Domestic violence

truly sad to read,
SOMETIMES THE ONLY DOOR LEFT TO KNOCK ON IS THE 1 THAT HAS DIVORCE BEHIND IT.

THE ONLY REASON DIVORCE IS HARD FOR WOMEN IS BECAUSE OUR 'CULTURES' LOOK DOWN UPON DIVORCED WMN.

DID THE PROPHET (saw) DO THIS ?
HOW MANY OF HIS WIVES WERE PREVIOUSLY MARRIED HAD CHILDREN ETC.


MY TONGUE CANNOT DO JUSTICE TO HIM.
 
mahfuja said:
as much as you feel you might be helping them ... calling the police may make things worse for the victim. The police will only take the perpertrator to the station ... question him ... file a report and IF only the victim wishes to take things further then the perpertrator will be convited. But most cases the victim is not ready to escape and to be honest it won't help by you trying to fastforward it for her.

So i urge you to not call the police without her permission.
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You are right sister.

In many domestic violence cases, the first person who prevent people call the police is the wife herself. They also prevent people hit their husband. Even many of them refuse an idea to ask divorce to their husband and try to defend their husband when people angry to their husband.

I really don't understand why those wives always love their husbands although their husbands always treat them very bad.

But I begin to understand why my teacher said "There is a place in jannah for shaleehah wife".
 
AnonymousGender said:
However after talks between the two families it has been agreed with the wife's consent that she will go back to her husband.
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i hope it was a fair and honest talk not one full of sweet words and brainwashing :heated:


What worries me more is that the wife has a young boy from previous marriage- if this man could beat his own wife like that what are the chances that he wont hit someone else's child?.
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what worries me is that next time she may not be able to get out so easily. imsad

Is it ok if i give the wife the telephone numbers of those people who deal with domestic violence?
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if anything like this happens again and her family are able to divorce/separate her from him, then i dont think you should anyone else should be involved.
 
someone very close to me was also the victim of domestic violence, this was very early in her marriage aswell. well what happened was that she told her brother, who drove 700 miles from scotland down to london just to sort out the husband.

by that i mean physically threaten the husband, in most cases husbands like this are cowards and dont know what hurt they are doing the wife.:heated:
but im not so sure about your case, even though the families know about it there seems to be little done to prevent it happening again.

in my experience it would be better for the wife to get divorce now, ive seen the long term psychological effect it can have, especially if she goes on to have children, it would be a horrible environment for kids to have to see their mother in so much pain.:heated:
 
:sl: anybody that can knock a womanz teeth out of her head and break bones i guarantee u these are the worst of abusers and she might not be so lucky to escape ALIVE the next time! The poor sister clearly went back because she loved him and it has reduced me to tearz to find out that there is a child in the middle of all this! It might be that he wont do it again but she should be clever!! She should arrange counceling for his anger problems if a professional who deals with men with these problems can see that this man will Change and wönt hit again then she should only go back to him! I am telling you this is the only mature an wise advice im giving you right now!. There is a kid involved brotherz and sisters! A poor innocent kid! Dont take that risk 2 allow her 2 go back without a experiened and professional councelor 2 confirm he has changed and WONT hit again
 
Assalamou Alaikoum Warahmatou ALLAH Taala Wabarakatou,

I read all your reply but noone mentioned about the islam opinion and punishment regarding a husband who hit his wife , Could someone please give us a surah or hadith regarding this matter ?
 
Some things aren't worth keeping, she shud leave this Psycho'woman'beater. Theres NO excuse to hit a woman! Why is it always the woman who has to sacrifice her life? If I were her I wud never ever forgive him n make sure I get a divorce asap.

Even animals wud have zero tolerance for this kind of crap! why shud it be subjected to a woman!

Allah says in the Quraan spouses are like garments to one another, a man like this is not that.
 
asalaamu alaikum guys :)

I dont understand why people are not that receptive when it come to the issue of Domestic Violence, maybe because alhamdulillah it is not in a lot of people's radar. But alot of people ARE suffering from this ... and me and a team ARE trying to make a difference for our brothers and sisters

But we cant do it alone and need YOU lots help.

Please private message me to request for a questionnaire. It will literally take 5 minutes to fill up ... we need the opinion of the public to generate a report insha'Allah.

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jazakAllah khair
 
AnonymousGender said:
jazzakallah khair for all your replies. I appreciate them all.
Someone asked how I came to know that the wife was beaten. well unfortunately I'm related to the guy. So when he kicked, punched and bitten her he left the house and she went to her parents house who called us and informed us about the situation. At first the sister and her family was certain that the next step would be divorce. However after talks between the two families it has been agreed with the wife's consent that she will go back to her husband. Personally i dont think its good idea as they have only been married for two months. If a man can do that to his wife of two months how can we be sure that he wont hit her again lets say in a few years time or even few months. What worries me more is that the wife has a young boy from previous marriage- if this man could beat his own wife like that what are the chances that he wont hit someone else's child?.


Is it ok if i give the wife the telephone numbers of those people who deal with domestic violence?
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:sl: Even if the man never hits the child, the child will realise his mother is being beaten and abused by this man and he will come to hate him. Children need good role models and this man is one of the worst. For a woman, whether her child is from her present/previous marriage, the child's welfare comes first. That child may not be able to speak out but he must be sensing his mothers distress and suffering in his own silent world. Witnessing his mother's marriage and treatment can damage him for life. May Allah protect him and the mother. If the man is to be given a chance, he will need professional help as well as Islamic guidence. This may take several months, and in the meantime the abuse may continue. That isn't acceptable.

The sister's parents are aware of the situation and they should set the condition that until the husband reforms (i.e. gets help for his behavior) their daughter will stay with them. For her own welfare and especially for the welfare of that poor innocent child, this is a strong and valid reason for the sister to move out immediately.. If the husband makes no attempt to change, he has had his chance and the sister should ask for divorce. If he begins resorting to threats the police should be called and she should also press charges for the previous abuse.


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p.s. If I can be of help to the sis in any way, please feel free to pm me.
 
Asslamou ALAIKOUM wARAHMATOU allah taala wabarakatou,

domestic violence is not allowed in the islam because our religion is a peaceful religion alhmadoliallah

First we should know what cause this domestic violence ? why this man beaten his wife? whos fault?

The women should know how to handle the situation and the husband and control his temper to help that no domestic violence happen

If the husband is drink alchool and beaten the wife then this is different story and family should also involve to solve the problem

If the husband beaten the wife cause she make problems and argument and make him fire then she should control her self and make him calm down and inshallah everything will be fine

AND ALLAH SWT KNOWS THE BEST
 
my duas r wth the sister May Allah make it easy for her.i know how it feels to be beaten up by a man,4me it wasnt frm a husband bt from my own brother n father at the same time.bt now am married alhamdullilah so neither of them will dare raise thier hands on me again,not when my husband is alive.May Allah soften the heart of the husband n c how precious a woman can be.
 
she should leave him and divorce him no men deserve any good muslim wife i wish if he will find an other women who can really cheat on him and then i will see if he will beat her or not they are coward anyway they gone to the weak women
 
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