feel ugly

AnonymousGender said:
Im 26 , the thing is i have worn a baeball cap, since i was 16,

so there are many people in my life , family, friends, even my own mum who even get to see my hair, now my forehead is so white. i have a cap line indented i to my forehead, i dislike my head shape, i have a sqaure forehead, and my hair grows down the middle of my head.


So the problem is my hair, i just wana look normal, and wish i never put that cap on ever, thats why im always staring at other guys hair styles and that and feel envy toward them, its just if i ever get my hat off, people will i know look at me weird, i dont want a fancy hairtyle, just to look normal, whatever that is. To be accepted by society i guess.

When i accidently get my cap off, and my nieces are there, i know their only kids, but they say things like you got ugly hair, but those words do hurt me.

so you see it is this fear inside of me, feeling rejected, but it come to the point now where i will always have to cover my hair, now i wear a topi any way , so this does not bother me,

its just things like , attending weddings , interviews, may be seeing a bride, that freak me out , mums always on my back to make a passport, but i dont wanna take my pics.


Brothers and sisters you are welcome to have a go at me, i deserve it for being so silly.

I made this thread because , i know feelings of jealousy, being ungrateul to Allah swt , are all wrong, and i wana be a grateful servant.

so its just like 5% of my body that causes me worry, people always say i have a good body, which i dislike,

Thank you again everyone for your replies,i wil re read all of them again, and change my attitude inshallah
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Define 'normal' ? Seriously I don't think there is such a thing with human beings, we're all so very different in terms of caste/culture/religion and physical looks. One persons beautiful could be another persons ugly. Me for example, I know it's ignorant of me, but I find dark hair attractive (black) and not blonde, brown or anything else. It's simply a matter of taste. Believe it !

I think what's going on here is that you're using certain individuals as a benchmark for what 'good-looking' is. This is wrong and not only are you hurting yourself, but you may very well be hurting the people important to you as well. Personally I would be VERY hurt if my sister felt she was ugly becuase she was simply hanging around the wrong crowd. See where I'm coming from ?

Square forehead ? Hmm, again it's a matter of perspective. I could probably think of a few celebrity women that have such a feature and are considered beautiful..

There are so many things you could (I don't know myself) do with your hair as well as the rest of your body/looks. Exercise, Facials, Wearing Nice clothes (not revealing!) etc. I hear doing these kinds of things gives a huge boost to confidence. I myself go for jogs weekly and weight train every second/third day. It does a lot for my own confidence.

Trust me there are so many things you could do! Please don't be disheartened, you remind of my self three years ago :cry:

Cheer up !
 
talk about the topic of Feel ugly and get ugly?....have u seen the show "Betty la fia" or ugly betty? she look ugly and later she look gorgeous...because of what she is kind and helpful...and later she transform herself into a beauty Queen...and anyone don't recognize her...is the matter how you feel..but people dont think at all...u have lotsa doubt about yourself...eventhough i am not that handsome or superb handsome like Prophet Yusuf(joseph)....but only i think i am handsome..and i can show my beauty and talents..so people think i am handsome..anyone likes me...and show our good deeds is better it make us beautiful and handsome....nobody's perfect..appreciate ourselves.....hope u can make the change.:scared:
 
Im 26 , the thing is i have worn a baeball cap, since i was 16,

so there are many people in my life , family, friends, even my own mum who even get to see my hair, now my forehead is so white. i have a cap line indented i to my forehead, i dislike my head shape, i have a sqaure forehead, and my hair grows down the middle of my head.


So the problem is my hair, i just wana look normal, and wish i never put that cap on ever, thats why im always staring at other guys hair styles and that and feel envy toward them, its just if i ever get my hat off, people will i know look at me weird, i dont want a fancy hairtyle, just to look normal, whatever that is. To be accepted by society i guess.

