Family Hates Islam & Muslims

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Fishman said:
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Just make dua and drink a big glass of water before bed. Or even skip out the water. If you put your trust in Him Insha'Allaah Allah (swt) will wake you up. I've never used an alarm clock for fajr, and I've only missed it twice.
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That could work.
Although, I do sleep like the dead, so perhaps it wouldnt.
 
Thanaa said:
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Well, Im not sure there are any Muslims in the area.
Ive lived here since Oct last year, and Ive seen 3-4 Muslim families, tops.
There are is very popular all year round for tourists, so I have no idea whether these people are locals or anything. :cry:
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Oh, I see ... it sounded like you knew of local Muslimahs ...

That makes it a whole lot trickier! :(

You see, it is difficult for me to give you advice, because as a Christian woman I can empathise with your parents' view.
If my children chose the path of Islam, I would equally feel that they are making a mistake, and I would certainly worry for them! :uuh:

Nonetheless, you have the free choice to choose your faith (and that free choice is from God himself!) - regardless of whether your parents, teachers, neighbours, other Christians (me included :giggling: ) think you are making a mistake!

I saddens me to see young people like yourself having to struggle with their spiritual paths. :cry:

May you walk in God's peace, sister :)
 
Thanaa said:
I just wanted to ask what advice people could give me concerning my family...
I live in North Wales, and so I havent been able to find anyone to help me learn to perform Wudu, or to pray.
The really big problem that I have though, is my family.
They really dont like Islam, or Muslims.
The last time they discussed the subject of Islam (you know, how were all terrorists), their opinion was that all Muslims should have to travel on segregated aeroplanes, etc. so that they can only blow each other up.
They know Im interested in Islam, but refuse to be civil about it.
My mum even told me a few weeks ago, that If I ever came home in a Hijab (ie. became a 'proper' muslimah), she'd throw me out.
I intend to revert fully, whatever my parents think, because this is the best faith for me.
How can I not at least try to follow it?
I dont know what to do.
My family are not going to change their minds...
I need some advice then :) Has anyone else been through a similar experience?
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Hi Thanaa

I had some more thoughts that I would like to share with you and all other converts who are struggling with resentment and rejection from their families.

You may find this strange, but I am in a similar situation to you.
There is also somebody in my life who trys to keep me from following my faith!
(Not my parents, as is the case with many of you, but nonetheless somebody who I love very much and who plays an important part in my life.)

I want to give you this piece of advice:
Remember that your parents don't try to stop you from being Muslims, because they hate you or want to prevent you from being happy.
On the contrary - they are doing it because they love you, because they want what's best for you, and because they don't want to see you hurt!

Perhaps you should think about your parents in this way (or perhaps even say this to them):
"Thank you for loving me and caring for me so much that you want to shield me from what you perceive to be harmful to me.
But please give me the freedom to choose my own path.
My faith will not come between you and me. On the contrary, my faith instructs and encourages me to love and respect you all the more!"

I hope this helps ... I know it helps me when things get tough.

Peace :)
 
I do try to think of my family like that, but it can be diffucult, lol! :D
 
:sl: sister

if you talk to a muslim family, they will not think it rude but a great honour to help you.

and follow your heart sister Allah will never desert you. take the steps slowly though, if you DO want to wear hijab and make your faith known and you risk seriously being thrown out, contact the nearest masjid you know and they should help you. but if you want, keep it a secret till you are fully ready to leave home.
they may, accept it gradually, but you do not want to risk being on the streets etc. so contact fellow muslims in the closest area near you
 
the fact that families turn against you and make things difficult isn't new...
this is what every age has seen right from the beginnings of Islam when the first muslims in Makkah were thrown out and boycotted just because they believed in Allah and His Messenger...

they all went through the same hardships and tortures and heart breaks, but their lives and deeds are preserved and we can read about them and relate to them whenever we are in tough situations insha allah.

their life stories give us courage and strength to keep our heads up and stay strong in our deen as best we can insha allah
 
Thanaa said:
so long as "..he doesnt face east."
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Nice and easy then - move to Pakistan! :)

In all honesty, they have no worries - unless you are a Pakistani's first cousin, you're unlikely to be considered anyway.

There is some excellent advice above and I won't add to it now. But I would highlight this bit. Let your parents see that you are happy. Every mum and dad wants their kid to be happy. And Islam will make you happy.

Annoyingly enough, many Muslims will NOT make you happy. If your parents wish to engage you on the subject, don't fight them is great advice - but point out to them how since learning about Islam, how upset you are with the way that many many procaiming to be Muslim are practising it. In other words don't negate your parents' concerns and clash, show a little wisdom, sidle alongside their opinions without negating the truth. Let them see you're not a sheep.

Following the religion to the best of your ability is the same as following the religion completely and utterly - this is recognised by God. Each and every action you take for yourself is rewarded, no matter how small.

For me, the real 'proofs' were in the concept of fitrah (that little voice or moral compass in your heart that says yay cool or wooah bad), the feelgood factor you get immediately after prayer and another feelgood you get from picking up a piece of litter, broken glass etc with no-one seeing or knowing except you and God. Try it - you will get hooked!

Fasting in Ramadan - every time the hand goes to the mouth or the mind wanders to food etc and you manage to control it - you will get one hell of a rush, I can assure you! Such a feeling of achievement and knowing that God is smiling on you.

Let your folks see how good it is for you but do not show them...

Anyway - I'm out of here - I'm meant to be retired.
 

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