing the wrong thing. shaytan is there to destroy you, so i wouldn't hold my breath. When you are sinning do you hear him say to you “You’re disobeying your parents ^o)” or “you should lower your gaze ^o)” etc etc. God knows, he might be giving himself a pat on the back or getting a big head.
Also knowledge cancels out doubts, so know your Islam. This helps a lot because then you know what you need to worry about and what not to. we do not cancel doubt out by using doubt, this makes no sense. doubt is only cancelled out by certainty and one way that certainty is gained, is by knowledge.... so you must fight this with knowledge.
you have to fight and remain vigilant because i hate to say it, it wont be easy but if you put the effort in, it will be worth it, inshallah.
when you feel some of your "insanity" has been removed (and thus you have more control over your actions) beware of shaytaan trying to convince you in a kind manner that you should continue to act on your doubts. Those doubts will still be there, but they aren’t as forceful... before he used to be forceful because he knew you would buy it. but now you are more stronger he needs something else to convince you, something else that you will be fooled by....it's true, kindness kills.
wiswaas will lead you to unnecessarily finding your religion difficult but we know that islam isn’t difficult based on the hadiths, etc that give us leeway in certain matters...
wiswaas sometimes is just getting your doubts confused...so basically you are doubting your doubts. thats what really is the problem sometimes. But as i said, have to extinguish this by going by what is certain. leave it simple and dont complicate matters. Doubts is not a cure for doubts. certainty is a cure for doubts.
another tip is, is to be careful of expectating that you will get wiswaas during an act of worship. What happens sometimes is that these doubts and acting on them may became a habit and when you have any type of habit, you unconsciously/naturally adjust yourself to deal with it...so when you act on something, you are unconsciously assuming that such and such will happen/will be the result. Without realizing it, this particular mindset/assumption itself is what maybe causing you to doubt.
I don’t really know how to explain it, but by having such assumptions/mindset doubts will naturally arise because the way you have thought/acted, you have basically directed yourself to creating doubts. you, yourself are the cause of these doubts. Does that make sense?
i recall reading in another thread of yours that you get confused between the difference of opinion, so i think its important to do some research about how to deal with a difference of opinion. The lack of understanding on how deal with a difference of opinion is probably what is confusing you more, rather than the issue at hand. What does a difference of opinion mean for an “ordinary” Muslim? What do i do when im “bombarded” with multiple opinions on one issue? How do I know which opinion to follow, etc? This really helps and it perhaps may help more if you understand the reasons for differences of opinion in the first place. Im not sure what would work for you, but understanding the background of something, could perhaps you better insight on how to deal with it.
I do apologise for writing another message without properly responding to the replies I have receieved. I am slightly panicking. I am on day 14 of my fasting and I was in a meeting earlier and I've been getting a lot of phlegm in the back of my throat so I've been trying to spit it out rather than swallow it. I must have done it too much or my throat must have got too dry cz I smelt some blood. I tried to spit most of it out discreetly since I was in a meeting and I don't know if I spit out any blood. I then tried to swallow again and tasted some blood but it wasn't really blood on its own. More like mixed in a lot with saliva. I spit out again a few more times and after I swallowed a few times it was okay. I think my throat must have just been so dry from me spitting out phlegm all day. I'm so scared now that this might have broken my fast I read somewhere online that if one swallows the blood in the mouth it breaks fast. I'm on day 14 and it would be so difficult to start over again
Someone please respond I'll need to know before I go to bed tonight. The more I think about it, the more I think it was the actual phlegm that was a bit blood-mixed. Sorry for being so descriptive and stuff. I tried to spit as much as possible and get the phlegm out as well but it was so far back in the throat I couldn't anyway. I don't know how much blood I tasted or if I'd just kind of swallowed over a cut or something. I spat out a lot and then swallowed not being a 100% sure it was still bloody or not but after I had tried a lot to get it all out. :S I'm slightly panicking now. Actually a lot
I'll need to know before I go to bed tonight. The more I think about it, the more I think it was the actual phlegm that was a bit blood-mixed. Sorry for being so descriptive and stuff. I tried to spit as much as possible and get the phlegm out as well but it was so far back in the throat I couldn't anyway. I don't know how much blood I tasted or if I'd just kind of swallowed over a cut or something. I spat out a lot and then swallowed not being a 100% sure it was still bloody or not but after I had tried a lot to get it all out. :S I'm slightly panicking now. Actually a lotأبو سليمان عمر
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Sis Insha Allah you should be fine carry on fasting and insha Allah tonite when it is morning in yemen i will call and ask a shaykh and post but you countiune to fast until then Insha Allah
أبو سليمان عمر;1393644 said:
Thank you
It is really difficult since this is the fourth time I have had to start over, mostly waswas troubling me and so on. I have tried finding information on it and I came across something which said if it was done by accident, it's okay (from islam qa) and another where it said if the blood was less than the saliva (in terms of colour and so on) it is alright. :SWoodrow
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