Fasting to suppress nafs - but parents.....

[AnonymousPoster]

I wanted to start fasting to keep my nafs under check, but I am afraid what my parents will say. Like...they'll say "Why are you fasting for?" I come from a family where marriage and those kinds of issues are basically never ever mentioned. If someone does mention stuff like this - I'd hate to think of the chaos and pandemonium that would happen.
I know wanting to marry is only natural, but some cultures raging: ) consider it disrespectful to say anything about marriage and similar issues.
I was wondering what I could say to my parents? Should I keep the fasting a secret?

Jazakallah.

 

[Dawud_uk]

assalaamu alaykum,

tell them you are fasting for the sake of Allah, knowing it will bring you closer to your creator.

aint lying is it?

then later on you can try to find ways of bringing marriage up as a subject casually in the conversation.

assalaamu alaykum,
Daw'ud

 

[Muslim Soldier]

tell them the truth. Fasting to control the nafs. They will understand. Inshallah.

 

[DigitalStorm82]

fast monday and thursdays...

its sunnah as well..

 

[Quruxbadaan]

I wanted to start fasting to keep my nafs under check, but I am afraid what my parents will say. Like...they'll say "Why are you fasting for?" I come from a family where marriage and those kinds of issues are basically never ever mentioned. If someone does mention stuff like this - I'd hate to think of the chaos and pandemonium that would happen.
I know wanting to marry is only natural, but some cultures raging: ) consider it disrespectful to say anything about marriage and similar issues.
I was wondering what I could say to my parents? Should I keep the fasting a secret?

Jazakallah.

Asalaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi

I know what you mean about the uncomfortable situation when trying to discuss marriage with family

but for me what works is gradually implying things regarding marriage

like hey mother did you know that so and so got married today

masha allah they are soo young but they did it to avoid sinning

isint that great???
and just test the watters see what they say when you make small implications

May allah make this easy on you Ameen

Maa salaama

 

[lyesh]

Tell them the truth. And tell them that you are doing this for Allah. And that you should obey Him before obeying them. Obey Allah first... Then u'll succeed!

 

[~Stranger~]

tell them its for the sake of Allah.... whats the big deal?!

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

I wanted to start fasting to keep my nafs under check, but I am afraid what my parents will say. Like...they'll say "Why are you fasting for?" I come from a family where marriage and those kinds of issues are basically never ever mentioned. If someone does mention stuff like this - I'd hate to think of the chaos and pandemonium that would happen.
I know wanting to marry is only natural, but some cultures raging: ) consider it disrespectful to say anything about marriage and similar issues.
I was wondering what I could say to my parents? Should I keep the fasting a secret?

Jazakallah.

why do you have to tell your parents for. unless you all eat together, then they would notie that your not there. thats unterstandable

 

[ymijunooni]

I don't know how old are you, if you are old enough just talk to them about it.