Friendship/Bf Problems

[aminahjaan]

I am or actually was in the same situation, my best friend has a boyfriend and it's really weird. I hate seeing her with him, WHILE in hijab. So you know what I'm doing? I am running, running as far away as I can from her. My friend always said "Boo hoo, my life sucks, my parents are this, my life is like that, the whole world is against me, boo hoo." It's code for "I'm weak, and insecure, and I want attention sooo badlyyyyyyyy." She's crazy, let her be crazy. If she feels bad but doesn't wanna stop the relationship? Guess what: It means she actually doesn't feel bad and will continue the relationship because she is taking HIM over Islam, and of course, her "friends" which would be you. Please stop seeing her, she's not classy enough to be around you.

 

[anonymous]

(Original Poster)
Asalamualaikum

Jazakum Allahkhairan for all your advice. Thank you all so much for your replies.
It really has helped me. I'm really sorry about replying late, I haven't seen my 'friend' for three weeks, I've had exams, and so I wasn't in touch. She texted asking me to forgive her (for her lying etc.) and stuff, but I didn't text back.

Her parents know, but can't stop her. So thats just really upsetting to see!

I think I'm just going to stay away from her. She wants to continue the relationship. I don't want to have to do anything with it or her, best stay on the straight path, right? She knows I don't like the fact that she's got a bf, but she's still with him.

I was going to talk with her, but now I'm thinking maybe not.. What's the point? Shes not going to stop.. Do you think Im making the right decision? Or should I meet up with her, and see what she has to say when I tell her its haram, and I want her to stay on the right path, and this isn't going to help her?

Wasalam

 

[Ğħαrєєвαħ]

''piyar, mohabbat aur dosti, ye aisay rhishtay hain jinhain dunya ki koi taqat bhula dainay par majboor nai kar sakti siwai aik cheiz k aur wo hai...
''abbay di jutti'' !

aaahahahaa! lol
i hope no one understands it.

Hail to ''abba's jutti''! When nothing else works, this would surely set people on the right track! lol

Peace

lol ha you geeky joker lol

But trust some parents arent able to deal with such situations soo good man, this can make an invidividual worser like become more rebellious n aggresive towards there parents, the parents should be understanding, as we are all Humans and we have ALL been through such a time in our dear lives! So theres a way to speak, as some parents are un-aware or dont have no Islamic Principles they become aggresive towards the child and beat em , i dont believe all children learn that way so yeah but then just my opinion and all feel free to disagree but its still my Onion

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

(Original Poster)
Asalamualaikum

Jazakum Allahkhairan for all your advice. Thank you all so much for your replies.
It really has helped me. I'm really sorry about replying late, I haven't seen my 'friend' for three weeks, I've had exams, and so I wasn't in touch. She texted asking me to forgive her (for her lying etc.) and stuff, but I didn't text back.

Her parents know, but can't stop her. So thats just really upsetting to see!

I think I'm just going to stay away from her. She wants to continue the relationship. I don't want to have to do anything with it or her, best stay on the straight path, right? She knows I don't like the fact that she's got a bf, but she's still with him.

I was going to talk with her, but now I'm thinking maybe not.. What's the point? Shes not going to stop.. Do you think Im making the right decision? Or should I meet up with her, and see what she has to say when I tell her its haram, and I want her to stay on the right path, and this isn't going to help her?

Wasalam

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, my sister you should continue to show your disaproval of what she is doing and that means not being the same with her like you were when you were her friend. You should now and again using wisdom and tact continue to tell her how wrong her actions are and try to instill the fear of Allah in her heart. You should also make her aware the reason why you are wanting to keep away from her and that you do not wish to associate yourself with those who do haraam.

She does not have any shame that even her parents know and she still continues to be with him. She will get very hurt one day and you should make her realise that there is no blessings in what she is doing and that she will get very hurt then who will she turn to? Remind her is she not ashamed to be having a haraam relationship knowing that Allah, her parents and friends are angry at her?

You are doing the right thing sister because she cannot get support for what she is doing for is she wants to continue with her relationship then she must do it alone and also pay the consequances alone because she can't expect everyone else to pick up the pieces when things go wrong which they will do.

