I've known Christians who said similar things with regard to dying on the mission field. Indeed one good friend of mine was praying so fervently that he might be able to die for God and let him become a martyr in this way that God actually responded and spoke to him saying, "What if I should ask you not to die for me, but live for me?" He says he realized that he was using the idea of dying for God as a way of escaping from the responsibility of the daily grind of living for God that God wanted of him. That death (at least for him, not saying for all) was relatively easy compared to life which involved a daily dying to self in order to live according to God's will and way of life.
Would those thoughts (what God asked my friend to reflect on) resonate within an Islamic mindset or would they be foreign to it?
It would boil down to intention I suppose. If you are sincere and want to die only for the pleasure of god rather than having to escape from the everyday grind.
My opinion is that every muslim should be living for god irrespective of his situation and the final test of faith would be that he is prepared to part from the comforts of this world, family, wealth etc. for the pleasure of god alone. I suppose that is why suicide is forbidden in Islam, because you live for allah and his pleasure and none of the difficulties in life should turn you away from this it should bring you closer to him. The same way dying in the path of god would bring you closer to him. In my opinion I would think the highest form of love for someone would be when you are prepared to lay down your life for them, hence the high rank afforded to martyrs in Islam.