Disrespect increasing

[Beardo]

Has anyone noticed this? Or perhaps I'm being overly speculative, but kids these days are just getting more and more disrespectful as the days go by. The concept of raising hands and waiting to be called on has been long gone. The respect for knowledge has also passed out. They're now sitting on their textbooks as a cushion.

How did this all come about?

Honestly, I really think it's from that spongebob square pants. Look at all the Disney movie themes as well: Disobey the father, runaway from home. Name a disney movie that's not like that, if you dare.

It's really a sad state of affairs.

 

[Life_Is_Short]

It came from parents having a T.V in the first place.

No one is born with good manners. These are taught by ones parents.

P.s, Squarepants is one word.

 

[GuCcI]

It's television and the media in general. Children 'demand their rights' at a very young age without understanding because it's what they hear. And then of course it is influence of other children at school who don't grow up with a certain structure at home. You cant isolate your children in fear of them adopting bad habits, but by using positive reinforcement techniques you can ensure that good behaviour is engraved in their system at a young age so they won't be influenced from the bad behaved inshallah.

 

[EllyDicious]

It came from parents having a T.V in the first place.

I don't think it's all about the TV. Parenting has changed nowadays. New parents don't impose respect on their kids. Parents are more like friends nowadays...and that's a big issue.
I hear friends say "Mom is my best friend. Dad is my brother ..." etc. Parents don't have presence in front of kids. They are being tolerant and they have this tendency to spoil kids and give them whatever they want as soon as they open their mouth and start to talk.
So it's parent's fault. Not kids' fault.

From the way you educate your child, that way he'll behave and treat you. There's not need to blame TV, Internet as much as parents themselves. It all starts from them. A good parents will not let his child watch whatever it's on the TV. They will filter it as well as they'll filter the internet search.

Also, a good parent will not let his child play video games 24 hours a day but will try to give him/her the right manners and educate him/her as much as possible, in the right time.

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

as one of my dear siblings once said: "do you know why people have no manners these days? its becuase those who raise them have no manners."

and as once i heard my mum say: "May allah have mercy on those who raised us"...."the days of hayaa have gone."

 

[Hidaaya]

It's not spongebob's fault! :/

I personally think it's the parents. And media.

Also, children learn from their surroundings, by watching other people, school, friends, etc.

 

[Lynx]

I don't know what Disney movies don't involve running away; it seems that in most disney movies in the end the moral is not to have run away. Spongebob Square promotes causes disrespect amongst the youth? I highly doubt that but one solution might be to get the kids to watch Television that promotes the opposite of what you're complaining about.

 

[tyciol]

This is worded somewhat complexly... rather than an increased lack, shouldn't we say a reduced presence, that there is less respect? Furthermore, are we discussing politeness (how people behave) or our actual feelings of admiration we have towards one another?

I believe in being polite and in fostering this behaviour, I do not feel justified to anger if I am treated impolitely though. Many people do not know of the merits, they are rude in an attempt to feel free and in control most likely because they are in distress and feel confined and out of control.

In regards to children, I believe they should be impressed. In past days, parents would visibly work hard at complex tasks which would puzzle youths, they would understand and acknowledge their elders' skills and accomplishments.

Nowadays, the skills we learn are so complex that they become subtle and their importance and difficulty may not be apparent even to other adults, much less to a new generation mastering the world. I believe if we can be patient and be communicative so as to teach the importance of what we know and can do, respect will come. Respect is an understanding of important traits, after all.

 

[S<Chowdhury]

Has anyone noticed this? Or perhaps I'm being overly speculative, but kids these days are just getting more and more disrespectful as the days go by. The concept of raising hands and waiting to be called on has been long gone. The respect for knowledge has also passed out. They're now sitting on their textbooks as a cushion.

How did this all come about?

Honestly, I really think it's from that spongebob square pants. Look at all the Disney movie themes as well: Disobey the father, runaway from home. Name a disney movie that's not like that, if you dare.

It's really a sad state of affairs.

LOL how can you blame spongebob square pants haha and disney films you ever watch Bambi or Lion King they were epic films, Toy Story 3 Coming out soon aswell ;D

Kids are disobey parents because no one is being strict enough i think new generation growing up with parents who were born in the West so they seem to be a bit more lenient plus when the Fed don't do stop anti-social behavior and give a warning.......then what truly is stopping you. Plus now everyone wants to be a Badman, ghetto, street, raaaw......."with the gash n mash mash ting " this is da type of culture kids are growing up with no 1 wonder you getting kids stabbing every other kid, Boy Rape at 10 years old and people going around with a heater or a shank, youth culture in 1 word *****, so b4 u even start teaching kids manners you need to sort out there mentality

 

[aadil77]

Proper teaching of adaab and akhlaaq has to be drilled into kids from a young age. If parents spoil their kids and they dont teach them properly, they can't moan when their kids grow and start copyin the chav next door by swearin and slammin the door at them. People think by sendin kids to an islamic school it will solve the problem, it won't, it has to be done at home properly.