Continue to give her dawah every so often and make much dua for Allah that Allah makes her realise that she must get out of this haraam relationship immediatley. Whatever happens guidance is in the hand of Allah and only she can get herself out of this so make the best of your own life and get as close to Allah as you can and make dua for ehr and give her dawah now and again for that is all you can do.

and Allah knows best on all matters

 

[Ğħαrєєвαħ]

(Original Poster)
Asalamualaikum

Jazakum Allahkhairan for all your advice. Thank you all so much for your replies.
It really has helped me. I'm really sorry about replying late, I haven't seen my 'friend' for three weeks, I've had exams, and so I wasn't in touch. She texted asking me to forgive her (for her lying etc.) and stuff, but I didn't text back.

Her parents know, but can't stop her. So thats just really upsetting to see!

I think I'm just going to stay away from her. She wants to continue the relationship. I don't want to have to do anything with it or her, best stay on the straight path, right? She knows I don't like the fact that she's got a bf, but she's still with him.

I was going to talk with her, but now I'm thinking maybe not.. What's the point? Shes not going to stop.. Do you think Im making the right decision? Or should I meet up with her, and see what she has to say when I tell her its haram, and I want her to stay on the right path, and this isn't going to help her?

Wasalam

Aslaamu Alaaykum


As long as you have told her it is Haraam then you have done part of your job but do pray for her as she is following her desires clearly and know that her following them desires wont get her no benefit so still keep her in your Duas and that May Allaah subhanu Wa tala guides her!

For if she had known she would have stopped SubhaanAllaah and feared Allaah

If you are still able to talk with her tell her that that Allaah is watching you and that there shall be a day for where you will be questioned and you will be on your own with nobody to help you but your deeds infront of the Allmighty standing with shame, tell her to remind herself as death can approach the soul when Allaah wills!

And May Allaah have mercy on her and guide her to the true path, Ameen

And forgive me ive said anything wrong or bad

Wa Alaaykum Salaam

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Her parents know, but can't stop her. So thats just really upsetting to see!

why cant her parents stop her? this is odd as they are the ones in authority here.

I think I'm just going to stay away from her. She wants to continue the relationship. I don't want to have to do anything with it or her, best stay on the straight path, right? She knows I don't like the fact that she's got a bf, but she's still with him.

i think if you can use your friendship with her to your advantage and be clever about it, then you can stop her from committing this evil. how about something along the lines of putting a condition that she can see and talk to you if only she has left the guy. of course this could backfire as well, so you have to be clever about the way you go about it.

have you tried talking to her on a personal level and telling her how much you are concerned about her, rather then just preach?

 

[anonymous]

Salam everyone,

So, I met up with her today, and it was so sad. She was so upset, she knew that she had lost all the friends in our circle of friends. To be honest, I have missed her, because this is someone who I have been friends with for 7 years, and have helped her out more than anyone with everything, family problems, friendship problems etc.

I was clear with her, and told her how it really hurt to see a friend do something wrong and they know it. She told me this was something serious and that the guy also wanted to stop sinning but they weren't ready for marriage. She also said her mum knew, but hasn't said anything directly to her. Thats when I told her she's got two options, either stop seeing each other until marriage (she said that was harsh) or get engaged (which I think is highly unlikely to happen right now).

Im so confused. Part of me tells me to stay friends, not to abadon her, to stick with her, and to continue making duaa that Allah guides her, just feel like I shouldn't leave her, but the other part of me tells me that no, leave her, and its for the best. I don't want a bad name to be seen with someone whos goes out with a boy either. I don't know what to do.

She kept saying to me that I was a really good friend to her, and that she's so sorry for everything she's put me through. She talks to me normally now, like everythings ok, she knows I'm still against her having a bf. I told her how it was really upsetting, and that I had so much hope for her to stay on the right path, (all her sisters went down the wrong path), and I should add her dad left her mum too.

At the end of the day, I told her I couldn't force her, it was her life, she's going to answer back to Allah and it hurts to know that she's sinning.

Thank you all very much for reading this, and please advise me, now that I have told her how I feel. Should I ask her whether she would be prepared to leave the guy for Allah?

May Allah reward you for all your advice and help and grant you the highest of Jannat.
Jazkum Allah Khairan
Wasalam

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

Salam everyone,

So, I met up with her today, and it was so sad. She was so upset, she knew that she had lost all the friends in our circle of friends. To be honest, I have missed her, because this is someone who I have been friends with for 7 years, and have helped her out more than anyone with everything, family problems, friendship problems etc.

