Eerie Personality and Confidence Issues

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probably i enjoy people looking at me with disgust and shame, and want sympathy.
 
one more thing can anyone also tell me how can I become, acts and look more mature !"?
 
You're 26 years old, and still wanting to reach maturity of intellect - understandable - people who have had everything handed to them on a plate usually suffer this crisis...

...you have been born with a silver spoon in your mouth, as the saying goes. You've had a priveleged education and life so far - but because you've had it easy, you expect life to be easy - I got news for you kid.

You is in a world of hurt. You are waking up. But you have nowhere to go and nothing to look forward to - and you are spiritually blind as a bat - actually no, I think bats have a keener vision than you on these matters, no joke.

Bro I'm asking you a serious question - why do you enjoy your misery? Don't you find it pathetic? Don't you get angry at yourself and then tell your heart "Right that's it, i've had enough - i'm gonna do something about this" and then just get stronger - if even momentarily? Why did you not watch the video i posted on page one? And most of all - why are you such a selfish person? Why ME ME ME???

I could never respect a person like that. Could you? I hughly doubt it - so this is the reason you need to change - no one can respect you in this state - and thus you need to learn a little self respect my friend.

Now... answer those questions.

Scimi
 
AH you know what bro? dont even bother to answer the questions - just leave this forum - you are not here for advice - you've not followed any advice we've given you - so STOP WASTING OUR TIME.

Assalaam alaikum

Scimi
 
All the advice anyone can hope for in a situation such as yours is in this thread - but you've ignored it ALL... you clearly don't want help - guess what?

The rescue cars came and went a looooong time ago, the hovercrafts and boats too - and the helicopters are now leaving - so you go answer to Allah on the day of judgement about how usless an idiot you was and then burn in hell for eternity ok? Is that ok with you? goooood - I'll pop my head over the preoverbial barrier while I am in heaven and point to you and then ask you "how you feel now?" and then watch as the words are taken from you by an angel of hell as he drags you deeper into the pit - OK?

Good.

I wont wish you salaam - simply because you really don't want it.

Go wallow in your self absorbed pitiful self - you wanna be a loser. SO be a loser - please do not bother us anymore.

Scimi
 
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i could not watch the video because youtube is banned in Pakistan. True I have been handed everything in a spoon. This dunya and religion were given to me by my parent and didnt have to move a muscle. But everytime I try to do something I fail like I told you about business venture (stock investment went wrong). I lost money. I tried for marriage and proposals were rejected ( despite a wali who is a very religion person is blind and so spirtual that he can tell about just be hearing the name of persons with their mothers name) i do gym but the problem is in few months I get bored of everything and wants to do something new. I have worked in various businesses owned by my family and irrespective of success or failure I change every few months. You are right I have no self respect because I havent really achieved anything apart from academic success. I once prayed all my prayers and did qll sorts of duas and wazifas and yet I failed. I started hating this life. I have gone downjill since my a level in every aspect of my life. i am sure people hate me cause I am too dependent on others. I do not want to accept any responsibility now and want others to take my decisions so that I can blame them once I fail ( and I do not dissappoint myself in failing in easy battles) I believed that everything happened for the good and Allah had a master plan. but now seeing so much gone wrong, I lost hope. Sometimes I feel a slight subtle turn and collision with a tree while driving at 100 km/h can only bring me salvation. I cannot enjoy anything anymore even when I am laughing and watching a show some pain is always at the back of mind. It feels that unknown forces are pullong me with my hair towards opposite sides. No one can help me and I am stuck in the middle of deen and dunya and do not plan to go either direction. divine intervention does not come to sinners like me, but when I see around I see people who have done greater evil are rewarded more. I have lost it bro again. I do not have passion for anything anymore. The only time I feel sensible is when I smoke. I am aways from drinks or drugs, but I feel its a matter of time God Forbid. I also cannot imagine a life without my parents so I want to die before them. i am also so fed up of this corrupt world and my country tops in everything that is bad. There is no escape from it. I am experiencing hell in this world, it is now easy for me if Allah sends me to hell in the hereafter cause I have experienced it.

