feeling really frustrated

[zakirs]

Sis how about doing an istikhara prayer.?

details can be found here

http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-...ing-allaah-subhaanahu-wa-taaala-guidance.html

 

[Sari]

This person sounds like very bad news, how could you ever have a good marriage with him. He doesn't trust you at all. Please do not get further involved with him, these kind of people often get angry and violent too, i'm not saying he will, but these are signs.

 

[Sampharo]

I was brought up being taught that the primary difference is over who should lead. The basics are still pretty much the same..although there are minor differences.

Al-Hamdolellah that this is all. Perhaps your family is Zaidi. You should however search for the truth yourself, because Shia beliefs are deeper than that and can scar your whole position as a muslim.

As for the guy, I think you can see overwhelming support for the idea of leaving him here. Good luck with that.

Salam

 

[anonymous]

believer83- i believe you are sincere and honestly seeking to be a good muslim so the below is not direct at you specifically, rather its something you need to know for your own safety....

A person can call them selves shia of sunni, but the key issue is your Aqeeda- belief.

You can be a sunni but still be a mushrik by believe that the prophet (pbuh) is created from light of light of Allah- which is a statement of shirk.

Or believe that the Awliya of Allah (swt) know everything that happens in the heavens and the earth, or have knowledge of the unseen and this is kufr.

So being sunni doesnt mean you are rightly guided or that your even muslim.

Like wise, i believe the Imams of the shia are kuffar- but the follows or general laymen can be muslim or kafir depending upon thier beleif.

One common belief that some shia have is that the Decree of Allah (swt) about everything that will happen on the earth decends in the house of Ali (ra) or upon his family, and if they/ he (ra) decide it should happen then it does otherwise it doesnt.

This is major shirk in the tauheed of Allah (swt)

The Imami Shia do not believe in or accept authentic texts such as Sahih Al-Bukhari, Sahih Muslim, Sunan Abu Dawood or others.

And go further than that to curse, insult and even call the closest friends and companions of the prophet (pbuh) Abu Bakr and Umar khattab (ra) mushirk and hypocrites etc.

And they accuse Aisha of committing zina after Allah (swt) purified her of such accusations. So indirectly they are doing what Iblis did which is to imply that Allah (swt) is wrong and they are right.

So there is a lot of evil stuff in the shia doctrine, all comes down to what you believe.

Allah Knows Best

Brother Abu Musaab is right,

Aside from the plain obvious that this brother seems to be paranoid and deceitful and no good for any girl, and that he may be Sunni yet carrying around beliefs and behaviours that scar his faith and status as a muslim, aside from all that you being a Shia is not just a small issue that shouldn't be dealt with, and Mutaa marriage is nothing compared to other great failures Shia Imamiya carry in their doctrine that practically nullifies faith.

If you are a reasonable person you need to open your mind to the fact that God's religion cannot have mistakes, and therefore when you yourself feel with your natural instinct that something such as Mutaa marriage is wrong and sinful yet the Shia clerics are encouraging it and pushing it and constantly come up with different stories as to why it should remain, that should tell you at the very least there is something not right.

However, in relation to your own question, I still think that as a person this man is not a trustworthy person to start with and you should seek a marriage partner elsewhere, and if you're seeking God truthfully, you should insha Allah find him. There is a supplication I believe: "God show me the truth as truth and provide me with the ability to follow it, and show me falsehood as falsehood and provide me its avoidance" You can also say "God grant me your true guidance and leave me not to people's misguidance."

Wassalamu Alaikom

I am not shia.

But, this guy is obviously no good for you sis. He has trust issues, and these will remain after you marry him. So its best you should end this and stop every communication with him. Unless he si willing to change, for real. HE is willing to change for good, not just temp.