I was clear with her, and told her how it really hurt to see a friend do something wrong and they know it. She told me this was something serious and that the guy also wanted to stop sinning but they weren't ready for marriage. She also said her mum knew, but hasn't said anything directly to her. Thats when I told her she's got two options, either stop seeing each other until marriage (she said that was harsh) or get engaged (which I think is highly unlikely to happen right now).

Im so confused. Part of me tells me to stay friends, not to abadon her, to stick with her, and to continue making duaa that Allah guides her, just feel like I shouldn't leave her, but the other part of me tells me that no, leave her, and its for the best. I don't want a bad name to be seen with someone whos goes out with a boy either. I don't know what to do.

She kept saying to me that I was a really good friend to her, and that she's so sorry for everything she's put me through. She talks to me normally now, like everythings ok, she knows I'm still against her having a bf. I told her how it was really upsetting, and that I had so much hope for her to stay on the right path, (all her sisters went down the wrong path), and I should add her dad left her mum too.

At the end of the day, I told her I couldn't force her, it was her life, she's going to answer back to Allah and it hurts to know that she's sinning.

Thank you all very much for reading this, and please advise me, now that I have told her how I feel. Should I ask her whether she would be prepared to leave the guy for Allah?

May Allah reward you for all your advice and help and grant you the highest of Jannat.
Jazkum Allah Khairan
Wasalam

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, my sister she has caused this to herself. She decided to go against her friends, family and Allah all for having a haraam relationship with a guy. It is her who has made this decision and she has to pay the consequances for making that decision. She cannot expect everyone to be the same towards her when she is doing what she is doing. Therefore you must keep a distance from her but at the same time talk to her now and again giving her dawah towards the straight path and also send her fortnightly Islamic texts and e mails trying to instill the fear of Allah inside of her heart. You keeping a distance from her is the best way of her knowing that what she is doing is wrong/ If you decide to stay close to her then she will not feel that way.

She has to realise the seriousness of what she is doing. You should also make her realise that she will get very hurt and that she cannot expect anyone to pick up the pieces once she gets hurt because she has been told and warned so many times but she has decided to go against her friends, family and Allah. She has chosen him over everyone including Allah. Therefore sister you are doing the right thing by keeping a distance. Make the best of your own life and get as close to Allah as possible. It is a sign of a good Muslim when you hate what Allah has forbidden and you like what Allah has enjoined upon us to do.

Keep close to pious company and increase your worship of Allah especially because Ramadan is coming. Make dua for her that Allah gives her guidance and also continue to give her dawah only now and again and Islamic reminders in the form of texts and e mails.

and Allah knows best in all matters

 

[anonymous]

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, my sister she has caused this to herself. She decided to go against her friends, family and Allah all for having a haraam relationship with a guy. It is her who has made this decision and she has to pay the consequances for making that decision. She cannot expect everyone to be the same towards her when she is doing what she is doing. Therefore you must keep a distance from her but at the same time talk to her now and again giving her dawah towards the straight path and also send her fortnightly Islamic texts and e mails trying to instill the fear of Allah inside of her heart. You keeping a distance from her is the best way of her knowing that what she is doing is wrong/ If you decide to stay close to her then she will not feel that way.

She has to realise the seriousness of what she is doing. You should also make her realise that she will get very hurt and that she cannot expect anyone to pick up the pieces once she gets hurt because she has been told and warned so many times but she has decided to go against her friends, family and Allah. She has chosen him over everyone including Allah. Therefore sister you are doing the right thing by keeping a distance. Make the best of your own life and get as close to Allah as possible. It is a sign of a good Muslim when you hate what Allah has forbidden and you like what Allah has enjoined upon us to do.

Keep close to pious company and increase your worship of Allah especially because Ramadan is coming. Make dua for her that Allah gives her guidance and also continue to give her dawah only now and again and Islamic reminders in the form of texts and e mails.

and Allah knows best in all matters

Jazak Allahu Khairan brother. May Allah reward you abudantly for all your help and grant you Jannat-al-Firdaws. Your advice has helped me so much. I will take on the advice you have given me, and will send her texts and emails every now and then. It's quite hard because she seems to talk to me like Im still best friends with her on msn and I just try to stay away. I was abit silly at first, like yesterday, when I was being very soft and nice with her, and telling her not to worry, and helping her. She was letting alot of her feelings out, and I was being very comforting, but now I know thats not right. She did remind me by saying your a really good friend but don't forget what I put you through, but I was feeling too soft to say anything. Now, I've learnt - I will continue making duaa for her, and distance myself from her.