PS: Good flourising life in terms of financial strength does not mean that you have a bed of roses. Instead blacksheeps in families like mine go through the mental torture and hell in this world.
 
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To add to the excellent advice that Scmi and others have given you (don't give up on him bro Scmi, just take a break from this thread perhaps?), I honestly think that you should stop being so fatalistic or expectant of a miracle from Allah swt.


As for your question about looking more mature, you need to work on you body language and your confidence. At first, you can fake this, even if you don't necessarily feel it. Start looking people in the eye, stand up straight, square your shoulders, lift your head up and walk around with purpose, confidence, and even with attitude. Start believing in yourself, in your worth and in your potential to be a good and successful person. If you start believing in yourself, and acting others will start seeing that in you also.


It is no coincidence that those that believe that they have been dealt a bad card often underachieve, or take badly the slings and arrows of bad fortune that we all face in life. It's time to drag yourself away slowly from that negative state of mind that you currently wallow in, and your life will slowly improve. Either way, I wish you well bro.
 
I can try but this brother is disingenuous in his attempt at reconciling his problems... he hasn't tried even one thing - what makes you think he will listen to you Layth?

He hasn't listened to anyone but his own waswasa.

Scimi
 
smallkid said:
i could not watch the video because youtube is banned in Pakistan. True I have been handed everything in a spoon. This dunya and religion were given to me by my parent and didnt have to move a muscle. But everytime I try to do something I fail like I told you about business venture (stock investment went wrong). I lost money. I tried for marriage and proposals were rejected ( despite a wali who is a very religion person is blind and so spirtual that he can tell about just be hearing the name of persons with their mothers name)
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WARNING:

STOP.... that isn't no wali - that is a magician.

Stay clear of such frauds.

Do not seek your fortune in men who ask for your name and your mothers name - they are CLEAR BLACK MAGICIANS...

...now you know one of the roots of your problems.

No real awliyah of Allah will ever need to know your mothers name - they know the religion well and so can adivse without divination - trust me, that man is a magician and bound for the hellfire.


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i do gym but the problem is in few months I get bored of everything and wants to do something new. I have worked in various businesses owned by my family and irrespective of success or failure I change every few months. You are right I have no self respect because I havent really achieved anything apart from academic success. I once prayed all my prayers and did qll sorts of duas and wazifas and yet I failed. I started hating this life. I have gone downjill since my a level in every aspect of my life. i am sure people hate me cause I am too dependent on others. I do not want to accept any responsibility now and want others to take my decisions so that I can blame them once I fail ( and I do not dissappoint myself in failing in easy battles) I believed that everything happened for the good and Allah had a master plan. but now seeing so much gone wrong, I lost hope. Sometimes I feel a slight subtle turn and collision with a tree while driving at 100 km/h can only bring me salvation. I cannot enjoy anything anymore even when I am laughing and watching a show some pain is always at the back of mind. It feels that unknown forces are pullong me with my hair towards opposite sides. No one can help me and I am stuck in the middle of deen and dunya and do not plan to go either direction. divine intervention does not come to sinners like me, but when I see around I see people who have done greater evil are rewarded more. I have lost it bro again. I do not have passion for anything anymore. The only time I feel sensible is when I smoke. I am aways from drinks or drugs, but I feel its a matter of time God Forbid. I also cannot imagine a life without my parents so I want to die before them. i am also so fed up of this corrupt world and my country tops in everything that is bad. There is no escape from it. I am experiencing hell in this world, it is now easy for me if Allah sends me to hell in the hereafter cause I have experienced it.

PS: Good flourising life in terms of financial strength does not mean that you have a bed of roses. Instead blacksheeps in families like mine go through the mental torture and hell in this world.
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that's the doing of your magician right there... trust me on this.

Do you wear taweez too? Boy oh boy... now I think I know what the problem is... bloody Pakistan is full of black magicians parading around as wali's... same as India man.