When i accidently get my cap off, and my nieces are there, i know their only kids, but they say things like you got ugly hair, but those words do hurt me.

so you see it is this fear inside of me, feeling rejected, but it come to the point now where i will always have to cover my hair, now i wear a topi any way , so this does not bother me,

its just things like , attending weddings , interviews, may be seeing a bride, that freak me out , mums always on my back to make a passport, but i dont wanna take my pics.


Brothers and sisters you are welcome to have a go at me, i deserve it for being so silly.

I made this thread because , i know feelings of jealousy, being ungrateul to Allah swt , are all wrong, and i wana be a grateful servant.

so its just like 5% of my body that causes me worry, people always say i have a good body, which i dislike,

Thank you again everyone for your replies,i wil re read all of them again, and change my attitude inshallah




Answer:

there a lotsa product you can make use of it....like hair tonic,hair conditioner and etc....face cream,cleanser and toner,scrub and etc...to enhance your beauty and take some food supplement for beauty.....you are not alone,search for some expertise... and dermatologist...u able to fine your answer.:D
 
salam i feel like that sometimes i think it s naturally every 1 has something they r not happy with but we must thank allah for what we got after all he did creat us,inshallah u feel better soon
 
i suppose everyone has low self esteem sometimes. this doesnt mean that you are ugly or that you are not good enough. instead of looking at how others are more prettier than you (because there are always models and celebrities that somehow always look perfect), you should admire your own good qualities. everyone has good qualities:) and also dont worry about societys perception of beauty, it is very narrow anyways. i am sure you will find a spouse that will love you for who you are, and not just for your looks because i have heard of husbands that cheat on their wives and these women are really pretty but they are unsatisfied with them still somehow. you will find the perfect someone for you someday i am sure:)
 
i read ur title and the first thought that came to mind was well who doesn't, i'm sure the thought comes 2 mind at a point in sum1's life. It's a shame that these days being pretty is seen as a big deal,whereas i think in the past a person's reputation and 'goodness' was what made a person special. Basically don't stress about it, i'm sure ur just beng paranoid and are a beautiful person :)
 
truemuslim said:
aw sis ur not ugly, every girl feels ugly , but thats coz she beautiful...nd the ones that see themselves beautiful (on the outside) are them show offy lifeless ones..

Girls are like apples on trees.
The best ones are at the top of the
tree. The boys don't want to reach
for the good ones because they are
afraid of falling and getting hurt.
Instead, they just get the rotten
apples from the ground that aren't
as good, but easy.So the apples at the
top think something is wrong with
them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right
boy to come along, the one who's brave
enough to climb all the way to the top
of the tree. :)
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^^^^
Lol! i love the way you put it.. its so true!


But you shouldnt feel like that sis, no matter how pretty girls are they have the same problems as everyone else at the end of the day. Sometimes they have bigger issues and we dont see it because they hide it. Its hard for me to explain but hopefully you get what im tryna say:) & inshallah im sure you will find someone who thinks your Beautiful on the inside and out:)
 
No one is ugly:)
If you're inside is pretty, everything else is prettier< note not ugly:)
Tc
:w:
 
Look around! Is there any false with everything that Allah swt created.You are created by Allah swt , too.Then you just exegarate things.And beware this must be a test for you.May Allah swt help you.
 
'Abd al-Rahman said:
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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Agreed. And you need to be the beholder at times, lady.

I don't understand the root of your problem. I don't think one can ever look at themselves in the mirror and say, "ough, that's one ugly face"... Feelings of ugliness, IMO, root from low self esteem and self-belief. Now I wonder what happened to you to make you have such low self esteem.
 
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AnonymousGender said:
ten months on, and i still feel this way
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this is probably going to sound really far fetched, but sometimes little insignificant things like this that we hadn't noticed before tend to creep up on us when we have to much time on our hands...so maybe you should get out and smell the roses, so to speak...
 