I really really appreciate all your help, and everyone else's of course. Jazakum-ullahu Khairan.

 

[cat eyes]

it must be so difficult but i think that her iman might be weak and she is desperately in need of dawah sister

i think you should stop talking to her totally so she can see that this evil path shes going down is not doing her any favors, because she will realise that nobody decent wants be around her. not talking to her and only emailing her once in a while might make her cop on

sis if she aint ready for marriage, this relation ain't going to last very long is it but she probably has it in her head that she wants to stretch this relationship out as possible until she is ready and then the guy will probably turn around and ditch her.

im sure you have already warned her of the dangers that she might get pregnant and things like this? this is if she falls in to zina of course well if she continues on meeting this boy it will more then likely happen

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

Jazak Allahu Khairan brother. May Allah reward you abudantly for all your help and grant you Jannat-al-Firdaws. Your advice has helped me so much. I will take on the advice you have given me, and will send her texts and emails every now and then. It's quite hard because she seems to talk to me like Im still best friends with her on msn and I just try to stay away. I was abit silly at first, like yesterday, when I was being very soft and nice with her, and telling her not to worry, and helping her. She was letting alot of her feelings out, and I was being very comforting, but now I know thats not right. She did remind me by saying your a really good friend but don't forget what I put you through, but I was feeling too soft to say anything. Now, I've learnt - I will continue making duaa for her, and distance myself from her.

I really really appreciate all your help, and everyone else's of course. Jazakum-ullahu Khairan.

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, trust me sister you are doing her a favour by distancing yourself because that way she will be more likely to realise that she cannot carry on this way. Make her realsie that not only has she lost her friends but what must her mother be going through and what about Allah. What does she feel when she knows that Allah is watching her and is angry with her. Tell her does she think that Allah will put blessings into her relationship with that guy? Tell her that she will get very hurt and that it will be all her own doing because she was warned.

You should tell her that if she and the guy are really serious about each other then they would involve their families and at least do nikah now and then ruksathee later. If she is not willing to do that then why is she with him? For pass time?

Make her feel ashamed of herself and show her no more sympathy. Give her dawah, send Islamic texts and e mails now and again and block her on msn so only you can see her online and maybe talk to her on there now and again giving her dawah only. Do not give her any sympathy because she has created this situation for herself and you should let her know whenever she tells you her problems that how does she expect to have blessings in her life when she is doing so much haraam?

Make her realise that she will never have peace in her heart and life with the way she is carrying on. Make the best of your life now and treat your family the best. Get close to Allah and worship him as much as you can for life is short and we will regret all the time we have wasted. Remember me in your duas to.

 

[anonymous]

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, trust me sister you are doing her a favour by distancing yourself because that way she will be more likely to realise that she cannot carry on this way. Make her realsie that not only has she lost her friends but what must her mother be going through and what about Allah. What does she feel when she knows that Allah is watching her and is angry with her. Tell her does she think that Allah will put blessings into her relationship with that guy? Tell her that she will get very hurt and that it will be all her own doing because she was warned.

You should tell her that if she and the guy are really serious about each other then they would involve their families and at least do nikah now and then ruksathee later. If she is not willing to do that then why is she with him? For pass time?

Make her feel ashamed of herself and show her no more sympathy. Give her dawah, send Islamic texts and e mails now and again and block her on msn so only you can see her online and maybe talk to her on there now and again giving her dawah only. Do not give her any sympathy because she has created this situation for herself and you should let her know whenever she tells you her problems that how does she expect to have blessings in her life when she is doing so much haraam?

Make her realise that she will never have peace in her heart and life with the way she is carrying on. Make the best of your life now and treat your family the best. Get close to Allah and worship him as much as you can for life is short and we will regret all the time we have wasted. Remember me in your duas to.

