assalamu aliqum my dear sister " amat Allah "
I am waiting for you reply regarding my this Query which one I already posted you :
[ I would like to share you one more problem . that is , I am suffering from OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION along with HOMOSEXUAL PROBLEM . Because of this reason I go to psychiatrist I need to use some medication . According to me; all my problems are related with my homosexuality but my psychiatrist are not agree . They are telling me that homosexuality is not a problem neither Sin nor Unnatural . I should be accept it . I never accept it . because of this reason I use to fight with my psychiatrist ( not physically ) . and they increase my dosage . And those medicines are take me some other world I start feeling happy .I feel lust only . My psychiatrists are giving me counseling for enjoy my life . they always telling me who seen the life after death . and many thing they suggest me to go Gay organization . they introduced me gay dating sites . and many gay organization . ETC...
I have stop meeting psychiatrist and taking medicine too since one and half month . Because I don't want to use those medicine which increases lust only and provide me false happiness . But at the same time those medicines help me about my " OCD and ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION " .
I am scaring now because I may feel OCD, ANTICIPATORY ANXIETY AND MOOD DISTRACTION again, Since one and half month I am not taking medicine , It may come back at any time . I don't want to meet any non true Muslim psychiatrist neither non Muslim psychiatrist . What to do ? ]
Asalaamu Alaikum, I think you should urgently seek out a Muslim physician, psychologist and counsellor rather than non Muslim who will only give you advice contrary to the truth. They will only tell you things from their own perspective as non Muslims. Therefore you must seek out Muslim practisioners and with a little research you should be able to find one inshallah. Here is one in Delhi which i have found:
http://jmi.nic.in/Fsoc/mhusain_ps.htm
second thing :- I have thrown out all toxin such as weed from my house yesterday. I have been not drinking alcohol nor even using any other toxin since one and half months . I am not having sex since one month.
Good for these are major sins and if you were to die whilst intoxicated then you would die without imaan for intoxiation and imaan cannot stay in the body together. Intoxication will only make your mental condition worse as well as making you more lustful and closer to shaythan. Therefore you must eradicate these evils from your life not for the meanwhile but FOREVER!
But I masturbated yesterday by watching a gay porn movie . Today I have deleted all porn movie from my system.
You must rid your life of pron for this is a disease which will only ever make your lust worse. Think whenever you arw about to watch porn that "Allah is watching me right now so why should i not have shame in front of my lord". Please read through this thread for tips on how to stop Masterbation:
How to overcome Masterbation
http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-support/134303736-how-overcome-masterbation.html
I have many profiles in the many gay dating sites . But I don't have dare to log on those sites for deleting my profiles. I am thinking if I log on those sites for deleting my profile I may involve on it rather then delete my profile.
You do not have to delete them or ever log into them again. Do not even think about them again. Change your E mail address/es and delete your current ones. Make a fresh start to your life now and leave your past behind you learning lessons from your mistakes so that you can do things better now and the future.
I don't have any straight friends . I have only Gay friends whereas I stop meeting them since one month.
The first thing a person should do when they want to change is give up ones bad friends. Even though they may not be bad people in their hearts but what they are doing is bad and as long as you keep them as company then their bad influence will continue to rub off on you. Therefore you must change your number immediatley and ONLY give your number to those people whom you know will ONLY be a good influence on you.
When you change your number then Do NOT give your number to any gay person because this will not help you but you will only get back into old habits. The sameway a drug user who is wanting to give up drugs does not hang around with a fellow drug user otherwise they may slip back into bad habits.
Try to find good company. If not then best to be alone than to have such company that will lead you towards destruction. When the time is right you will find good company inshallah but for the meanwhile change your number immediatley.
But I got few knowledge regarding homosexuality and Islam . those are :
1) some one says Islam never prohibited Homosexuality, Islam prohibited few actions of homosexuality same as heterosexuality .
Islam has limitation on heterosexuality such as " not having sex without spouse , ultimate time of pregnancy , not in public place , no group sex etc .
similarly Islam has some limitation on Homosexuality .