I've seen ugly people who are loved and cherished by others and described as 'beautiful'. You know why? Because they have beautiful hearts and minds and care for others. Physical looks will fade, no doubt. Find an older person and ask them to show a picture of themselves from their youth. You will be shocked. They will look like totally different people. And then you realise that yes, real beauty is what is inside and unlike looks, it doesn't fade with time, only grows. That's the kind of beauty we all should try to achieve. That's the only one that matters. If you are kind, caring and sensitive to other people, you are beautiful! :)
 
AnonymousGender said:
ten months on, and i still feel this way
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as sis Ruler said it could be your low self esteem
Do people tell u youre ugly or make you feel ugly by their actions???

what is it about yourself that you dont like? make a list and inshaAllah there could be ways u could maybe improve it?
 
salamu 'alaykum sister,
Why don't you answer this question:
What is it about you that you find so ugly?
It could also be due to age. I know as teenagers for example, people are so occupied
with their "looks". Once you become an adult you learn to see yourself as good looking.
 
To the sister/brother who orginally made this thread, im considered ugly but alhumdulilah i try to be as nice and kind to people as possible for the sake of Allah and alhumdulilah i get alot of respect from people and i have alot of good brothers i know alhumdulilah. Its not all about looks sister/brother trust me on this, i used to think like you but like you gotta realise this body we have its just a temporary body to get us through this test, so treat it like that.

What i mean is like this body of ours will return to the earth where it came from, theres not enough time to waste to think about our looks etc, be in the dunya as a traveler! a stranger! as Prophet Muhammad salalahualayhiwasalam said.

Always remember Allah created us and that he has a plan for us a reason why he created us which is to worship him Alone thats our purpose of existence!
 
AnonymousGender said:
To the sister/brother who orginally made this thread, im considered ugly but alhumdulilah i try to be as nice and kind to people as possible for the sake of Allah and alhumdulilah i get alot of respect from people and i have alot of good brothers i know alhumdulilah. Its not all about looks sister/brother trust me on this, i used to think like you but like you gotta realise this body we have its just a temporary body to get us through this test, so treat it like that.

What i mean is like this body of ours will return to the earth where it came from, theres not enough time to waste to think about our looks etc, be in the dunya as a traveler! a stranger! as Prophet Muhammad salalahualayhiwasalam said.

Always remember Allah created us and that he has a plan for us a reason why he created us which is to worship him Alone thats our purpose of existence!
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You know maybe you will hate me for saying this :), but I think it was good that you felt ugly.....Look at all the wisdom you have come to realize.
And you know for every pain we feel Allah forgives some of our sins, and if in addition we are also patient then He will add good deeds to our account. Both of these help one get a higher chance to go to Jannah.
Blessed be Allah for giving you this life.
 
AnonymousGender said:
To the sister/brother who orginally made this thread, im considered ugly but alhumdulilah i try to be as nice and kind to people as possible for the sake of Allah and alhumdulilah i get alot of respect from people and i have alot of good brothers i know alhumdulilah. Its not all about looks sister/brother trust me on this, i used to think like you but like you gotta realise this body we have its just a temporary body to get us through this test, so treat it like that.

What i mean is like this body of ours will return to the earth where it came from, theres not enough time to waste to think about our looks etc, be in the dunya as a traveler! a stranger! as Prophet Muhammad salalahualayhiwasalam said.

Always remember Allah created us and that he has a plan for us a reason why he created us which is to worship him Alone thats our purpose of existence!
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MashaAllah!! You are not ugly. You're a rough diamond to be polished in the here-after inshaAllah.
 
Scents of Jannah said:
MashaAllah!! You are not ugly. You're a rough diamond to be polished in the here-after inshaAllah.
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A rough diamond is precious, but not particularly attractive.

anonymous said:
What i mean is like this body of ours will return to the earth where it came from, theres not enough time to waste to think about our looks etc, be in the dunya as a traveler! a stranger! as Prophet Muhammad salalahualayhiwasalam said.
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Actually, isn't it a hadith that Allah is beautiful and He loves beauty? So wouldn't that make beautifying ourselves a duty? Your body is important. How you present yourself is important. You're not just walking down the street as a woman, you're walking down the street as a muslim woman.
 
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