Assalamu-a'laikum,

Once again, jazak-Allahu Khairan for your reply. I spoke to her and I said everything that
you mentioned in your reply. And it got her really thinking, that she was on the verge of crying. I spoke to her about worldy desires, the Akhirah, Allah's anger upon her. It seems to have made a bit of progress. I then asked her again whether this was serious, not just teenage (she's 18) love. And when she said it was serious, I said well, then your halal option is to do the nikah. Thats when the problem of parents maybe disagreeing came in, and the fact that she's got an older sister. I've told her to do the Istikhara prayer and see the outcome. I gave her this website http://www.islamicacademy.org/html/Dua/How_to_do_Istakhara.htm. Do you think I did the right thing. After this, I also want to send and tell her more about Islam to get her to practise. (Yes, unfortunately, she's not a practsing muslima)

She's going to do istikhara tonight inshallaah and we will see tomorrow

May Allah reward you immensely for all your help. You are in my duas.

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Salam everyone,

So, I met up with her today, and it was so sad. She was so upset, she knew that she had lost all the friends in our circle of friends. To be honest, I have missed her, because this is someone who I have been friends with for 7 years, and have helped her out more than anyone with everything, family problems, friendship problems etc.

I was clear with her, and told her how it really hurt to see a friend do something wrong and they know it. She told me this was something serious and that the guy also wanted to stop sinning but they weren't ready for marriage. She also said her mum knew, but hasn't said anything directly to her. Thats when I told her she's got two options, either stop seeing each other until marriage (she said that was harsh) or get engaged (which I think is highly unlikely to happen right now).

Im so confused. Part of me tells me to stay friends, not to abadon her, to stick with her, and to continue making duaa that Allah guides her, just feel like I shouldn't leave her, but the other part of me tells me that no, leave her, and its for the best. I don't want a bad name to be seen with someone whos goes out with a boy either. I don't know what to do.

She kept saying to me that I was a really good friend to her, and that she's so sorry for everything she's put me through. She talks to me normally now, like everythings ok, she knows I'm still against her having a bf. I told her how it was really upsetting, and that I had so much hope for her to stay on the right path, (all her sisters went down the wrong path), and I should add her dad left her mum too.

At the end of the day, I told her I couldn't force her, it was her life, she's going to answer back to Allah and it hurts to know that she's sinning.

Thank you all very much for reading this, and please advise me, now that I have told her how I feel. Should I ask her whether she would be prepared to leave the guy for Allah?

May Allah reward you for all your advice and help and grant you the highest of Jannat.
Jazkum Allah Khairan
Wasalam

if she is making progress in regards to her iman and you feel you have a positive affect on her in regards to her iman, i say keep her (as long as it isn't affecting your own iman).

you said she thinks its harsh to separate from the guy, tell her its harsh, but it needs to be done an thats just life...we just need to pull outselves together and things actually arent always as daugting as we make them out to be, once we actually put the effort in.

with situations like this, if you want to change people, the best way to advice them is to let them hear something they like first (this will soften their hearts to whatever advice you need to give them) then you tell them what needs to be done. i dont know what your friend is like so im not sure if this will be the best advice, but if i was in that situation i would say something along the lines of "its normal and understandable to like someone, but it doesn't make it acceptable to act outside the permissible guidelines" whatever you feel will appeal to her, work though that.

remember, it doesn't always work to say "fear Allah" "there is an aakhira" etc...sometimes saying things indirectly appeals to people more because if they dont have that religious upbringing, then the minuete they hear "hell" "haram" etc then they will asscoaicte it with religion and shaytaan has this way on playing with peoples minds.

of course saying those things is just as affective and shouldn't be disregarded. shes your friend and you know her best, so just try to guide her according to what level of knowledge she is at.

sometimes its not good to leave these people because all their reality is, is that they are screaming for help. as long as it isn't affecting your iman, upsetting your parents and as long as they are making progress in improving i say stick with them, not as a friend but as someone who wants the best for them and tries to guide them <--- note the difference.

when you are advising her, you aren't only doing so as her friend, you are doing it as a sister in Islam who is worried about her...you are giving dawah to her and the da3ee does not/shouldn't give up easily. be firm with her when/if needed and be kind with her if/when needed.

all the best.

