Dilemma Dilemma!!

[Re.TiReD]

How do you know the person?
It all falls down by luck doesn't it? Psh, its like time to get maried, to this wierd person u do not kno a single bit, and then if your lucky after two years you might feel something for em eh? ANd if your not lucky you will sit there , holding a rose, plucking each petal and saying "I suck at life, i dont suck at life, i suck at life...."
lol

sorry i never posibl to get positive thinkin

AssalamuAlaykum sister

You're so full of sunshine and smiles Lol kiddin :-[

Ok firstly sis, it aint luck. Its Qadr and what Allah (swt) has destined for you. You dont know the person, infact a lot of people wont know much about them but that doesnt stop you finding out from other people....e.g. relatives of that person.

After two years? Sis ...arghh you know what...I aint married so I dont think I'm the right person to advise you :-[

But I'll continue what I was gonna say in the sisters room insha'Allah

WassalamuAlaykum

 

[truemuslim]

AssalamuAlaykum sister

You're so full of sunshine and smiles Lol kiddin :-[

Ok firstly sis, it aint luck. Its Qadr and what Allah (swt) has destined for you. You dont know the person, infact a lot of people wont know much about them but that doesnt stop you finding out from other people....e.g. relatives of that person.

After two years? Sis ...arghh you know what...I aint married so I dont think I'm the right person to advise you :-[

But I'll continue what I was gonna say in the sisters room insha'Allah

WassalamuAlaykum

Lol , still luck innit? Whatever allah wills, so allah can "will" to make u get married to some loooser wit no life which everyone said was totally awesome, all coz u didnt kno him

btw i dont have access to the sis room,

 

[Re.TiReD]

there should be a bit of feelins before marriage, like when your introduced through someone there should be that feelin of kaa ching or some sort of attraction and then if you decide to get married, them feelins should inshallah keep increasin till the day you both die

or is that just too fantasy world lol

AssalamuAlaykum,

No that isnt a fantasy world actually. Lol its true. There should be a spark I quite agree. But if for some reason there isnt one, it doesnt mean there'll never be one. Them feelings should keep increasing but for some they might take time to develop and start off first. Wallahu A'lam I'm just saying this for sis TrueMuslim.

WassalamuAlaykum

 

[Re.TiReD]

Lol , still luck innit? Whatever allah wills, so allah can "will" to make u get married to some loooser wit no life which everyone said was totally awesome, all coz u didnt kno him

btw i dont have access to the sis room,

AssalamuAlaykum

Sis, marriages can fail for a whole host of reasons. People say that the first 2/3 years of marriage are always the most difficult, and thats true for everybody...whether you knew that person before or not. The key is Sabr, like I said before.

I dont mean to sound patronising hun but you're young and maybe you wont appreciate everything thats being said. Just know that whatever may happen in future, will never cease to be a test for you.

I mean look at it this way, if you're blessed with the bestest person on earth D) you might be soo happy and over the moon that you forget Allah (swt) and your duties etc

And say on the other hand, you marry somebody you didnt know, you heard they were good but thats about it. You may not like/love them but you know that you have to be patient. And in time you'll realise that your patience paid off. And with every little thing you may have wanted in a spouse, you got hundreds of other ones that you appreciate more.

Wallahu A'lam sis. But Smileee the world is your oyster or fish

WassalamuAlaykum

 

[truemuslim]

Aww jazakallah khair sis for ur beautiful reply.
What are you? A "make everyone smile" sis??

Mashallah

i would use the "satisfied" smiley but im in quick reply . lol

 

[Souljette]

Ye she is ^ shez a fish lol

 

[chacha_jalebi]

AssalamuAlaykum
I mean look at it this way, if you're blessed with the bestest person on earth D) you might be soo happy and over the moon that you forget Allah (swt) and your duties etc

yes but the bestest person in the world be it lady or man wouldnt let you forget about Allah (Swt) innaaay!!

 

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:salamext:

Never let go of someone you love. Ever.

 

[Na7lah]

i agree somwat ^but id let go if that person wasnt good *in religious sence* unless ofcourse they changed or something...

 

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^ No...

 

[Re.TiReD]

Aww jazakallah khair sis for ur beautiful reply.
What are you? A "make everyone smile" sis??

Mashallah

i would use the "satisfied" smiley but im in quick reply . lol

AssalamuAlaykum

Lol Wa Iyaaki sis.

May Allah give you success in both this world and the hereafter. Now dont be thinking about marriage we're all too little yet

WassalamuAlaykum

Ye she is ^ shez a fish lol

AssalamuAlaykum

What? ^o) Do you mind repeating that, but a little louder maybe? :raging:

WassalamuAlaykum

yes but the bestest person in the world be it lady or man wouldnt let you forget about Allah (Swt) innaaay!!

AssalamuAlaykum

Lol thats true I guess, Just trying to make the sis feel better. Sometimes the thing we feel is good/best for us is not always so.

Just be content in the knowledge that you'll only get what was destined for you, nothing more and nothing less. Think about it- sure, but dont worry about small things like knowing Him/Her b4hand.

People change, things happen, life goes on make the most of each situation and let every moment count. Lol now savour my cheesiness since I aint doing it again insha'Allah :-[

WassalamuAlaykum

 

[Eeman]

as salaam ma alaykoom

eloo

thought i should start a discussion how about it eh!! btw this has nothin to do with me just a thought

im sure people have a ideal future partner, but they never end up attracting/finding them kind of people!! and they end up attractingfindin the people who are complete opposite!!

what should do you doo in such a situation ... ?

do you just give up hope and "compromise" and marry any old joe, or keep the faith and keep waitin ...

salam alaikum...

hmmmm this is a tricky one.... i before somehow used to think the same thing too like let me give you an example before i met my husband and got married i used to know someone else. growing up i always had that pciture or dream of how i'd want my future partner to b elike and this guy over matched all that, he was someone that my famly would praise me for all my life for getting married to him, but somehow my heart was just not in it as in i thought that that was what i wanted until i got it and realised that it was far from what i wanted. if that makes sense then i met my husband someone that i would never Wallah in a thousand years would ever even dream of giving him the time of the day, he was the total opposite of everything and a big let down on my family too but it was Allah swt's will and it was him that i married.

so i personally think that qadr has a lot to do with marriage and who you marry.