Does it really matter if I marry a virgin or not?

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ba51th said:
so, I have no right to marry a virgin woman because I have no right to question whether she ever had any relationship with opposite gender or not?

so, I have no right to marry a virgin woman because I have no right to know whether she still a virgin or not?

so, I have no right to marry a virgin woman because that woman will lying that she still virgin?

so, I have no right to marry a virgin woman because I should accept a woman that already repent to Allah and no longer virgin ?



that feeling... the suffer to not have a relationship with any woman, because I want to present myself to a special woman, my lovely future wife... a man... that only her, the woman that ever exist in my heart... only her, the woman that have the right to touch me... only her, the woman that I ever hug... only her, the woman that I ever kiss... only her, the woman that I ever sleep with... only her, the woman that I ever feed with my own right hand... only her, the woman that I ever have romantic dinner with... only her, the woman that I ever flirt... only her, only her, only her, only her, only her, no other woman beside her...

expecting the same from my future wife...





yo muslims, go commit zina as much as you want, after you satisfy your sex need, go repent to Allah, and you can marry opposite sex that still virgin, because virgin have no right to reject to get married with opposite sex that no longer virgin!
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Salaam.

I like what you wrote: speech, poem whatever it is...
Here's the thing however, everyone has the right to get married to whomever they please to.
Remember: Everyone makes mistakes.
 
oh, do not mind me, I'm just a crazy virgin muslim man that have a hobby write a poem...
 
ba51th said:
so, I have no right to marry a virgin woman because I have no right to question whether she ever had any relationship with opposite gender or not?
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You can always ask your potential spouse. Most likely they will get offended and not marry you.
 
Assalamu-alaikum,

MashaAllah, these are very sweet sentiments being expressed here : )

I assure you, that as one ages and experiences life/marriage/death/divorce, etc our views on these very same topics begin to change. This is part of life - we start out youthful, starry eyed and idealistic....and then 'life' comes in the way, and Allah ( subhanawata'ala) makes other, even better plans for us : )
SubhanAllah, we live and we learn.

Just a few things to ponder over:

- Virginity is something that is related to the worldly life/ dunya.
And as mentioned, it is ok and understandable for some to desire marriage to virgin men/ women.
However, how blessed are those marriages as well, which are based on a persons relationship with Allah at this given moment in time, and on sincere love for the sake of Allah.

- If we all had the mindset of wanting to marry only virgins, then many polygamous marriages will not occur ( there are many cases were the 2nd/3rd wife hv never been married before). In fact, even the marriage of Ayesha (ra) to the prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasalam) would not have occurred if she held this viewpoint.

- If Allah Taa'la sends somebody into your life as an option for marriage, and he/ she is denied simply because
they are no longer virgins, who knows what a walli of Allah you may be missing on. And who knows if Allah will grant the same blessing on another occassion.

It takes one with a very deep understanding of the meaning of marriage, to be able to lay aside some of our ideals in life- and look towards the 'bigger' picture of our existence.

:wa:
 
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~Zaria~ said:
Just a few things to ponder over:

- Virginity is something that is related to the worldly life/ dunya.
And as mentioned, it is ok and understandable for some to desire marriage to virgin men/ women.
However, how blessed are those marriages as well, which are based on a persons relationship with Allah at this given moment in time, and on sincere love for the sake of Allah.

- If we all had the mindset of wanting to marry only virgins, then many polygamous marriages will not occur ( there are many cases were the 2nd/3rd wife hv never been married before). In fact, even the marriage of Ayesha (ra) to the prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasalam) would not have occurred if she held this viewpoint.

- If Allah Taa'la sends somebody into your life as an option for marriage, and he/ she is denied simply because
they are no longer virgins, who knows what a walli of Allah you may be missing on. And who knows if Allah will grant the same blessing on another occassion.

It takes one with a very deep understanding of the meaning of marriage, to be able to lay aside some of our ideals in life- and look towards the 'bigger' picture of our existence.

:wa:
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Salaam.

This is absolutely true. In life, especially in this day and age, it is very hard to be "pure" or a virgin.
So a virgin will want to marry a virgin because they believe that "if I can remain a virgin, so could she."
Then when the virgin realizes that his/her spouse is not a virgin, we complain.

This is not right. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tests if we are able to forgive the person we married. You can either forgive him/her and pass or you can ask him/her if they are a virgin...
 
ba51th,
No off course you have every right to have a personal preferance. I don't think anybody here said otherwise. Our point is mainly, that as far as religion is concearned, it doesn't "push" towards that preferance.
 
In another world, completely different to ours, 'virginity' is frowned upon, and if you are a virgin you lack the experience, you are timid - something is deeply wrong with you.
 
Cabdullahi said:
In another world, completely different to ours, 'virginity' is frowned upon, and if you are a virgin you lack the experience, you are timid - something is deeply wrong with you.
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You have no right to say that I have something deeply wrong with me just because I want to marry a virgin.
I could say that you some kind of fetish going after "experienced" women.
People like you are the worst putting labels on people for not choosing what you deem acceptable.
Oh you can choose this and that but remember I will put such and such labels on you but if you choose what "I" think is "good" then I will give a different label.
If you like to marry "experienced" women then that is up to you but don't you dare put labels on others for not choosing your path.
May your future wife have had a lot of "wonderful experiences"
amen.
 
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Zone Maker said:
You have no right to say that I have something deeply wrong with me just because I want to marry a virgin.
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Salam alaykum

I hope you will find virgin to marry. Hopely you are same like your future wife.

I was virgin when I was marrying (20 years ago - so by me you are late).
 
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