That's a powerful statement. Thanks for sharing, ardianto.
As a mother I must say that I would only feel like half a person without my children's father and that I cannot begin to imagine raising them without him.
(I say that fully aware that many people have to raise their children single-handedly because life life situations. I might deepest respect goes out to all who do - included you, brother)>
And since my children would not be here without their father's involvement (beginning from conception to this present day), we try to teach our children that they should respect both parents in equal measures.
Of course children must honor their parents equally like taught by my Islamic teacher, not honor one more than another. The wisdom behind that message is to remind the men about sacrifice of mother in pregnant, give birth, and raising the children. So, the men should respect the women.
Frankly, when I wrote the post I just got home from picking my oldest son who followed his activities with his friends. I went to pick up with my youngest son. Yes, I felt something missing, the presence of their mother. Suddenly I remember the time when my children were in their mother womb, when they were born, when they grew up, until they lost their mother.
This is the inspiration behind that post.
I myself lost my father when I was 20. He was civilian engineer who worked for government. Financially success. His job made him busy, but he still tried to give enough time for family.
My father bought me many books since before I could read, and he read for me that finally motivate me to love reading. Although my family was wealthy family, my father taught me to always respect people without differentiate the rich and the poor. He ever scolded me when he saw me being disrespectful to the maid and to a pedicab driver.
But the most important lesson that I got from him is spirit to not give up. Since I was kid when he saw me gave up in doing something, he told me "Son, when you were baby, you could not walk. But then you learn how to walk, and finally you can walk like now. So, learn to do, and try again".
This is the message that I never forget. This is why I never give up in facing the problems in my life.
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