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Salaam Aliakum

We as Muslims should lower our gaze to avoid looking at the awarh of the opposite sex. A woman's face is not part of her awarh (thou some Muslims do think that her face is part of her awarh)

"Lower their Gaze" does not Mean to Avoid Eye-contact or to not Interact

Many so-called practicing Muslims are un-cooperative and unhelpful to members of the opposite gender. They keep away from each other as much a possible. In some cases, if two such people are put in a situation where they have to communicate, one looks into the sky, while the other looks into the ground in order to avoid eye contact. A person of this breed can even appear impolite and rude to a person who does not carry this mentality. They back their behaviour using what they have been told about Verse 24:29-30 of the Qur'an. This is a misconception that arises purely out of a lack of wisdom and understanding.

The Verses they quote are the following:

24:30:

"Tell the believing men that they should reduce/lower (يغضوا) their gaze/vision and guard their private parts"

24:31:

"Tell the believing women that they should reduce/lower (يغضضن) their gaze/vision and guard their private parts"


Taking a literal understanding of Verses can often lead to erroneous understanding of a Verse. The meaning that should be derived from the above Verses is that men and women who believe in Allah and the Last Day, must behave modestly and carry themselves humbly between one another. Not only is this an interpretation based on reason, it is also supported by the other occasions the root word "غض (to lower/reduce)" has been used in the Qur'an.

"It is those who lower (يغضون) their voices in the presence of Allah's messenger and whose hearts Allah has proved to be aware - they will have forgiveness and a great reward" (Qur'an 49:3)


We cannot say, by looking at the above expression, the verse means to not speak to the messenger just because it says "lower the voice". Rather what is expressed is that the believers should not have arrogance or haughtiness in their voice and attitude when interacting with the messenger. Likewise, to "reduce/lower their gaze/vision" does not mean to avoid looking at opposite gender, rather to carry a modesty, humbleness when dealing with one another.

Another example is when Allah describes the time when Luqman advised his son on how he should behave with people:

"Go at a moderate pace and lower (واغضض) your voice, for the ugliest of all voices is the braying of donkeys" (Qur'an 31:19)


The advise in the Verse is not to sound arrogant and inconsiderate in dealing with people. To "lower the voice" does not mean to literally lower the voice! For example, to become so quiet so as people cannot hear one speak. Just like "lower their gaze" does not mean to not look at the opposite gender, but to do so with modesty.

A point which adds weight to this argument is that the term "ابصار (absaar)" translated as gaze/vision, has also been used in the Qur'an to metaphorically refer to a person's inner character and capabilities to grasp and respond to the outside world correctly, rather than literally one's vision through the eyes.

Furthermore, lessons from the Qur'an show us that all believers must look after one another out of love for Allah and must not cut interaction, even between genders. For example:

“The believing men and the believing women, they are the friends of one another. They command what is right and forbid what is wrong” (Qur’an 9:71)

Allah further elaborates in another Verse:

"Those who were already firmly established in their homes and firmly rooted in faith, show love for those who migrated to them for refuge and harbor no desire in their hearts for what has been given to them. They give them preference over themselves, even if they too are poor. It is those who are saved from the greed of their own souls who are successful." (Qur'an 59:9)

The verse teaches us the strength of unity between true believers. This originates from their love for Allah and desire for the Hereafter. One cannot say that the above Verse carries double standard for the two genders. Rather the believers of the time referred to in the verse, gave refuge to in their very own homes, all believers who migrated regardless of their gender. What matters is one's faith in Allah, believers are united by this.

