Do you believe in pure friendship between male and female?

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SilentObserver said:
simply not true. I have had, and still do have such friendships with women. There are many people that do. Many people are taught to believe this is not possible through culture and religion. And for those people, it never will be possible. For many of us that have not been taught this, we don't have this problem.
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Greetings,

But how can you be sure the person really doesn't feel anything for you?

This is such a hard question, as only I can tell what I feel, but never really what the other part feels.

It also depends how one defines "pure".
 
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Doesnt matter if I believe or not , most important is remember that is forbbiden , absloluttly , No , haram ...maybe i cant see it dangerous , but Allah knows best and our Prophet (sallah Allahu alayhis wa sallam ) said that the third between a woman and a man alone is the shaytaan , audu billah , and when the shaytan starts with the was was hmm problems , fitnah ..
 
Al-Zaara said:
Greetings,

But how can you be sure the person really doesn't feel anything for you?

This is such a hard question, as only I can tell what I feel, but never really what the other part feels.

It also depends how one defines "pure".
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Besides my hideous appearance? :p There is no way to know for sure, but for at 3 of those friendships I can say it is highly unlikely.
 
i guess......it depends on the kind of personality u have.....but as for frre-mixing i do believe its wrong becos u wil neva no wer it wud lead to........u may tink itll remain 'pure'....but remember satan is always waiting for the opportuinity to lead u to the wrong path.........so its best to stick to wats forbidden n wats not........
 
salam brothers and sisters

i dont think that men and women should be friends as there is always a middle person involved the shaytaan. also if in islam our cousins of the opposite s-x are khair marham then it is definetly wrong. personally i dont think should be friends with the opposite s-x unless you have to interact with them but no to friendship.
 
bsgoohbi said:
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Hope you all are in good health and fine.

Do you think that there is pure friendship between male and female?

many of men and women have each other on messenger and keep talking when they are online.

they try to convince themselves that it is just pure friendship and will never lead to bad curve.

many of these relationship developed to love. whether it was ended with marriage or without marriage.

Can they have control and limit this relationship from going deeper?

do you mind to talk to men/women?

Wish to hear from you all.


Ahmad
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Salam Brother Ahmad,

My little brother used to tell me that men and women can NEVER be "just friends". I used to shrug it off and think he's being weak. I always thought I was stronger. But, man! Was I wrong!

Men and women CANNOT be "just friends"! I know this for a fact! 99.9999% of the time, the friendship will turn down a path that's not appropriate. It might be something obvious like dating each other, the relationship might turn sexual, etc. or it could be very subtle like talking to the girl about sex, etc. or something of the sort.

I personally feel it's okay to talk to women for work, school or about religious subjects. But it should definately be in a public place and in a controlled manner. After all, Shaytan is the third person when the man and woman are alone! Remember this!

I have to admit though, I do have one female friend that I chat with online from time to time. We've been "just friends" for many years without the relationship turning bad, but regardless, I know it's wrong and if I plan on getting married, I don't think my wife-to-be will like this very much. So InshAllah with Allah's guidance I will take steps to mend this problem in my life. I advise the same to everyone else who might be in the same situation.

Salam.
 

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