 

[S<Chowdhury]

Proper teaching of adaab and akhlaaq has to be drilled into kids from a young age. If parents spoil their kids and they dont teach them properly, they can't moan when their kids grow and start copyin the chav next door by swearin and slammin the door at them. People think by sendin kids to an islamic school it will solve the problem, it won't, it has to be done at home properly.

^^ LOL so trueee, no need for islamic schools, jus getting gd smack or two would work, you know half the kids "chavs /rude boi" need is a gd smack n they back down like a coward they are

 

[aadil77]

^^ LOL so trueee, no need for islamic schools, jus getting gd smack or two would work, you know half the kids "chavs /rude boi" need is a gd smack n they back down like a coward they are

Lol or desi style get the slippers, in my case it was heeled shoes to the head... daymm

My lil bro gets beats from me, when he gets bigger i'll be using a pole - hopefully it wont hav to get to that tho.

But yh man respect in countries like these is hard to implement, kids get matured, over confident and build an attitude too quickly, thats why parents got to take drastic measures to get the job done.

 

[Ğħαrєєвαħ]

Aslaamu alaaykum

^I dont think hitting the child would help...or would it? in my opinion it gets some kids worser...

But teaching the Child correct manners throughout life is good, but its not like that kid wont ever meet people with bad manners its life.because some easily get influenced..the inteligent kid would never fall for such rubbish InshaAllaah...
I think they should be taught also about the Tricks of the Shaytaan how easily he tricks people in to talking badly ie disrespecting others..

The Parents gotta be prepared indeed..so yeahh

Wa alaaykum Salaam

 

[aadil77]

Aslaamu alaaykum

^I dont think hitting the child would help...or would it? in my opinion it gets some kids worser...

But teaching the Child correct manners throughout life is good, but its not like that kid wont ever meet people with bad manners its life.because some easily get influenced..the inteligent kid would never fall for such rubbish InshaAllaah...
I think they should be taught also about the Tricks of the Shaytaan how easily he tricks people in to talking badly ie disrespecting others..

The Parents gotta be prepared indeed..so yeahh

Wa alaaykum Salaam

It does work, hitting alone will not work, you need to balance it with teaching them an understanding of why its wrong and the consequences, it works with my lil bro, I'm tryin to put the fear of Allah in him, so when he'll avoid doing something wrong out of fear of Allah and not me.

 

[Woodrow]

Instant solution.

Sterilize all parents and execute all children under the age of 45. It would work, but I believe it would make the world a very dull place to live.

Perhaps all we need to remember is that our grand children will punish our children for their behavior. My children might have been spoiled disobedient brats, but my Grandkids are perfect.

You may find this hard to believe, but I honestly feel the children of today are more obedient and respectful then my generation was. I see so much potential potential in today's young people, it makes me feel that there is hope for the human race after all.

 

[Beardo]

Instant solution.

Sterilize all parents and execute all children under the age of 45. It would work, but I believe it would make the world a very dull place to live.

Perhaps all we need to remember is that our grand children will punish our children for their behavior. My children might have been spoiled disobedient brats, but my Grandkids are perfect.

You may find this hard to believe, but I honestly feel the children of today are more obedient and respectful then my generation was. I see so much potential potential in today's young people, it makes me feel that there is hope for the human race after all.

I don't know, Grandpa. I actually have to disagree.

When I was young, I remember we never even touched our elders. Elders meaning anyone two or more years older than us. Nowadays, they come hit you, smack you, no problem. I would say it's just my community, but when I was in Australia for a few months, I recognized the same problem.

 

[Ğħαrєєвαħ]

Do you think the Prophet SAW would hit his Daughter or any of his children?
Or would you say things have changed, as in today its different from back then because of the attitude of kids etc, wouldnt you say the same rules apply for todays generation?

 

[Beardo]

Do you think the Prophet SAW would hit his Daughter or any of his children?
Or would you say things have changed, as in today its different from back then because of the attitude of kids etc, wouldnt you say the same rules apply for todays generation?

Hitting is out of the question. I don't think hitting creates anything except discord and hatred. It weakens relationships and bonds, in my opinion. Though, I suppose the amount and level of hitting also plays a role. Allahu Alam. Hitting isn't meant for physical pain. It's supposed to prove a point. But hitting isn't really the solution. A mild reminder or scolding should do the trick.

 

[Life_Is_Short]

Raise them in a bubble.

Like the one used for kids born with faulty immune system.

 

[Woodrow]

Just a reminder:

The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers.

The above quote is over 2000 years old. It was attributed to Socrates by Plato.