Do you hate someone?!

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I forgot all about this thread, I think I need to read the first post again. :mmokay:
 
aww at scents of jannah's story...i thought that stuff only happened in movies... *sad* its crazy wut people can do in this world and not FEEL anything....

Hate is a strong emotion and its the foundation for all wrong-doing..
 
Yes I use to hate someone. My life was very hard for me at a certain point, everyone around me was lying to me and leading me into a never ending circle of lies. I hated two people in my life a lot because they betrayed me. I was hurt and confused, I couldn't believe that two Muslim people can do such wrong to another within the same Ummah. So I hated all of them and anyone who associated with them. But one day I had an epiphany and from that moment I realized that it is wrong for me to continue to hate someone or to have a grudge. So from that day on I decided to forgive them both and love them for the sake of Allah, its not easy but I take it one day at a time. They both apologized to me but it means nothing but I appreciate them having the guts to do so. I moved on with my life and hopefully one day they will realize the pain they inflicted on me.
 
Scents of Jannah said:
Hate can be good. It's a form of self-defence. Depending on the extremity of being wronged, it helps to stay on guard. If you forgive and forget every person who wrongs you, you're putting yourself in the position to be wronged again. If you keep hating them then you stay away and thus protect yourself.

Don't get me wrong though. What I said is in extreme cases. Like when someone plots to destroy/use you, or the Ummah. Otherwise for smaller things (human weaknesses) forgiveness is recommended.
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See, hates such a strong word. I remember in primary school someone said they hated another person and the teacher suddenly got really furious!
It was scary as we didn't know what caused her anger.
She sat us all down and then explained never to use the word again.
The reasoning she gave was that Hate was what Hitler felt towards the Jews, and look at what he did. So, since then I've tried not to use the word..
But still I partially agree with ya sis..If everyone forgave everyone then the world would be a good place..But the world isn't a good place and that scenario would never happen..
However, instead of hating people, wouldn't it be best that if you're wronged once, you just remain wary afterwards..not be too hasty in your friendliness, but not to be too suspicious either?
 

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