 

[Hamza Asadullah]

Assalamu-a'laikum,

Once again, jazak-Allahu Khairan for your reply. I spoke to her and I said everything that
you mentioned in your reply. And it got her really thinking, that she was on the verge of crying. I spoke to her about worldy desires, the Akhirah, Allah's anger upon her. It seems to have made a bit of progress. I then asked her again whether this was serious, not just teenage (she's 18) love. And when she said it was serious, I said well, then your halal option is to do the nikah. Thats when the problem of parents maybe disagreeing came in, and the fact that she's got an older sister. I've told her to do the Istikhara prayer and see the outcome. I gave her this website http://www.islamicacademy.org/html/Dua/How_to_do_Istakhara.htm. Do you think I did the right thing. After this, I also want to send and tell her more about Islam to get her to practise. (Yes, unfortunately, she's not a practsing muslima)

She's going to do istikhara tonight inshallaah and we will see tomorrow

May Allah reward you immensely for all your help. You are in my duas.

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, you should continue to try and instill the fear of Allah inside of her heart and to make her realise that our time here is short and this life is only but a few hours in comparison with the hereafter. You should also make her realise that if she actually wants to have a future with this boy then she is certainly going to ruin that if she continues to have this haraam relationship with him. You should emphasise to her that she MUST get both families involved as soon as is possible because there is no point hiding behind the fact that his or her parents may not agree. The longer she leaves it then the worse it is going to get for her. She has to face this now and not waste a second more having this haraam relationship otherwise there will NEVER be any blessings or any possibility of a future for both of them.

So she must realise that she must do things the right way if she wants any hope of a future with this boy. That means that she must involve both families straight away and stop interactions with him. She needs top reaslise that she is being very naive and foolish in pursuing this when she knows it is wrong. She also needs to know that she will get very hurt if she does not do things the right way now. Now is her chance to try and do things the right way and if she refuses then she will have to pay the consequances later on.

She needs to sacrifice in order to put the wrongs she has done right. You must also tell her that once both families are in touch and she has stopped all interactions with him then she can make isthikhara a few times and make dua to Allah to do what is best. Then she should rely upon Allah and whatever is best for her will happen. She should realise that continuing to see him will endanger any hope of them being together in the future and will continue to anger Allah and what if she were to die in this state? What would become of her?

You must be firm with her in this and not be sympathetic because she must realise that she cannot continue this wrong that she is doing. She should also realise that you trying to stop her is a blessing from Allah for her because most girls and boys nowadays who are in relationships do not even have any positive influences in their lives to try and stop them from doing haraam.

Try your best to instill the fear of Allah into her heart and tell her not to waste her youth for worship ion ones youth is the best of all worship and once her youth is gone then she will regret it forever for wasting it on these haraam pursuits which will only give her pain and anguish.

Tell her Allah wants her close to him and that she should do things the right way immediatley and repent to Allah sincerely with the intention of never repeating such a grave sin . Ramadhan is coming so this is the best time for her to change her ways now and then dewvelop her imaan and deen throughout Ramadhan.

You must emphasise to her the importance of Salaah and that it is the purpose of our life. This thread will help her to understand the importance of Salaah and also suggest a Salaah plan that she can follow so she can eventually begin to pray Salaah at a steady pace:

Not praying Salaah 5 times a day? Here's the solution!

http://www.islamicboard.com/worship...raying-salaah-5-times-day-heres-solution.html


Here are also some very beneficial lectures on death and the hereafter which you should make her listen to, to increase her imaan and fear of Allah:


Angel of Death!!! - Sheikh Ahmed Ali

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzRJXlB2uA

Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 1/4]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ieX7ZQtHl0s

Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 2/4]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KK_2sVGMW08

Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 3/4]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpmzA2hk1Bo

Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 4/4]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=km39GfL62TQ

Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - The Journey of the Soul

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wAwHEXE3-n0


HARD HITTING Lecture on HELLFIRE & the Day of JUDGEMENT! يوم القيامة والجحيم

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0O6L_fBk7VM

Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 1/3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWTehIeCOUU

Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 2/3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXTtk7rWx_U

Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 3/3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmiD86w9fBc


Islam - Punishment of the Grave by Sheikh Riyadh ul Haq

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWb-hYIm2WE

Death and the Grave by Murtaza Khan

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7r2nzJVecqo

How can we not appreciate what we have after watching this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkEBUC0APMg


and Allah knows best in all matters