A). some one saying ; Islam prohibited only sodomy (means anal intercross) not homosexuality . [ I personally knows may gays who don't like sodomy, they just do oral and foreplay ].
B) some other saying ; Islam allow homosexuality until they don't do anal intercross and not Oral sex on sexual organ such as penis and anal . rest of the activity between two guys Islam allows .
[ I personally know many gays they dont do hard core sex ].
C).some other saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys dont remove their cloths from navel to knee rest of the activity is allow [ here again I mentioned that I know such gays who don't like to remove their lower parts of cloth ].
D). some one saying ; Islam allow homo sex if two guys don't remove their cloths from navel to knee and don't smooch ( means not deep France kiss, not deep mouth to mouth kiss) only body play kissing , hugging , sleeping together are allow in Islam . [ Again I m saying I know this type of gays also ].
Now question is above mentioned are truths? If Its truths then how much is truths ? If not truths then how much is not truths?
Those indulging in evils such as homosexuality and other evils will obviously try to find loop holes and try to twist and change Islamic teachings to justify their evil actions.
I used to know a weed smoker who once said: " The Qur'an does not forbid weed, so its ok". The sameway those indulging in homosexuality will try to find a way in which they can still indulge in their lustful desires and they would even go as far as to say that as long as they do not do "this or that" then it is ok. There will always be people like this but they must be rejected and disregarded and they must be taught the truth. If they only want to believe their own "truth" then they will have to answer to Allah for twisiting and changing his laws to suit their own desires for which they will have to pay a heavy price for.
There is NO place in Islam for any relations or contact with a women outside marriage unlesss out of necessity. There is also NO place in Islam for any kind of homosexual contact or relations. This includes everything you have mentioned and any other contact between two members of the opposite sex who are attracted to each other. The ONLY solution is to AVOID such men and ONLY talk to them out of necessity.
Anyone who says otherwise is clearly trying to change Allah's laws to suit their own desires and these are the people who will suffer a terrible punishment unless they change their ways.
Again I got some information that, Islam is not correct regarding HOMO SEX rest of the thing is correct in ISLAM . because scientifically PROVED that HOMO SEX is absolutely normal and general , few human beings are born as a homo, few are born as EUNUCH , few are born as a Bisexual, many are born as a straight . majority people are straights that's the reason majority people think all are not correct except straights. Its true or false ? and How much its true or false ? What the scientist are telling regarding Homo sex ? Is their any scientific prove ? Or scientist are also confuse ? Please educate me about this issue ...
Thank you a lot of your patience .
Again those indulging in such vile practices will say anything to try and justify their evil. There has been a lot of scientific research done in order to establish whether a human is born with "Homosexual genes" or not and NO scientific test has proven that ANYONE is born with these genes. Therefore scientists conclude that homosexuality is not something a person is born with and it is certainly not genetic. So Science also disaproves what these people are saying.
A lot of the times homosexuality is a learnt behaviour and may have been acquired throughout ones early years and because of a lot of other external matters. You case is clear that what you went through in your early years may well have been what caused you to develop such feelings.
Some cases may also be a test just like women are a test for straight men then men may also be a test for gay men. Our test is that we do not act on our desires but rather we resist them for the pleasure of Allah and do not listen to the evil whispers of our eternal sworn enemy shaythan.
Eunachs were also around in the time of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) and were protectors of his blessed grave and were given a lot of high positions and honour in those days. Nowadays they are known a lot more for prostitution and dancing/singing etc. These people may also be tested as so many of us are tested in many different ways in our lives. You cannot ever think or say that you are being tested the most because you do not know what another person may be going through in life. Therefore you should be grateful for what you have. You should also thank Allah for he is wanting you to ebcome closer to him and of his obedient slaves.
You have got it in you to become a pious servant of his and the only one stopping you now is yourself. So strive and fight everyday to become closer to Allah and do EVERYTHING in your daily life to please Allah and refrain from anything which angers or displeases him.
Please check my last post in this thread for the tips i gave you to help you overcome this issue as well as many links which will help you to increase your good deeds and worship of Allah.
If you have anything else you want to share or ask then please do not hesitate to ask.
And Allah knows best in all matters