Scimi
 
Dont say this bro. I hate this taweez and other stuff more than anything. if you think Istikhara is magic then that is what he does. He is one of the most religious persons. Dont mould it according to what you like. I summed up everything in the above post. Despite positive istikharas, I have failed bro and that is what hits you right in the middle of your heart.
 
and accusing anyone is a ticket to hell bro. I think I will have some company.
 
even in istikhara duas you have to use mother's name.
 
What makes you think you have to give your mothers name in istikhara? that is simply false.

You need to read up on black magic and magicians bro - here:

Ibn Taymiyyahs Essay on the Jinn.

Sword against black magic and evil magicians.

get these two and then come back here with your limited knowledge expounded upon and try to make the same points.

As for istikhara - are you so stupid that tyou think God doesn't know who is praying to him? And so needs a reference code in the form of your name and your mothers name? That is simply dumb. It is magicians who require the name of your mother and your name... and possibly an item of clothing or something personal to the subject - in this case - you.

You do istikhara ever? what do you even know about Islamic practice in this regard apart from the tribal BS your Pakistani culture have brainwashed you with?

I've suffere both, black magic and jinn, and came through it - educated myself on it and more - so I know I can tell you that you are in the grip of a powerful magic and your defeatist stance is more than telling it - you are a classic case of black magic bro.

And the truth is, you ARE IN DENIAL OF IT.

Scimi
 
what if I show you the links of the dia from some of the reknowned scholars. It is also a hadoth when making supplications and on the days of judgements you will be called from tour mothers' name. and why do tou think the positive istikaras yielded wrong results. Why did Allah made me suffer ?
 
Bro I give you a simple analogy ok?

Take a glass of milk, and put one drop of poison in it...

... is it a glass of milk still? or is it a poisoned drink?

Hmmm... something tells me you are beyond the ability to rationalise anything in lieu of your silly bias.

You need no intermediary - that is your first mistake. The shuyookh should only ever guide a muslim though advice. Anything more than that is wrong.

You know what intermediaries lead you to? Shirk.

And that my friend, is unforgivable.

Scimi

EDIT: the proof is in the pudding - when has your istikhara of magic (lol) ever worked? From what you say, your life is just getting worse - you are so blind that you can't even see this? Boy oh boy... Oh kaay then. you keep believing in your shirk.

I'm done here.
 
he is a a learned man and its better for more religious ppl to do istikhara on your behalf. Besides my mom also did istikhara and it was positive. so ?
 
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Bro I give you a simple analogy ok?


Take a glass of milk, and put one drop of poison in it...

... is it a glass of milk still? or is it a poisoned drink?

Hmmm... something tells me you are beyond the ability to rationalise anything in lieu of your silly bias.

You need no intermediary - that is your first mistake. The shuyookh should only ever guide a muslim though advice. Anything more than that is wrong.

You know what intermediaries lead you to? Shirk.

And that my friend, is unforgivable.

Scimi

EDIT: the proof is in the pudding - when has your istikhara of magic (lol) ever worked? From what you say, your life is just getting worse - you are so blind that you can't even see this? Boy oh boy... Oh kaay then. you keep believing in your shirk.

I'm done here.[/QUOTE

And by your logic will black magicians are strongers than will of Allah. Now that is shirk. not even a leave falls without Allah's permission.

I will be going to hell but you will be coming with me good bro.
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smallkid said:
Bro's all of you have been spot on. Allah is the most kind, but in my case it seems I will get no where in life, and will end up a failure due to my faults.
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My friend,suffering is not ennobling,transcending it is.No one likes fake toughness,however,moaning and groaning doesn't suits on men(and it is not appreciated by women either since you are also looking for a potential spouse). Men are not only supposed to combat at various level and multiple battlefields but also lend their abilities for others.

By the way,considering you have already spent one fourth of life span(assumed to be one hundred) available,you are no "small kid". Quit living in a delusional world.

And talking about passing hundred mark,a video went viral of Louise Bonito who prepared to blow out her candles after taking a deep breath - but before she could exhale properly, her full set of false teeth shoot out and land on the table next to the cake.Hopefully it will bring the temperature down a little bit.

 
very wise of you Signor bro. Clear one confusion why positive ostikharas yielded wrong or undesirable results ?
 
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