The following incident in the story of Prophet Musa has lessons for the believers:

"As he made his way towards Midian, he was saying, 'May my Lord guide me to the right way.' When he arrived at Midian's waters, he found a group of men [watering their flocks], and beside them two women keeping their flocks back, so he said, 'what is the matter with you two?' They said, 'We cannot water [our flocks] until the shepherds take their sheep away: our father is a very old man.' He watered their flocks for them, withdrew into the shade, and prayed, 'My Lord, I am in dire need of whatever good thing you may send me" (Qur'an 28:22-24)

Prophet Musa's watering the flocks of the two women is a deed of a believer. However, such behaviour is unlikely among the majority group of so-called practicing Muslims of today. In conclusion, the expression "lower their gaze" used in Verses 24:30-31 does not mean to not look at the opposite gender or to not interact with them. The correct understanding is 'to interact modestly' between one another.

Verses 24:30-31 are not reasons in themselves for their mentality and behaviour. They simply 'use' the verses to keep up a nostalgic form of religion, derived not from the Qur'an. Part of this nostalgia is to cut connections from the opposite gender. This is common with their application of the Qur'an in all other areas, where the Qur'an is simply 'used' to give evidence in a religion where the Qur'an is 'muddled', and its true interpretations are never reached.

The Qur'an should be understood using Quranic context, as we have done here. One cannot arrive at the correct understanding of verses, if one's intention while approaching the Qur'an is to find evidence to prove a preconceived mentality.

http://www.quranicpath.com/verses/lowering_gaze.html
 
I was gonna reply to the sister above, but You obviously said what I wanted to say.

PS is eye contact that big of a deal in Islam? Is it that big of a sin? I think it is close to impossible not to make eye contact with the opposite sex. Think about it, especially for people living in non-Muslim countries. Personally I think there is no harm at looking at the opposite sex as long as you have pure thoughts. If you have corrupted thoughts, it does not really matter whether you look at someone or just imagine someone in your head, for me it is same.

PS, I do not know how others feel about it but I think we should refrain from copying and then pasting huge texts from the internet. Much Oblige.

Wasalam.

that sounds so ridiculous its like saying theres no harm in looking at porn as long your thoughts are pure. The thing is theres plenty of people like you who will hand out their opinions which clearly conflict with islamic teachings carelessly. You basically just denied Allah's command when we are told to lower our gaze.

And these texts that are pasted are for people like you who are in need of the islamic perspective and proofs to confirm the truth
 
I was gonna reply to the sister above, but You obviously said what I wanted to say.

PS is eye contact that big of a deal in Islam? Is it that big of a sin? I think it is close to impossible not to make eye contact with the opposite sex. Think about it, especially for people living in non-Muslim countries. Personally I think there is no harm at looking at the opposite sex as long as you have pure thoughts. If you have corrupted thoughts, it does not really matter whether you look at someone or just imagine someone in your head, for me it is same.

PS, I do not know how others feel about it but I think we should refrain from copying and then pasting huge texts from the internet. Much Oblige.

Wasalam.

You are having a laugh arent you? Why is it impossible to NOT look at the opposite gender? Are you a man or an animal? If you're walking down the street, one should not look at women, but what you are saying is..."Theres no harm in it!" This goes against Allah SWT's laws!

There is harm in it when Shaytan is there trying to corrupt you! If one is in a work and needs to interact with the opposite gender, Its fine to talk but only when its necessary. Random rubbish talk is unacceptable. Simple as
 
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Please, please, this section is not for debate. The OP isn't asking whether having an eye contact is ok or not. He is seeking advice on how to avoid eye contact without giving a wrong impression to others.
 
I am lost, is it haram to look at another human being? When did having an eye contact with the opposite s3x become haraam? :blind:

I am new here.Salaam alakum.

I just want to reply to you.You need to avoid things that may lead to evil thats why we lower our gaze.If you look at her you may start to think bad thought etc.We are all human we are not angels its only human instinct to find the opposite sex attractive.You dont want that though coz this may lead to problems.For example say you are married to another woman you may start to like this woman nad have feelings for her and it may lead to worse things.So the best thing is to stay well clear of these troubles in the 1st place inshallah this will be better for you.



