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ANSWERS
a) “Sabr” is an Arabic word that comes from a root meaning to
detain,
refrain and
stop. Patience means to stop ourselves from despairing and panicking, to stop our tongues from complaining, and to stop our hands from striking at times of stress and grief. Patience means to keep close to Allah and to accept calmly the trails He sends. A scholar said: “
to have patience means that one’s common sense and religious motives r stronger than one’s whims and desires".
b) The most difficult type of patience is when u have a strong
motive to commit an action and also have the
ability/means to do so, but
STILL refrain from doing it. and the
stronger the motive and ability, the
harder it is to be patient. whereas if one has NO motive to kill, drink alcohol, or steal, and at the same time is NOT able to do it, will find abstaining from these things EASY.
Among the most difficult types of patience is patience in refraining from committing wrong actions of speech - such as backbiting and slander, telling lies to create trouble between ppl, and praising oneself explicitly or implicitly, and insulting people one does not like and praising those whom one does like - these are all 'entertaining' and 'enjoyable'. there is a strong motive to commit these wrong actions, and it is so easy to move one's tongue and speak, so the patience required to abstain from them is particularly difficult.
therefore the Prophet (SAW) told Mu'adh, "Control ur tongue". Mu'adh asked, "Are we accountable for what we say?" The Prophet (SAW) answered, "Is there anything other than the wrong actions of speech that cause ppl to be thrown in Hell on their faces ?"
Once wrong actions of speech have become a
habit, patience becomes even
MORE difficult. so u might see a man who stays up all night praying, fasts all day, and would refrain from touching the pillow if it were made of silk, yet he gives his tongue free rein in BACKBITING, SLANDERING and causing TROUBLE between people.
The tongue is deep inside, enclosed between our teeth, between our jaws, and between our cheeks. whereas the ears are on the surface. this signifies that we should TALK LESS, and LISTEN MORE.
especially in a TENSE environment if we cause even one wrong word to slip out of our mouth, it causes a whole chain of nasty reactions to take place
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Misuse of the tongue can KILL the peace, cause FITNAH beyond FITNAH, and has so many EVIL consequences. It destroys brotherhood and unity, which the Muslims so badly need. But the shaytaan has made this look like such a small sin, so that we commit it freely and easily.
ffended:
there's a saying in urdu which says "aik chub, hazaar shukh" - meaning "
one silence, thousands at peace"
so we should exercise patience in controlling our tongue, even if it means biting it :skeleton:
And even if we - *erm WAIT
m supposed to be giving the answers, not giving a lecture
sheesh sorry :embarrass
*back to the answering the question*
There is another
Hadith that 7 type of people will be shaded in the shade of Allah’s throne for their perfect patience :-
the patience of a absolute ruler who is JUST in all situations, regardless of his own feelings.
- the patience of a young man in worshipping/obeying Allah and suppressing is whims and desires.
- the patience of a man who stayed in the mosque
- the patience of a man who resists the temptation of a woman of beauty and status
- the patience of two men who part for the sake of Allah, in keeping their relationship for the sake of Allah
the patience of the man who gives sadaqah in keeping his sadaqah secret
- and the patience of one who weeps out of fear of Allah, in keeping that secret and not telling others about it.
All these are
amongst the MOST difficult types of patience.
Therefore, the punishment of an old man who commits adultery, a king who tells lies, and a poor man who is arrogant is more severe, because it is EASY for them to keep away from such actions, and does not require much in the way of Patience. Their attitude indicates that they are willfully REBELLING against Allah.
c) Imam Ahmad said: “Allah has mentioned patience in the Quran in
ninety places.
~And Allah Knows Best ~
May Allah give us all the Tawfeeq to exercise patience and be grateful.
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(from the book “
Uddat as –sabirin wa dhakhirat ash-shakirin” by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah)