I want to go slightly of topic and say something about this.There is a muslim girl in my uni and I wanted to marry her until I realised she was not that strict muslim.Anyway I would always lower my gaze coz I wanted to keep it Islamic and not have bad thoughts about her just get to know her and see if she descent.Yeh so when I realised she was not soo good muslim I asked her how come you didnt flirt with me like you did with the other boys you liked and she answered COZ YOU LOWERED YOUR GAZE now see lowering your gaze protects you from evil.I know this story doesnt really seem to corelate but anyway Take care Salaam and if I have said anything wrong in this please correct me
 
Actually (without reading the whole thread) I think you can look at the person you are talking to. I read this somewhere (authentic) and will try and get daleel for it.

Also, since when does 'lower your gaze' mean avoid all eye contact? If we are to lower the gaze permanently, imagine someone came up to you and asked for the time, and while you were distracted they snatched your bag, stabbed you or something else, what would you say in court? Sorry, I can't identify them because I had to keep my gaze lowered?

Really it's common sense. When talking to a person, look at them now and then so they know you are listening to them. Just don't stare deeply into their eyes and hold your gaze.
 
Assalamu allikum

who are the people we have to interact with ?

1] family- men&women - you can interact freely physical &mental interaction with
without specific rules.
2]wife - she is all way more than family in interaction-
physical & mental interaction in every sense higher closeness
than interaction with family


3]strangers( women) -a] job,education & travelling & business.....
in these areas you have to interact with women.
so interaction include seeing face- you interact by looking
her face/ without looking her face till u complete ur good
purpose.
TWO OPTION HERE-
1] U INTERACT BY LOOKING HER - IF SHE DIDNT MAKE
ANY BAD THOUGHTS IN UR MIND

OR
2] IF SHE ENTICE YOU, U SHOULD FINISH WORK BY
KEEPING MIND AND EYE AWAY FROM HER


THIS IS MY ADVISE CONSIDERING VALUES OF ISLAM(THIS IS NOT 100% CORRECT)

KEEP IN MIND THAT ALL OPPOSITE SEX IS ATTRACTIVE TO OTHER SEX, SO ALLAH KNOW MUCH BETTER THAN ANYONE....., SO ALWAY INTERACT WITH STRANGE WOMEN
FOR COMPLETING ANY OFFICIAL PURPOSE/ PERSONAL HUMANITARIAN PURPOSE WITH GOOD MIND & PHYSICAL ACTION( EYE,TONGUE, .......)
 
Assalamou alaikoum,

Eye contact is haram in islam between man and women are not married and is better to not keep eyes on women and same for women to men,

Inshallah allah give us hidayat and touba,

Your sister in islam

Btissam
 
Assalamou alaikoum,

Eye contact is haram in islam between man and women are not married and is better to not keep eyes on women and same for women to men,

Inshallah allah give us hidayat and touba,

Your sister in islam

Btissam

Would people please stop saying eye-contact is haraam, when there is no hadith which says it is haraam and the Quran does not say it is haraam.

You can’t make something haraam which Allah and His Prophet(PBUH) didn’t make haraam.
 
Would people please stop saying eye-contact is haraam, when there is no hadith which says it is haraam and the Quran does not say it is haraam.

You can’t make something haraam which Allah and His Prophet(PBUH) didn’t make haraam.


Yes eye contact is haram and quran mention about it but i dont wanna make mistake because long time i didnt read the quran but i think its start by wa kol lilmouminine an yaghdodna min abssarihim please could someone say it right for us.ALLAH AALAM

Jazakoum allah khaiyran,

Your sister in islam
 
personally, i struggle with dat, cos i sometimes get stared at in random places. or buses by some dude right in front of me. or if a male peer asks me something study related in class....can i NOT look?, not sure.... but if someone talks to me, i always look at them in the eyes otherwise i feel rude :s
 
Asslamou alaikoum,

Dear sister i used to do same allah inshallah forgive us but now hamdollah i did touba , I advise you to wear black dark glasses and like that you will be safe inshallah and allah knows


Your sister in islam,

Btissam
 

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